So obv INFJ hearts ENTP, which is great but I was wondering - do you have any other mbti ships you like? Donāt hold back I can take it (the real question isā¦ can THEY?) lmao
Aaaah, good question!
I probably have a disappointing answer *_*
I guess I donāt really ship other MBTI types because I donāt have any personal experience with them or know anyone else who does.
I particularly love MBTI stuff when I can match it up with an actual person or experience. (Eg, Iām an INFJ and my partner is an ENTP. Most of what I read about INFJ x ENTP is crazy funny/accurate, at least in describing my relationship with ENTP. Particularly the theme that ENTP is the only type that can climb INFJ's walls or bounce back from a door slam. I literally "door slammed" ENTP ten years ago and seven years later he just showed up out of nowhere like āAaayyy....btw, I love youā and we've been together ever since, lol.)
...but I DO have an INTJ friend who Iām pretty sure would be stupidly happy with an ENFP friend of mine (if INTJ ever wanted to stop brooding in solitude, which seemsā¦unlikely) so I guess that might be the other one!
I definitely do NOT ship INFJ x INTJ (it's not a popular one but I've seen it occasionally). I fully admit this is entirely based off a horrible relationship I had with a (different) INTJ in the past. I just don't think INFJ auxiliary Fe works well with INTJ tertiary Fi. But that's another story for another day. (Not saying it's impossible. Just expressing my personal experience was a dumpster fire of epic proportions, lol.)
LMAO I have seen INTJ x INFJ a few times - I don't disike really any particular ship, but yeah I will say the two dom Ni users together puts me on edge. Like, someone keep an eye on those two, seems like there might be some dom Ni funny business happening
entp, enfp, intp, infp: considers possibilities of what to do instead of said task. starts typing but gets distracted when trying to choose a song to listen to. probably scrolls through tiktok. thinks that said task is too overwhelming. can't schedule an appointment on the phone by themself.
intj, infj, enfj, entj : plans out everything, but doesn't actually do it. wayyy too perfectionistic. has a bunch of pinterest boards (or playlists) related to said thing. not inspired. not enough pressure. "scheduled procrastination."
estp, esfp, istp, isfp: thinks the task is stupid and boring, and there are more fun/interesting things to do. also thinks that they have enough time to get it done but actually only has 2 hours. doesn't narrow down priorities. probably forget it existed in the first place
isfj, istj, estj, esfj: associates task with bad past experiences and avoids it. thinks it's not important + a waste of time compared to other things. keeps getting stuck on minor criticisms or flaws. doesn't put said thing on their to-do list (not in sight, not in mind!)
what, in your opinion, are an intpās needs in a relationship? (coming from an infj.) love your blog, youāve got some amazing insights š«¶
Aww, thanks INFJ anon. š«¶ I try my best to have interesting insights that bring something fresh to the table!
INTP's Needs in a Relationship
I've been in the same relationship for 8.5 years (and we actually MET ON TUMBLR BECAUSE OF THIS BLOG WHICH IS SO FUNNY AND NERDY), all of this to say, I've had a lot of time to think about my relationship needs even from the MBTI perspective as an INTP, because that was how my ENFJ and I kinda started out getting to know, like, what we each needed from each other, so, here we go!
Disclaimer: This is assuming that the INTP is already getting everything that everyone needs in a basic healthy relationship like, you know, feeling emotionally safe and being treated with respect, etc..
Intellectual stimulation: INTPs generally love understanding new things and how they work, so ideally their partner can share that interest with them in some way! They can be pretty curious people, so joining them in their quest for uncovering the "how" and "why" of everything will make them feel understood, themselves, and closer to you in the process!
Clear explanations of your feelings: Because INTPs have inferior Fe, they tend to have a habit of intellectualizing their own emotions when they talk about them, which can cause complications with understanding other people's emotions, too. Finding a way to be patient and know that even healthy INTPs might still struggle with connecting with other people's emotions (especially at first in a relationship) isn't necessarily because they don't want to, but more that it doesn't always come naturally, so they don't always know how to. If they're a healthy person, they will want to understand, just try not to take it personally while they are practicing/learning!
Alone time: This one should be pretty straight-forward lmao. They're introverted, so they like to recharge doing solo-activities, and they're intuitives, so they have their own little theoretical world full of bizarre ideas to entertain themselves with that might not always be easy to follow at first. I find that introverts in general (maybe the INxx types even moreso) like to engage in parallel play where their partner also does something quietly nearby, but still a separate activity. As an INFJ, yourself, I'm sure you can relate in your own way, so it's likely easy to give them what they need!
Humor them/hear them out: This might sound a little vague, and I guess in some ways it is, but this is mostly about their auxiliary Ne. ENTPs and ENFPs get most of the attention when it comes to high Ne, but INTPs (and INFPs, too!) place a lot of importance on it, too, which can often manifest itself in conversations like "what if __", "imagine if __", etc.. To put it bluntly, it might seem a bit... directionless, and that's because sometimes it kind of is! It's just about thinking of random possibilities that are non-serious and funny in the moment, and don't really go anywhere else outside of the current discussion or hold any larger, overarching significance. Sometimes it's less about the actual topic itself, and more about having some random fun and "playing along" that makes a world of a difference to a playful INTP (or high Ne user in general). This point got away from me a little bit which I think, in a way, is the perfect exemplification of what I was trying to say in the first place, lmao. Hope that makes sense! If your INTP ever sounds like whatever the hell I just said, just try not to disengage right away, because they probably have a point that they are struggling to reach. Put that dom Ni to work and summarize it for them, I know you can do it from experience with my own ENFJ lmao.
Anyway, uhhhhh: Every single point on this list has gotten progressively longer because my Ne loves extrapolating (and I love Ne, but sometimes its gotta CHILL you know?), so I'm gonna end it here before it gets WILDLY OUT OF CONTROL.
This was a fun question, anon!: Thanks again for reaching out, and basically giving me full range to just write multiple paragraphs about myself and my relationship!
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