See, there is quite a lot of material we can work with here. A lot of arguments that you have presented, and a lot of superficially complex analysis and parallelisms that you truly believe shall seal such an interaction—each to their own, then. I ought to leave you to your viewpoints.
What seizes my attention, though, what is the fundamental of practically all your posts regarding Tomarrymort, the pattern which is easily recognisable because it is born from spite—is your attitude towards the ship itself, always backed up with the same argument:
This is, if you have not noticed, a fanon ship. As in, not canon. As in, Rowling did not write, in any page, that Voldemort and Harry had a secret relationship, or that they professed their love for each other during the final battle, or that they ran away together under a secret identity. The Tomarrymort ship is based on the canon potential it has—for which, I shall note, you have the right not to ask proof, for everybody you have ever argued with has endlessly provided you with such, and the tomarrymort spaces you regularly frequent have it all explained and analysed—which is infinitely stronger, more solid, and closer to the actual psychology of a real human being, whose obsession are almost never explained, or rational, or rigid, than your own ship, which had the (mis)fortune of falling in the hands of fanfiction writers with resources, backed up by an author’s desire to bring to light new ideas (and more exposure, and more relevance to her work. Which, she already had, but it is never quite enough.) New ideas that entirely contradict whatever she has said about Voldemort’s character, and his arc, and his persona. But, yay, Bella and Voldemort! A man who views power as the ultimate weapon reduced to the level of a woman who has no problem worshipping another. Why would Voldemort keep by his side a human who has let herself be commanded, (even if that person is him, because it’s not about who it is but about the route Bella takes, as a follower. Voldemort wants followers to use, not followers to be his equal.) But then, again, each to their own. Getting back to the word rigid I used earlier—Rigid, as in, the bad guy of the story has to end up with the equally bad girl, because this is a kid’s show and we have to present the ordinary notion of bad&bad vs. good&good. (Even My Little Pony disregarded such juvenile routes, Fluttershy loved Discord.)
You provided a passage of the book, and I gave a possible interpretation of it—because, you know, not everything must mean what is physically printed, for to do such a thing would quite literally erase the entirety of literature and professionals’ work over analysing books. You cannot attempt to shatter my interpretation of a thing which can take any form, by saying to provide proof, to give clear citations, because I am not claiming something which needs to be canon, or confirmed by the author. I mean, you’d have to sue Freud and quite possibly all of the psychoanalysts.
Despite all, you still manage to contradict yourself immediately after.
Harry calls himself a coward because he fails to meet his own ethical standard, which says all suffering creatures deserve compassion regardless of how repulsive they appear.
Shall we, inspired by your tendencies, repeat your own words? Quote it. Show me the sentence. Where does it say that this is Harry’s ethical standard? Where does it say this is the ethical standard? Show it to me! What you have said is nowhere cited in the book, because it is your interpretation of a certain situation. Therefore, I do not consider it a valid argument, therefore Harry’s ethical standard is not this, but something completely different—because the author did not explicitly state everything.
The things that are not stated, are up to fanon interpretation, which gives life to fanon ships, and headcanons, et cetera, et cetera. If you are against those, you might want to delete your blog, because this is what fandom spaces are for. You cannot diminish their core by asking for ‘proof’—you can only give arguments against the interpretations themselves. Which you never do, ‘cause you don’t analyse beyond shallow thoughts and delusional claims.
A man who walks past a homeless person and feels guilty did so because he thinks he should have helped. He hardly did so because he was suppressing some secret romantic yearning for the homeless person lol
I did say I wasn’t going to scrutinise your arguments because you’ll simply reply to them again, since your backup is always ‘Quote it! Show me where Rowling said that V and Harry secretly planned to commit genocide, or burn in hell!’ but this parallelism was so silly I couldn’t help myself. An irrelevant example—the guilt of the man against the homeless person is the hollowest of guilts, for he has no relation, whatsoever, to that person. Perhaps it is worth mentioning that Voldemort and Harry shared a piece of Voldemort’s soul (since you like to put emphasis on that, which you don’t realise just reinforces Tomarrymort’s potential, for its intimacy is brutal) and Voldemort was not ‘a man Harry saw as he was walking down the street’.
As for, “Their incompatibility is demonstrated a hundred times in the books”—yes, you’re correct. A single incompatibility of theirs is infinitely more impactful than all the (nonexistent) compatibilities between Voldemort and Bellatrix.