I was writing about myself, my insecurities, about how much I still don't feel lovable enough some days (which in the end is okay, cause some days it's okay to not feel at our best while we are healing, but still... it hurts), and I found my sign.
A post that says "who/what are you comparing yourself with, when you say you're not enough?"
Yeah, who am I comparing myself with?
Someone who is not me (and therefore I cannot compare with cause of so many reasons) but apparently has the society standards that make them enough? And what are these standards about?
Standards don't exist, they keep changing and moving through the years, how can we say we're not enough, and when? Why?
We've been growing up with this idea of having to be enough (if not perfect) to get something back, to receive what we wish for, to be worthy of love and affection (thanks emotionally unstable parents and society ran by emotionally unstable people), but we never seem to reach that point. And that's obvious, because it doesn't exist. We are already enough. Everyday, even when we don't see it.
I think that question, "not enough compared to who/what?" is so helpful. Even when we are comparing our work, for example, to others'. It can help us put under the right light how we really feel and why. And what can we make better, if necessary (but often it's not the case: we all do things just differently, who has to say whose way is better? Standards? But we just said they are non-existant/temporary... what if it's up to you to change them into yours now?)
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