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I watched SFaWTDE and I have some thoughts
warning: angst
ever heard the phrase ācanary in a coal mineā? for some reason, it makes me think of D3r. and when I think more, it fits. He was at the crossroads in this world long before Ave. He suffered and made mistakes before Ave.
He was there.
He was a warning. A living, breathing(?) testament to what could and would go wrong. And Ave was one stupid miner.
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Verified: Microsoft 365 gets massive 45% price hike ā and it's all to do with AI tools (Tom's Guide - January 17, 2025)
oopsie i tripped and spilled my link to archive dot org's downloadable copy of Microsoft office suite for 2007, which features no AI tools and is a powerful word processor that still holds up just fine on windows 10!
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(forgot what I was gonna say nvm)
she cookie on my run till I kingdom
I hope Black girls with anxiety have a good day today.
I hope Black girls with depression have a good day today.
I hope black girls with PTSD have a good day
I hope black girls with body dysmorphia have a good day
I hope black girls with verbally abusive parents gave a good day
I hope autistic black girls and black girls with ADHD have a good day
I hope black girls with schizospec and/or personality disoders have a good day today
i hope all mentally ill and or disabled black girls have a good day
I hope chronically ill & people pleasing Black girls have a good day today š«
I hope you had a good day
Im gonna rizz Microsoft copilot
WARNING do NOT start reading books and comics or watching movies or looking at art!!! you will start wanting to create art yourself. or god forbid. writing.
Iām inflicted help
it would suck being a new immortal. like itād be 2109 and people would go,Ā āwhat was it like seeing ancient civilizations rise and fall like that? seeing the pyramids being built? watching the expansion and growth of the new world?ā and iād just be like,Ā ānoā¦no i was born in 1991. so like, wow iām gonna see some cool stuff, but, i mean iām not that much older than just a really, really old person, you know? phones were big back then. so big. but only for like ten years, then they got like, as good as they are now. uh. rhinos existed. donāt think i ever saw one in person. cool, good talk.ā
even worse, imagine being an immortal who keeps missing stuff.Ā āWhat was it like seeing the pyramids being built?ā āFuck if I know, I was in Madagascar.ā āOh, okay. Well, how was the Renaissance?ā āI fell down a hole in Scotland and people thought I was an enchanted well for four hundred years, it was over by the time I convinced someone to get me out.ā
And now, a lesson in biases:
We barely know anything about Madagascar pre-500CE. We donāt even know whether the island had a permanent population before then, despite finding a bunch of much older signs of temporary human presence.
Malagasy mythology makes mention of the vazimba, a āprecursorā ethnic group that might or might not be distinct from Madagascarās current population.
The point is, we do not know.
So you were in Madagascar when the pyramids were being built in Egypt, i.e. during one of the most obscure, most undocumented parts of Madagascarās human history?
Oh, buddy, you better go and make a bunch of anthropologists and archeologists really happy RIGHT NOW instead of feeling bad about missing everyone elseās pet Major Event.
Itās been a decade since we left that comment and you have the best reply anyoneās left to it.
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what if (hear me out)
worry not my lord, allow me to unscrew that jar for you. i would not want for you to strain your hand or break a nail. alright. hmm. HMMMM. HNNNGRGHHHHHH. HNNGGHHHH HRRRRRGHHH. AAAAAARGHHHHHHH fucking. squire fetch me my grippy gloves
squire it seems this requires military force
How Do You Deal With Your Partner Fucking Someone Else?
My wife went on a cute date this week with a partner she hasn't gotten to connect with recently and they both brought each other flowers. My boyfriend is completely overcome and being a useless lesbian (their words) about a cute enby who has been flirting with them via text for months but is finally in town this week.
When I have done educational work around non-monogamy a question I get a lot is basically how I cope with the overwhelming terrible feelings associated with imagining my partner having sex with other people. I struggle to answer this question because I do not have overwhelming terrible feelings when I imagine my partner having sex with other people but also I do not choose to imagine this very often. I do not have either curiosity or horror about this topic. Mostly I feel that it is generally not my business.
Most often when people say "I couldn't do that!" my answer is then you shouldn't. If you are not interested in non-monogamy you shouldn't do it. I love that my wife and her partner gave each other flowers and I love that my boyfriend is a useless lesbian. I think this is adorable. I'm having my coffee and feel warm inside because it reminds me how in love I am with both of these sweet humans. But there are many people who do not have this response and are still attracted to non-monogamy, and "just have the correct, enlightened feelings" is a shitty and too-common answer.
Another answer to this question is that I most often relate to my partners' other relationships from the stance of being their friend, rather than their lover. When my wife tells me she's in a dry spell with another partner, I am concerned because I want my friend to have a healthy and satisfying relationship, and when she tells me the dry spell is over I am excited because I want my friend to have a healthy and satisfying relationship. I do not think about what that means mechanically in the same way I also do not imagine in detail any other friend having sex.
Another answer to this question is that I think of my relationships as existing within an ecological space in which all relationships affect one another. My girlfriend's other relationships being in a good place means that our entire relational ecosystem is healthier. Her being in conflict with someone, whether it's a partner or her mom, introduces conflict into the ecosystem, so I have an interest in supporting her other relationships being healthy. Her peace and security and satisfaction are my peace and security and satisfaction. If that comes from her getting railed by some dude on Grindr, her need is my need.
Another answer to this question is that I am extremely comfortable with my own jealousy and can let it arise and pass without leaving a mess. I am not afraid of jealousy or anger or other big feelings and can acknowledge them to myself and to partners without a sense of terror or obligation or shame. I will note, good management of big feelings does not make these feelings smaller or more pleasant. I feel like I have done a good job managing a big feeling when I react in a way that does not generate a new, avoidable second problem.
Another answer to this question is that I understand jealousy as pointing to an unmet need that I have and I can generally address that unmet need without reference to the other relationship and usually without conflict. If I'm jealous that my partner is seeking casual hookups rather than having sex with me, I'm actually upset that we aren't having more sex--that ultimately has nothing to do with whether she is also cruising on the apps. I can address that by saying "I'd like us to have more sex" and then if she's amenable to that, doing things that make space for us to have more sex, like being more flirtatious and scheduling dates in ways that increase the potential for sexual connection. Reframing jealousy as actionable desire reduces resentment dramatically (this is also something I'm working on generally--what if desire is not painful deprivation but in fact the first ingredient to basically all pleasure???).
Sometimes it's not actionable. Sometimes my partner is having sex with someone else and does not wish to have sex with me. Sometimes my partner is publicly attached to another partner but unwilling to be public with me because they are not out to their parents yet. Sometimes my partner is moving in with their other sweetie and would not wish to live with me. Sometimes my partner is married to someone else and would not marry me even if it were legal or they would, but it's not. And in that situation I most often privately validate that there is grief about not having sex or domesticity or validation that I want, and I decide whether the relationship overall is something I want given that it has that feeling in it. I am clear with myself about which unmet needs I am willing to leave permanently unmet in a given relationship and overall, and I hold the responsibility for that decision, which allows me to relate to each partner on the level of what they are actually offering, without resentment. If I do not want what they are offering, I leave.
Another answer to this question is that I struggled a lot more with jealousy and resentment when I dated people who treated me like shit, and when I hated myself and felt like I was worthless. Now that I am in the habit of forming secure, trusting relationships with people who treat me with respect, difficult jealousy just doesn't come up very often. A lot of what drove my unpleasant reactions in earlier relationships was that I genuinely could not rely on my partners to be honest or kind. Now that I can, it's easier to relax.
Another answer to this question is I have worked pretty hard to base my sense of self worth on something other than being sexually desired by others and to construct relational spaces where everyone feels like they can assert their genuine needs, even when it means not connecting intimately. When I felt like my entire worth as a person was whether I was fuckable (to everyone at all times), sexual or romantic rejection felt like being totally worthless as a person and a dry spell was catastrophic to my well-being. So did anyone's interest in not-me, because why aren't they interested in me? Now I am able to accept someone declining sex or rescheduling a date or not wanting to date me at all or wanting someone who isn't me without it feeling like a total judgment of who I am as a person.
Another answer to this question is that there are times when jealousy clouds issues in ways that make it difficult to judge what to do, especially in the case of abuse within the relational ecosystem. Controlling relationships seem to generate more jealousy than healthy ones--jealousy can justify isolation tactics, and isolation can generate jealousy. But subjectively it's hard to distinguish "I feel jealous about the time you're spending with this person" from "this person is intentionally undermining your relationship with others, and I happen to be one of those people." The best answer I have for this is that I try to cultivate relational spaces where jealousy and fear and unmet needs can get discussed without generating blame or obligation, and where there's a high level of trust that a person is raising issues honestly and not to manipulate. But honestly, when there's an abusive relationship in the ecosystem, it fucks everything up for a while, and there's probably no way to respond that makes that not happen.
Often people lean toward things like strict rules to manage difficult feelings in non-monogamy and tbh I think often if you're having a really hard time with your non-monogamous partner, the first step is like, does this person consistently act like they like you and want you to be having a good time? A TON of the time when I see people struggling to make non-monogamy work and generating baroque communication strategies and rulesets to fix their relationship, and especially when they say that actually this is just How Responsible Non-Monogamy Is, it seems like their main problem is that they are dating total assholes. Healthy non-monogamy should not require hours-per-week of bomb defusal, and if you are constantly marshaling delicate, white-knuckle effort to get your partner to stop hurting you, you should consider not dating them anymore.
this post is dedicated forevermore to three people i just saw tonight outside the gay club in the most beautiful interaction of beautiful people iāve ever seen in my life. it was so beautiful i had to come here to talk about it. like actually writing it out is fucking insane. let me set the scene: two of the hottest men iāve ever seen in my life were making out with each other outside the gay clubā¦and then picture the HOTTEST woman, i mean quite literally the fucking SEXIEST, jaw-dropping, smoothest skin, nicest-smelling woman running up to the both of them from out of nowhere, i donāt even know where she came from ā literally she probably descended from heaven itself (or from the inside of the club and i didnāt see her come out lmao)ā¦the two men see her out of the corner of their eyes, their eyes fucking LIGHT UP when they see her. and not in like a bestie way, like an āiām in loveā way. oh bitch they both had it BAD for her. and THEN!!!! they passionately kissedā¦ALL THREE OF THEM!!! THEY HAD HER PUSHED AGAINST THE WALL TAKING TURNS KISSING HER!!! and then like the ethereal creatures of the night they were, they locked hands with her, and walked away into the foggy night hand-in-hand togetherā¦one of the men gently tucked one of her locs behind her ear and called her princess as they walked awayā¦i would like to personally say, i am a better person for having watched that interaction. thank you. your life is a movie and i was so glad i got to be an extra in that moment. this is the future liberals want and all that
Hey, four fifths of my polycule saw you from across the bar and think you're cute. The other one thinks you're fuck ugly.
Hey, four fifths of my polycule saw you from across the bar and think you're cute. The other one thinks you're fuck ugly.
this made me wonder if this is ever like an actual problem
like of course something similar is but it also reminds me:
how do poly people break up
is it like that one post where you vote to em out??? Like among us?? Remeber the normal polycule applicant thing?? How??
What most people think the challenges of polyamory are: jealousy, lack of commitment, insecurity.
What better-informed people think the challenges of polyamory are: calendar management, social stigma.
What the challenges of polyamory actually are: when your husband and your lover bond over classical music, and your lover suggests to your husband that he would really enjoy Stravinsky. And it turns out your husband does really enjoy Stravinsky, but unfortunately with the exception of the opening bit of Firebird, which is OK, you fucking hate Stravinsky. And the background music of your life is Stravinsky for months on end because your husband loves Stravinsky now. So even when the three of you meet up together it turns into Stravinsky Fan Club Time. Plus a third wheel of you.
howdy hey :3
Iām sending Nintendo a feedback form of stuff they could add to TL:LTD, would it be okay if I included a screenshot of ur post about it? Or is that not okay? Thanksies :3
Yes, but please include the reblog that discusses disability [link], or just screenshot this ask instead!
Issues with TL:LTD!
1- No option to select "don't fall in love with this person" in the menu. The only wat to prevent people from falling in love is by putting them down as family, but that can make the family trees in the game weird (ie; what if you want Mii A and Mii B to date, but you selected Mii C as the family of them both, so A & B think they're related, and won't date each other? It's just annoying, the players should have the ability to just bar off certain Miis from falling in love with each other without having to turn them into family.)
2- No polyamory.
Solution: in the character creation, make these options
-Closed monogamous (wants a monogamous partner)
-Open monogamous (doesn't mind having a polyamorous partner)
-Ambiamorous (fine with polyamory or monogamy. Add a partner amount or a "no limit" option for the possibility of polyamory occuring.)
-Polyamorous (and then you'd select how many partners the character is interested in having, or a "no limit" option.)
Then, if a character has a partner, and falls for someone else, you have them ask you "I want to pursue [insert character]. Should I talk to [current partners] about it?" and then you can encourage or discourage them, and if you encourage them, then you get a little cutscene of them talking to their current partners about wanting to add a new member to the relationship. The current partner either accepts or declines, based on their personal feelings towards their partners other crush.
"But I like the cutscenes of them fighting over the person!" That could still happen, if the miis dislike each other, or one of them has the "closed monogamy" setting on.
2- All binary characters are default straight & gender conforming. Yes, you can change that in the menu, but there just shouldn't be a default in the first place.
3- Mii babies are always boys or girls, which reinforces negative stereotypes about how nonbinary is something that happens "later in life" rather than something kids can be.
4- No ability to make multigender characters. You cannot make a character female and nonbinary, male and nonbinary, female & male & nonbinary, etc. I get that they probably did this because they wanted an easier time determining what characters would be attracted to who, but I pose that if a character is attracted to women, and another character has "woman" as one of their genders, let them get a crush! (Or if you're so worried about it, have it where only people attracted to both women & enben can get a crush on someone with both those options selected.)
5- No ability to select multiple pronouns and create neopronouns.
6- No wheelchairs, walkers, rollators, canes, crutches, or prosthetics.
7- No ability to customize limbs/make amputees.
8- No ability to make asymmetrical features or customize individual eyes (so no heterochromia, no making one eye bigger than the other, etc.)
9- No ability to make characters mute, blind, or deaf. The mute one would be especially easy, you could just make them play every other game except for no repeats! And you could give options for mute or deaf characters to use AACs or write on notebooks! Like "Would you like this Mii to write, use an AAC, or communicate through gestures?" and you either select one of the options, or all of the options. There should also be semi-verbal options, where they speak sometimes, but not other times!
10- This is more nitpicky, but I actually would like it if you could choose to keep Mii babies...well, babies. Like, if the game asked you "Remain baby mode?" and if you said "no," then it does the classic cutscene. But if you said "yes", then you get to help your Miis raise their baby every day.
11- Why can't you select multiple personality quirks in each segment, and the character rotates between them? For example, if I select a mii to walk like a rodeo rider and walk shyly, it should rotate between both, not have me go into the mii menu to select between them. They already let you select multiple mii quirks in the random set, so why won't they let you do that for the walking set, standing set, etc?
Good post but all I can think about is shy rodeo rider mii living their best life
