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i am going to talk now about the mischaracterisation of dnf in fanfic and how it can be extremely harmful, especially the hyper-feminisation of george and the hyper-masculinisation of dream.
firstly, i’d like to heed out warnings so no one misinterprets my words. i have nothing against feminine men. i think we should normalise men being feminine. i think it’s great for men to wear dresses and makeup and all that shit. any men. this is not targeted towards every single person in the dnf fanfic writer community or even everyone who feminises george. also would like to make it clear that all of these are about cc!georgenotfound and cc!dream, not their dsmp characters or any fictional characters they portray/based on them.
now, on that note, i don’t think it’s the wisest thing to do it to george. it’s not always harmful when george is feminised. ive seen people do it respectfully before. most times, however, it can come off as incredibly offensive.
because of its massive popularity, i feel like there’s a non-insignificant amount of people that feel the need to make dnf so heteronormative. dream man, george girl.
some of the most popular tropes in the fanfic side of dnfers are so, so rooted in weird gay-fetishisation and handing george the traditionally feminine role and dream the traditionally male role.
dream mentions he used to play american football in high school? suddenly there’s hundreds of quarterback dream and cheerleader george fanfics. and there’s nothing bad about male cheerleaders! but where on earth is george cheerleader potential. he can barely walk without falling on his face. do you know how physically exhausting and trying cheerleading is!??!? it’s a difficult sport. feel free to make dream a jock, because he is! he loves american football! he played multiple sports in school! just don’t make george into something he isn’t. he used to play tennis- so make him a sports kid, too. he plays guitar, he used to be in band. he liked fucking computer science. put him in the robotics team. FUCK IT! make him all three. because he was all three. dream was also into coding, and dream was into reading, as well as sports! feel free to write him as such! they’re more than just one thing!
i’m sick of seeing fanfic that makes george into a helpless little maiden in need of saving and dream his possessive little boyfriend that is prone to violence. neither of them are that! dream is not particularly violent! he is actually quite sweet and gentle. george has some spark in him. he will be a bitch if needed. he can fight his own battles, even if he doesn’t feel a need to. turning them into these caricatures of what they really are is so harmful because they’re deeply rooted in misogyny AND homophobia.
why can’t two men just be can’t be two men dating? why does one of them has to be female-coded and male-coded? and why is the female-coded one always perceived as weak, helpless, useless without his big strong boyfriend to fight for him?
why must george be the one who’s always a virgin and has never kissed and needs the help of big-bad-experienced dream to teach him how to be a ‘real man’? like sure. dream has had like 3 girlfriends before. george has had one. and?
it’s just strange to me how it’s almost always george in specific that’s hyper feminine. it makes more sense for it to be dream (and even then, i’d be better if it’s neither). he’s worn a dress and makeup, and described himself as “beautiful” when doing it. he likes fanart of him in skirts and dresses and he’s said he used to accessorise and paint his nails and dye his hair. georgenotfound has addressed feminine stuff once and it was by being uncomfortable at the suggestion of wearing a maid dress.
i am just asking for people to do some inner searching on why is it that george is the one that gets feminised most often, and come to the conclusion that it’s mainly just stereotypes of small gay men (which george isn’t even!). people are just so convinced he’s a twink gay boy that they give him twink gay boy stereotypes! and for WHAT!
like yes, dream is taller and generally louder and more agressive and he feeds into the size thing. george is small and has generally some gentler physical mannerisms. that doesn’t mean dream is the man and george is the girl because they’re both men, and that’s okay.
the whole point of two men dating is that there’s no women! there’s nothing wrong with an extremely traditionally masculine man dating an extremely traditionally feminine man! but that’s not who george and dream are. neither of them are hyper masculine OR hyper feminine.
dream is also incredibly sweet, and he loves cats and has a great relationship with his mother and his little sister. he loves reading ya books and he has what is considered a girly music taste. he listens to melanie martinez, and one direction, and ariana grande! and that’s okay!!! he’s not this super-internalised homophobia-kinda misogynistic womaniser some of these fics make him out to be. he’s not your typical toxic gamer boy! and that’s OKAY!
george is a whole grown 24 year old man with dick and balls!!! he was a HYPE BEAST FOR CRYING OUT LOUD! he’s not helpless. he bickers with his friends constantly. he breaks plates for fun and has the dirtiest mind out of the dream team and he once drank his own bath water with coke in it! and good for him! good for him! i’m begging people to stop making him this tiny little princess character they’ve made up in their mind.
and the thing that irks me the most about it is that it’s so dehumanising. it’s taking all the personality off of dream and george and replacing them with this fantasised and, honestly, stereotyped and fetishised version of them who happen to have the same looks somewhat and also the same name.
what makes dnf so compelling is the fact that they’re real people with real personalities. they both have more traditionally feminine behaviours AND traditionally masculine behaviours. and that’s what makes them people. that’s what makes their dynamic interesting. the fact they have sometimes contradicting aspects of their personalities and the fact that they’re so layered and can be multiple things at once. stop making stereotypes out of people. they deserve so much more.
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