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Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

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Just because you may be able to gauge someone’s reasons for doing something (and you may be quite accurate. Your analyses may be spot-on) doesn’t mean you need to try every time. It’s intelligent to be able to understand someone’s motivations, but it’s even more intelligent to realize when there’s nothing to gain from trying to rationalize why something was done. Is agonizing over the “why” only causing you pain? Give yourself permission not to wonder. Devoting too much time to trying to read the minds of other adults will drive you crazy. Instead, point that high powered perception at yourself. What are your needs, and how might they be met?

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Life lately

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Reparenting Affirmations for an Inner Child

I am so glad you were born.

You are a good person.

I love who you are and am doing my best to always be on your side.

You can come to me whenever you’re feeling hurt or bad.

You do not have to be perfect to get my love and protection.

All of your feelings are okay with me.

I am always glad to see you.

It is okay for you to be angry and I won’t let you hurt yourself or others when you are.

You can make mistakes - they are your teachers.

You can know what you need and ask for help.

You can have your own preferences and tastes.

You are a delight to my eyes.

You can choose your own values.

You can pick your own friends, and you don’t have to like everyone.

You can sometimes feel confused and ambivalent, and not know all the answers.

I am very proud of you.

– Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker

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*doesn’t show affection* oh no, I’m making things awkward!!

*shows affection* oh no, I’m making things awkward!!

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*doesn’t show affection* oh no, I’m being distant and cold!!

*shows affection* oh no, I’m being clingy and overbearing!!

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This is how my brain has worked for three decades, but I’ve recently tried actually being affectionate and pretending like that’s fine and okay, and friends, they’ve all been affectionate back and it is lovely and my life is full of love and all the problems listed above are just anxiety trying to sabotage you and you should love freely and without shame

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Uno, dos, stress

3 days post op I'm a proud but tired rat mom

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“The key to success and productivity isn’t to try to maximize every single minute in the day, but to spend at least a portion of the day focusing on the things that are most important.”

— Steven Handel, Small Habits, Big Changes

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How to get back to being a healthy INFP

1. Spend several days alone with minimal contact with people

2. Listen to music that first matches your mood then gets progressively more positive or energetic.

3. Exercise. Preferably walking because appreciating nature helps.

4. Do something spontaneous with just yourself. Example: walk to the nearest library, music store, movie theater, used bookstore and spend time there.

5. Think about other peoples patterns. Slowly involve yourself with people again.

6. Plan something fun. As a P it can be stressful sometimes to leave all the planning to the Js.

7. Pick up a new hobby or do an old hobby you forgot about.

8. Dress up and look good while with friends.

9. Read or listen to something that makes you more self-aware aka, have a good cry.

10. Find the joy in each day.