Diary of an INFJ

A home for the feelings and thoughts of an INFJ. Because what else do I do with emotions?

[chynglvies-deactivated20260707]

what Ni is NOT

a lot of people in the community get Ni wrong. and i totally get that because Ni is often talked about in a super vague, weirdly prophetic light. which it is NOT.

Ni does NOT mean you can’t make connections between ideas

Ni does NOT mean you only see one truth

Ni is NOT a predictive function

all Ni is, is intuition as it makes sense to you personally. Ne, looks at the outside data and expands on that, Ni looks at the outside data and puts it in their internal framework. that’s the only difference. that Ni is personal and Ne is less personal when dealing with the abstract.

the combination of Se and Ni can come across as Ne because the user takes the tangible details and then subconsciously adds them to their mental framework. the way i personally decide between Ne and Ni is often based on this, idea. that Ni tends to be a more subconscious process, often with the user struggling to explain where the conclusion came from. Ne tends to be an obvious process. i have never once had to question where an Ne user got their idea from, because they often talk through their process unknowingly.

but just because you can’t fully understand it does NOT make Ni a sort of prophetic function. never was and never will be. it’s just the process of boiling physical things into concepts and adding said concepts to a mental framework that only makes sense to that specific person.

[infjdiary]

Reminder to myself that being present, even if it’s only for a minute or two, is so peaceful. Take a break from thinking ahead.

[funkymbtifiction]

Hi! This may be a long one so feel free to ignore. I was wondering what you think is the most common mistype for each MBTI and/or Enneagram type, and which combinations you think are most likely to lead to mistyping? Have a wonderful day!

People often notice their tert functions the most, assume they over-use them, and focus on them, or mistype based on a larger whole or stereotypes about the functions, so...

ISFJs mistype as INFJs, INFPs

ESFJs mistype as ENFJs, ENFPs, ENTPs

ISTJs mistype as INTJs, ISTPs

ESTJs mistype as ENTJs

INFJs mistype as INTJs, IXTPs

ENFJs mistype as INFJs, ENTPs

INTJs mistype as ENTJs, ENTPs

ENTJs mistype as INTJs

INFPs mistype as INFJs or INTPs

ENFPs mistype as ENTPs, ENFJs, INFJs, INFPs

INTPs mistype as INTJs, ENTPs

ENTPs mistype as INTJs, ENTJs, INTPs

ISFPs mistype as INFPs, INFJs, ISTPs

ESFPs mistype as ENFPs, ESTPs, ENTJs

ISTPs mistype as INTJs, INTPs

ESTPs mistype as ENTJs, ENTPs

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Enneagram mistypes are less common, but I'd say 1s may mistype as their wings, 2s mistype as 3s, 4s, and 9s, 3s mistype as whatever they find glamorous/appealing in others' eyes and/or as their wing (2s, 4s, 5s if 5 is desirable, 7s due to optimism), 4s mistype their wing as 5 more often than 3, 5s may assume they are 9s, 6s mistype as 2, 4, 5, 7, 8 (if counter-phobic), or 9, 7s mistype as 3s or their 8 wing, 8s rarely mistype (or identify with their wing), 9s mistype as 4s, 5s, or 1s.

2, 6, or 9 combined with Fi can create false Fe, 3 may cause a type to assume they are a high Te, 7 and Se creates a superficial Ne, 8 and ESFP seems strongly Te, 9 combined with any type gives a Fe vibe.

[infjdiary]

To me, Fe-Ti is easy to understand, and I find this axis in myself easily. On the flip, I have a hard time understanding Fi, but I think I’ve finally found a proxy way to understand.

During sessions, my therapist will often ask, “how does this make you feel” or “how are you feeling today”- and I’ve usually answered by saying “I think I feel…”. And, usually I’m searching for both the words & the emotions that I am feeling within myself. I have to actively focus on saying “I feel” instead of “I think”. To me, this screams Ti (maybe also Ni).

On the flip side, Fi descriptions often emphasize the self-referencing to internal emotions, and I assume that (most) Fi-users do the opposite of what I do. It’s natural to start with “I feel” and their default is knowing how they are feeling and being able to easily point to it.

Is this on track? Are there any Fi-users out there that can verify or elaborate?

[infjdiary]

I recently had to do some writing, and I realized that my writing process is and has been to procrastinate, flounder for a bit, then my mind blanks and all of a sudden I’ve written something out. Is this dom Ni? Cuz I hate it.

[infjdiary]

Would love to slow down and live in the present, slowly but surely learning how to do that

[infjdiary]

I’m driving myself crazy trying to understand my friend’s actions & non-actions with me

[infjdiary]

A very uncool aspect of inferior Se is wanting to do something active or interact with my physical environment, but lacking 0% physical initiative to actually start something

[infjdiary]

It’s been several months, and I say this every time to start these entries… but I’ve been going to therapy, and it’s helped me so much. I’m learning to approach myself with compassion. Learning to rein in my anxiety and pull out of my depression. I’m learning to be myself again.

Even still, I feel existential dread fill the pits of my stomach and rise to my lungs every so often. Especially around birthdays. I hope I can find peace even amidst this dread. I fear that everything is for naught…but I must have faith that there is meaning after death.

[infjdiary]

Hi, hello, happy 2021.

I’ve been diving deep into MBTI over the last several months (particularly the content from MBTI Notes and FunkyMBTI). And, as I sit here thinking about what post to make, I realized that there is more potential in this blog than I’ve allowed it to grow.

I doubt that I could maintain a blog as professional as MBTI Notes or FunkyMBTI. Nor do I think that there’s a strong demand for theory driven content, like theirs.

For the followers still here, what would you want to see from here? What kind of MBTI related or INFJ related content would fill a void of content currently?

[funkymbtifiction]

“test” it

Do you get your correct type on this quiz?

It eliminates options as you answer things, but still somehow I got ENFP the first time through with no attempts to ‘rig’ it. So far it’s gotten everyone I’ve told to take it right. I wonder if that holds up to a ‘mass’ test?

[infjdiary]

No, this test didn’t type me correctly. It gave me INTP instead of INFJ.

Thought some of the questions were interesting & had a unique twist (namely the last 2-3), but the eliminating answers cornered me into heavily Thinking descriptions.

[infjdiary]

There’s something healing about actually acknowledging or admitting that you’re not okay.

It’s healing to hear someone else acknowledge it and say “I am here for you” and say that you will heal and be okay.

[infj-arli]

17 questions, 17 people

I was tagged by @relatable-books and I’m just gonna start a new thread because the original was getting pretty long haha

Nickname: On here it’s Arli

Zodiac: idk, not my thing (but my MBTI is INFJ)

Height: 5’ 4″

Hogwarts House: idk, also not my thing (but my alignment is neutral good)

Last Thing I Googled: pokemon go shiny trade cost

Song Stuck in My Head: soundtrack to a movie, idk the track name though

Number of Followers: 267!

Amount of Sleep: oof, bad day to ask… probably 6 hours but I need 10

Lucky Number: not a luck thing but I like the number 8

Dream Job: I’m actually not sure anymore

Wearing: t-shirt and blue jeans as per usual

Favorite Song: no idea lol; right now I’ve been listening to some new vocaloid

Favorite Instrument: I always wished I could play violin

Aesthetic: moss probably

Favorite Animal Noise: mrrrp (from a cat)

Favorite Author: Sir Arthur Conan Doyle! though tbh I only read his Sherlock Holmes books

Random: if you ask me how I am I’m going to say “tired” 100% of the time. I am always tired, this is my life now

Sorry for lots of lame answers! :)

Tagging: hmm can I reach 17… @labyrinthine-intj @alcmeneinfp @doctorstarlock @fuzzykiwi-fruitmaster @auntcat42 @intrpspection @infj-17 @justinfjthings @lazyenfptriestobeproductive @mbti-enemies @pancakesandcaffeine @rokasai @stemfandomtrash @thescatteredscribbles @yourlocalinfj @erinbeth @me-is-an-intj

[yourlocalinfj]

Thank you @infj-arli for tagging me 💓

Nickname: just call me Len

Zodiac: not my thing but my sign is cancer

Height: 5’ 8”

Hogwarts House: ravenclaw idk

Last Thing I Googled: oxford tsa past papers

Song Stuck in My Head: Feels like we only go backwards, Tame Impala

Number of Followers: 39

Amount of Sleep: 5 hours but 9 is ideal

Lucky Number: 7

Dream Job: there’s a part of me that wants to write seriously but I don’t think I’ll ever be able to do that lol

Wearing: black shirt and sweatpants

Favorite Song: Crazy, Stoned, and Gone

Favorite Instrument: currently saxophone but that could change

Aesthetic: black coffee lmao

Favorite Animal Noise: that sound when a bunny yawns, it’s the cutest thing I swear

Favorite Author: tough, ive been reading a lot of Murakami lately…(hard-boiled wonderland is my absolute favourite)

Random: im honestly a very boring person…I do like to draw sometimes though I’m very bad at it

Tagging: @nyxnoxinfj @infjparadox @mellowmayhem-blog @chaotic-crystal-witch @mochatime @realentj @confusedinfj @visualiz-e @infjdoodles @expandingsleep @cutecutepsycho @infjdiary @infjthingstothinkabout @imthegaylordsstuff @justinfjthings @onelettereffect @intj-thoughts

[infjdiary]

Nickname: infjdiary or V

Zodiac: Virgo

Height: 5’2”

Hogwarts House: Hufflepuff primary and secondary with a Gryffndor primary model (check out @sortinghatchats sorting system! It’s wonderfully delightful)

Last Thing I Googled: “nominal dollars vs real dollars”

Song Stuck in My Head: nothing at the moment, not usually this way though haha

Number of Followers: 5,700+ (side note: wow! I genuinely had no idea! Thanks for following even if this blog is fairly inactive!)

Amount of Sleep: 7.5 hours is ideal

Lucky Number: Lucky is a stretch, but 11 and 29 are pretty nice

Dream Job: What my current job is now is exactly what I want to do now

Wearing: Shorts and a black t shirt

Favorite Song: Don’t have one, but curently listening to 3.15.20, Petals For Armor, still feel by half•alive, and a variety of other songs

Favorite Instrument: Piano, bass, and idk viola I guess

Aesthetic: Not sure, flowers are nice. Deep blues and purples are nice. Evenings and the moon are nice. A little bit of everything I guess.

Favorite Animal Noise: Happy cat meows and happy dog barks

Favorite Author: Tamora Pierce, I read all of her books as a kid

Random: I’m a fairly private person, and I’m not always active on this blog. But this was fun.

Tagging: (I could use some help. Who should I tag?) @infjdoodles @infjadvice

Thanks @yourlocalinfj for tagging me! :)

[infjdiary]

I don’t post often or consistently here. But, now more than ever, to remain silent is to be complicit.

Black lives matter, and they always will. The US was built with racism at its core, and we must actively work to deconstruct this system to replace it with a more loving and equitable one. We need justice.

It’s a marathon, not a sprint to create a better society.

Use this moment in time to jumpstart your personal journey. Listen to black voices, and elevate black voices. Educate yourself with diligence. Volunteer your time, money, and energy if you can.

Do what you can. Even small change, the kind that happens in a small friend group, or family, or at work is a necessary step to a better future.

To those who disagree, please re-examine your stance. Otherwise, please leave. I will not be interacting with any replies or other discourse.

[infjdiary]

Sometimes I feel nervous or anxious that this blog is meant to reveal enormous insights about being an INFJ. Or I’m meant to reveal insights to my friends about themselves or people. Or just, “~deep, meaningful~” insights in general

I can’t do that..I don’t think I do. Sometimes you just see things as it is and point it out. It’s not intentional, and surely it’s not meaningful. But then again, that’s how it goes

[infjdiary]

Anyone else just feel their emotions, just, very intensely, but not always know what emotions you’re feeling until you start talking to someone about it? Cuz like, same

[firstfullmoon]

hi, if possible, could you pls share your favourite platonic love quotes 💛

• “I don't know what to do with it. / With what? / With all the love I have for her. I don't know where to put it now. / I'll take it.”

— Phoebe Waller-Bridge, in Fleabag

• “When we landed, and the pilot put the brakes on hard, my arm reflexively went across the seat, holding the li’l guy in place, the way my dad’s arm would when he had to brake hard in that car without seatbelts to speak of, in one of my very favorite gestures in the encyclopedia of human gestures.”

— Ross Gay, The Book of Delights

• Ada Limón, from “The Great Blue Heron of Dunbar Road”

• ““I know my life's meaningful because” — and here he stopped, and looked shy, and was silent for a moment before he continued — “because I'm a good friend. I love my friends, and I care about them, and I think I make them happy.””

“The only trick of friendship, I think, is to find people who are better than you are—not smarter, not cooler, but kinder, and more generous, and more forgiving—and then to appreciate them for what they can teach you, and try to listen to them when they tell you something about yourself, no matter how bad—or good—it might be, and to trust them, which is the hardest thing of all. But the best, as well.”

“He cries for the shame and joy of finally getting to be a child, with all of a child's whims and wants and insecurities, for the privilege of behaving badly and being forgiven, for the luxury of tendernesses, of fondnesses, of being served a meal and being made to eat it, for the ability, at last, at last, of believing a parent's reassurances, of believing that to someone he is special despite all his mistakes and hatefulness, because of all his mistakes and hatefulness.”

“And so I try to be kind to everything I see, and in everything I see, I see him.”

— Hanya Yanagihara, A Little Life

• Wendy Cope, “The Orange”

• “One of the primary ways we connect with each other is by eating together. Some of the connection happens simply by being in the same place at the same time and sharing the same food, but we also connect through specific actions, such as serving food to one another or making toasts: ‘May I offer you some potatoes?’ ‘Here’s to your health and happiness.’ Much of our fundamental well-being comes from the basic reassurance that there is a place for us at the table. We belong here. Here we are served and we serve others. Here we give and receive sustenance.”

— Edward Espe Brown

• “I was thinking today of my greatest happiness, a walk along a cliff by the sea, and you at the end of it.”

— Virginia Woolf, in a letter to her sister Vanessa Bell

• Meredith Martinez, “When I Say Love”

• “Tu n'es encore pour moi qu'un petit garçon tout semblable à cent mille petits garçons. Et je n'ai pas besoin de toi. Et tu n'as pas besoin de moi non plus. Je ne suis pour toi qu'un renard semblable à cent mille renards. Mais, si tu m'apprivoises, nous aurons besoin l'un de l'autre. Tu seras pour moi unique au monde. Je serai pour toi unique au monde...”

“Si tu m'apprivoises, ma vie sera comme ensoleillée. Je connaîtrai un bruit de pas qui sera différent de tous les autres. Les autres pas me font rentrer sous terre. Le tien m'appellera hors du terrier, comme une musique. Et puis regarde ! Tu vois, là-bas, les champs de blé ? Je ne mange pas de pain. Le blé pour moi est inutile. Les champs de blé ne me rappellent rien. Et ça, c'est triste ! Mais tu as des cheveux couleur d'or. Alors ce sera merveilleux quand tu m'auras apprivoisé ! Le blé, qui est doré, me fera souvenir de toi. Et j'aimerai le bruit du vent dans le blé...”

“Ainsi le petit prince apprivoisa le renard. Et quand l'heure du départ fut proche: - Ah! dit le renard... Je pleurerai. - C'est ta faute, dit le petit prince, je ne te souhaitais point de mal, mais tu as voulu que je t'apprivoise... - Bien sûr, dit le renard. - Mais tu vas pleurer ! dit le petit prince. - Bien sûr, dit le renard. - Alors tu n'y gagnes rien ! - J'y gagne, dit le renard, à cause de la couleur du blé.”

— Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Le Petit Prince