for some people, this is "common sense" but actually, it isn't! cleaning and organizing are a specific set of habits and skills that need to be developed, honed and implemented regularly. very few of us should actually be exempt.
some people have had everything cleaned and organized for them, right up until their caretaker stopped. that can leave people floundering, trying to become independent without basic life skills. ive seen people who come from backgrounds like this get kneecapped bad by their own messes.
it might be tough to convince people like this that cleaning is as necessary as it really is, and they will be intimidated by the task. mess seems insurmountable to a first-timer.
be patient and compassionate, because someone failed them in telling them they don't need to know how to care for themself. it can be difficult to rise above that programming, but it is entirely possible. i say let people who are too proud to clean wallow in their own mess, unhappily and alone.
and, yes: executive dysfunction, common in people with depression, adhd and autism, often results in chore incompetence. yelling at someone over not cleaning/being bad at cleaning will not help solve the issue. they may have to be taught, patiently, but that doesn't mean someone can't or shouldn't clean.
some people have had traumatic experiences based around chores and cleaning that prevent them from cleaning. same answer. you're going to have to do it if you want to survive.
lots of people are raised being told cleaning is all they are good for. that its their role, that they will need to clean up after others (who should not have to for some reason or another) thanklessly for their entire lives. that's horrific, burdensome, and entirely unjustifiable.
a person is a messy thing, it is human to make messes and waste. it is not a shameful thing, it's normal! but the weight of your trash, your laundry, your dishes, is a horrible thing to put entirely on another person. your mess can and will strain and shatter your relationships.
"you're better at it" might be true at times, but it is an excuse at best. at worst, a manipulation tactic employed by people who think they're above cleaning their own homes.
everyone should clean up after themself if they're able. anyone can clean, any other take is all myth.
you have to work out whats best for you with your partner/family/housemates and your health and schedules, but basically nobody would choose uncompensated/under-compensated, difficult labor over leisure. just be fair when it comes to division of household labor, especially if you love and respect someone you live with. find the time, muster all the strength you need, and wash the dishes for them.
we might all come from different places when it comes to our cleaning habits, but we all need a clean living space.
no need to be what i call "mom" clean, your house should look like someone actually lives there and uses it for living. just keep things clean enough to stay sanitary, and save your sanity by being able to keep track of your things.
get clean once, and then try to maintain it. clean "passively": throw trash out immediately, put your clothes in different baskets instead of on the floor or a chair, do what you can to make things easier on yourself in the future.
maintaining your home is difficult and tiring, but its crucial to your health and survival. building up skills and habits that seem small, completing little tasks, it all builds up in a way that helps you problem solve better in your daily life. its a bit abstract to some people, but it makes you healthier and more efficient. it makes you happier.
if you live with housemates, roll up your sleeves and start cleaning together. if you live on your own, clean at your leisure but get at it. take personal responsibility for the messes you make and get at 'er. š¤ āš¾
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