for some reason people don'tĀ know this but toxic friends can mirror all the same behaviors as seen in an abusive romantic partner. i will use my own story of my ex-high school best friend who abused me for several years. signs of abuse include but are not limited to:
Humiliating or embarrassing you - my ex-best friend LOVED to try and make me squirm in any way possible to see my reaction. once she went up to a guy and told him i had a crush on him to watch me struggle to explain myself
Unreasonable jealousy - if i so much as went to hang out with any of my other friends i would have to let my ex-best friend know beforehand. i pretty much had to get her permission to see other people or she would be convinced that i was āditching her foreverā
Refusing to communicate - if she was everĀ angry with me or upset she would never tell me that so we could talk about it. instead, she would ignore me or respond to all my texts withĀ ākā orĀ āyaā and i would have to struggle for hours to get her to tell me what was wrong
Ignoring or excluding you - she would ignore me for weeks at a time as a āpunishmentā knowing that it would eat me up inside wondering what i did wrong. iĀ still remember spending nights wide awake crying in bed because i didnāt know what to doĀ
Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you - she would constantly poke fun at my appearanceĀ and personality to where my self-confidence plummeted.Ā god help me if i ever said anything about her though
Saying things like āIf you donāt _____, I will_____.ā - she would constantly threaten to kill herself if i didn'tĀ do what she wanted
Guilt trips - she never apologizedĀ once to me in our seven-plus years of being friends. not once. every timeĀ we argued i would be the one whoĀ apologized in the end. once when i stood up to her and called her out on treating me like crap she would make up a story of how her life was miserable and that i was making things worseĀ
Isolating you from friends and family - been mentioned before but she was extremely jealous of all my other relationships and would override my plans with other people on purpose and would guilt trip me if iĀ still went to see them
Ā Domination and control - also mentioned before but i needed her permission on everything. if i joined any group or extracurricular activity without her knowing she would be furiousĀ Ā
Extreme moodiness - after ignoring me for weeks she would contact me out of the blue and act as if nothing happened. she would also refuse to talk about why she ignored me for so long and did not care if my mental health suffered from it
anyway, abusive friendships need to be acknowledged more because they are not only extremely common but also very damaging to someoneās mental health. i personally had to go through years of therapy to unlearn the guilt and self-hatred that my ex-friend helped instill in me. stay safe yall
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