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Pain Body In Social Situations

Social Anxiety And Pain

Taken from the comments section of this article on Pain Body - What It Is And How To Be Free.

QUESTION:

Hi Adam,

Great article, thank you!

I mostly encounter my painbody in interaction with other people, for example when communication gets tense or someone talks to me in an angry way, that seems to trigger old pain immediately and my 'harmed ego' shoots into reaction. Mostly that leads to a reaction from the other party and things can then easily escalate.

The problem is that I can only get to a more neutral and allowing position once I get out of this situation, out of the interaction. It's only then that I can become 'consciously aware' again. And if I wouldn't resist the energy that develops during the situation things might get completely out of hand :-)

What would be your advice on learning to deal with this?

Warm regards,

Olivier, Bruges

RESPONSE:

Hi Oliver, thanks for your message.

Good question. I would say that it will get easier and easier if you focus more on peace, calm or clarity when you are indeed out of these situations. The turbulent situations can be difficult to really "do" anything with beyond what has been mentioned in this article. Allowing more and more presence in your life when you are less challenged means that this aspect of yourself will grow stronger and stronger, and will gradually diminish old pain without you even trying.

I would say, however, that if you weren't to resist the energy in these situations - would they really get out of hand? I realise what you mean - that the pain might get so strong that it would produce an unwanted action - but if it is truly not resisted - allowed to be - then the expression of the pain can become more conscious.

For example, instead of lashing out, you might find yourself saying "When you do this I feel extremely angry, and I don't know what to do with the anger". This can be more effective than habitually biting back, in an attempt to have the final bite. With that said, raising your voice or "biting back", so to speak, is not even wrong in itself, but action becomes blind when we are still resisting our pain, when we believe an action based in resistance will help to free us from the pain inside.

These trigger-situations are helpful in showing you how much importance you are giving to other people's opinions, and how much you are depending on someone else to make you feel good about yourself. The antidote is to gradually ALLOW yourself to feel good unconditionally, without needing anyone's permission. Then gradually these situations will feel less threatening to your sense of self and overall wellbeing.

I hope that can help, let me know if it does!

All the best,

Adam

For more on dealing with emotional pain, I recommend reading my book:

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Calming Mind Storms

Calming Mental Storms

Hello everyone, hopefully this little article will help some of you this week…

My books and blogs speak enough about what to do (or not do) when you are experiencing “mind storms” of anxiety, anger, frustration, or an oncoming depression. “Pain body” or “Painmaker” attacks can create a whirlwind of uncontrollable suffering that leaves someone feeling as if they are a victim of their own mind and emotions.

Enjoy The Breaks

For this week, rather than focussing on what to do or not do when these mind storms come, instead focus on the clarity or peace that is present when these mind storms are NOT there.

It is easy to overlook a good thing. It is easy to overlook clarity, peace, or an absence of suffering. People I speak to during one-to-one sessions often want to discuss what to do when they are in the midst of a mind-storm, which they also report are becoming less and less frequent as they follow advice from myself or others...

But the more we focus on the trouble, the more significant the trouble becomes. It can be easy to turn relatively rare occurrences into big problems that need to be conquered in some way. When we start to think like this, mind-storms once again become our focus, and we usually slip back into resistance.

Strengthen Your Appreciation

Instead, strengthen your “spiritual muscles” in the moments when you are calmer, when things are easier or you don’t feel so overwhelmed. If you simply feel an absence of a mind-storm, begin to appreciate the relative peace that you feel. If you feel slightly happy or free at any point during the day, simply appreciate the associated feelings. If you are ever grateful for anything in your life or appreciating anyone or anything around you – allow yourself to enjoy that experience even more.

Go all-in on feeling good in the moments when the mind-storms aren’t there. Rather than worrying about the next “pain body attack”, enjoy the clarity or peace when the pain isn’t taking over.

This might sound as if you are avoiding real issues within yourself, but really you are gradually raising your vibration, or raising the strength of your consciousness so that mind storms or pain body attacks start to weaken by themselves. You begin to form a habit of not needing to resist your own mind when your mind is calmer, so that when the mind storm becomes intense, you are more in the habit of offering no resistance.

Wise Preparation

A powerlifter does not focus all of his energy on just the day of the contest. He focusses his energy on training beforehand so that he is strong when the contest comes. Rather than worrying about what to do in a mind storm, strengthen your peace of mind by appreciating any moments of clarity when they arise in your life. The more you appreciate anything like this within yourself, the more it grows, and the stronger your “free” awareness becomes.

If this resonates with you, perhaps I could add more next week – the next stage of raising your vibration in an easy, playful way.

If you feel you absolutely have no moments of peace or ease, then feel free to dive into my free blog or check out my books for inner peace.

I hope this has been useful. Thanks for reading.

All the best,

Adam

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Attracting Solutions

A recent one-to-one call with someone prompted me to share this...

If you have any worries in your life, or any questions in your mind that are troubling you, you can shift them into a more positive light. An example is: “How will my business survive?” This kind of question can be loaded with fear, and implies that the business is dying. Asking yourself this kind of question will attract thoughts of a similar frequency. Your actions will reflect these thoughts. If they are fear-based or negatively charged, your actions will probably be enough to make the business survive...but only just. The same question could be framed as: How can my business do well? How can my business be successful? How can things flow better? How can we be more efficient? How can the business become healthy? These kinds of questions are in a different wavelength. They are more empowering, they feel better, and they will attract thoughts of a similar frequency, if the questions are given space. Actions will then reflect these empowered thoughts. So if there are things concerning you that you believe require your attention and action, frame your question in terms of what outcome you desire, rather than an outcome your are trying to avoid. Hope that can help, Adam

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How To Find Freedom

If you are looking for any kind of practice during the week to help you find freedom, here is an easy one:

Look for the freedom already in your life.

Notice your freedom.

Even if you have a job you don’t like, notice that you still have freedoms within it, or focus on other aspects of your life where you do feel free.

In every moment - notice the freedom you already have:

The freedom to move, or the freedom to experience any thought or emotion, the freedom to stop work or start work or stand or sit. The freedom to walk or breathe easily or eat or drink.

Even the very little things we take for granted - notice the freedom within them.

Many of us have freedoms that others are desperate for. If you simply notice them, the you will appreciate them, and you will step into a new energy of freedom.

It might sound simple, but try it out...

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How To Feel Better

A Trick For Feeling Better

Here’s a simple trick to actually make yourself feel better if you are feeling bad in any way.

But you have to be willing to play a game, a game that disregards what your mind thinks of as "reality"...

Often you might feel as if you have no control over how you feel. Every thought and emotion has already arisen before you can even react. So in a way, nothing is in control. But, there is another way...

If something is troubling you, a worry or concern or hang-up, then ask yourself:

How would it feel if I was free from this?

If you give it a chance, you might feel yourself becoming more free. Be playful with it, use “What if”... “What if I was free? What if I felt free? How would it feel?”

Asking questions like this can expose the fact that when you are not so serious, when you are playing a bit of a game... then you can change how you feel. You can free yourself in an instant.

“Yeh, but...” the mind says, giving you reasons as to why you can’t be free yet. It wants to postpone freedom, and will make it seem like this is a dangerous game to play.

So you play again...

“How would it feel to be free from this?”

If you can step into that game, then you suddenly become free. It IS control, but not through resistance. It’s not from fighting what you don’t want, it’s from stepping into a higher realm within yourself, and realising that your primary reality is within.

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How To Deal With Regret

Dealing With Regrets

Hello everyone,

This week I thought I would share something on dealing with regret, inspired by a quote from my children's book "A Tale Of Two Ninja Kids: A Martial Arts Adventure Story".

In the book, one of the main characters, Martin, questions his ninja master on how someone can deal with regrets in life...

Regrets are often a response to us wanting the past to be different in some way. We feel that we should have acted differently with the aid of hindsight, and regret seems to be our way of trying to fix things.

We unconsciously believe that holding a feeling of regret will help change the past and make the future or the present better for us or others. It is one thing to know this intellectually, but it is another thing to experience this, and to see whether the regret is actually serving us at the moment.

The way we can notice if regret is helping us, is by yielding to it, by giving ourselves permission to actually feel regretful, rather than trying to struggle with the uncomfortable feeling.

There is nothing wrong with the feeling, but the trap is to believe that struggling with it or feeding it with belief will help to make everything better again.

If you really allow a regret to be felt, it is unlikely to hold the same amount of power over you. Regret can not live in a non-resistive environment. Perhaps there is something that you can learn from the memory, but the fight against regret isn't required for learning. In fact learning tends to happen more easily once a memory is no longer an enemy in our minds.

Regret can also be a form of self-punishment, where we seek to hurt ourselves due to a mistake we have made. Again, no longer fighting against the contracted feeling of regret will make it clear and obvious whether it is wise for you to suffer any more, or become free to operate from a higher state.

Regrets are a very natural to feel. If you can forgive yourself enough to let yourself actually feel them, you will see they might begin to transform themselves.

The book mentioned above is ideally for readers aged 8-12, but it's also one that adults have told me they've enjoyed. Book two in the series comes out next month, and if you would like to find out more about book one, just click here.

I hope that's useful for this week,

All the best,

Adam

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Freedom From Resistance

The following passage is from a book of mine called "Mythical Creatures Of The Forest", where the lead character, Dr Bernard J. Hoothfellow, has the task of harvesting a strange plant that he has never encountered before. Accompanied by an underground farmer know as the Treekeeper, Bernard discovers that the plants respond to him with the exact same energy that he approaches them with. At first he has trouble harvesting any of them, because he is used to treating everything with an unappreciative, rushed energy, which is easy to fall into during everyday life. After being thrown back by the plants on his first attempt, the Treekeeper sits him down and explains something to him: ... “This often happens with humans,” he said, sitting down himself and putting his sickle gently by his side. “You see, they don’t realise that everything is a reflection of themselves. The way you get trained to think, is that everything around you should yield to you, be there for you, do what you want, and that it doesn’t matter how you treat the things, what signal you send out, or how you handle the things that you want to go well for you. “You treat the world like it owes you something. Some kind of happiness, some kind of product, something to make you feel good. So you go around, feeling bad, hoping that feeling bad enough of the time will bring you something good. But nature doesn’t work like that. The plants, everything – reflects you. If you approach them aggressively, harshly, hastily, then they will reflect that back to you. It’s not like they are deciding to do it, it’s just how nature works. It’s like a built-in mechanism. They treat me the way I treat them. It’s simple. And when I’m not expecting anything of them, when I am grateful and loving and appreciative of them, of just being around them, they fall in love with me, because I’ve already fallen for them. “The trap is that you think there is no real link between the two of you, and you think that the more you resist, the more things will work. But nothing works through resistance. When there is no resistance then things work better, more smoothly. What happens with people is that the plants reflect their rigidity right back to them, and then they think that it is the plants' fault, not theirs, so they get even harsher, and harsher, more and more resistive, trying to fix the solution, never realising that it is only ever a reflection of themselves. They are not separate from the plants, and neither are you. In fact, you are the plants, and that’s why they treat you the way you treat them. Really, you are one.” ... I hope the metaphor serves you well for this week. If you read it again, you can replace "the plants" with "life." If you would like to read more from the book, you can get it by clicking here…

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Social Anxiety

Healing The Defence Mechanism

Any trace of anxiety, worry, tension, constriction or inhibition when it comes to social situations, is all an attempt to keep yourself safe. It is the mind’s attempt to keep its own identify alive, protected, not destroyed by other people’s words or actions.

Approach any anxiety or sense of “closing down” in this way, seeing it all as a defence mechanism, an attempt to keep you safe.

Social situations can seem scary to the mind, because it has become so accustomed to defining itself based on other people’s perceptions. If it is used to doing this, it is no surprise that it is scared of being judged in any negative way. If it is judged to be bad or not enough, the mind assumes this must be the truth.

If you feel any anxiety around social situations, rather than assuming these restrictive sensations are bad, or shouldn’t be there, notice that they are defence mechanisms.

Would you ever be greatly upset with something that is trying to keep you safe? Whether it actually does keep you safe is a different matter. Notice it is trying.

If you approach your feelings in this way, things start to soften. An element of forgiveness comes in. With forgiveness comes presence, some relaxation, and a gradually healing relationship with the appearances of your mind and body.

Relationship is everything. If there is conflict with anxiety, then you feel a victim. If there is forgiveness, a realisation that it is trying to keep you safe, then suddenly you are bigger than the anxiety, and perhaps the anxiety doesn’t require your conflict anymore.

If you notice it is a defence mechanism, and can be comfortable with that, you will begin to see through it and notice that it is not defending anything of value. It is just defending an idea of self that wants to maintain its barriers and keep itself cut off and isolated from everything else.

I could go on and on, but the takeaway message this week is this:

If anxiety or anything similar comes along – notice it is trying to protect you. Thank it for that, and you will see for yourself how it reacts.

Perhaps more on this soon. Let me know if this helped!

All the best,

Adam

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How To Tame An Ego

How To Dissolve The Ego

If you have found yourself becoming “anti-ego” at any point, you may have noticed it doesn’t really help.

A mind that has become negative or constricted or just a pain can easily be made into an enemy, and all we want to do is get rid of this uncomfortable thing that seems to exist inside of us.

Then we here about “the ego”, the mind-made self formed through conditioning that will even cause a disturbance or problems, just to stay alive. The ego becomes the enemy.

But if you make something within yourself an enemy, it’s quite difficult to eradicate it, especially when “the ego” is made of resistance, and needs resistance to survive. If we feel it as something that we need to dispose of or do something about, it tends to become stronger.

Instead, try this...

Pretend as if it was impossible to get rid of your ego, or the mind that seems to cause you trouble. If you feel as if there is a heavy identity or personality that seems to get in the way of things or create a disturbance, let go of the idea that you can get rid of it.

Let go of the idea that it is your responsibility to get rid of it or become free from it.

That might not feel good at first, but experiment with accepting that the ego is part of being human. Even if it is a feeling of tightness behind your eyes, what if that was just part of the human experience?

If you can entertain this idea, then you might notice that things begin to soften. What you were struggling to get rid of is no longer something you need to fight. A sense of ego might be there, but there is something beneath it – something deeper and more consistent, something spacious and also powerful. If your ego is no longer a problem, if it is just a superficial dance on top of a timeless presence, then suddenly everyone else’s egos aren’t such a problem either.

You see other egos as just a fragment of what exists, rather than believing they are everything that makes up a human being.

A lightness might arise when you are no longer unconsciously resisting your own personality. There is a freedom, but it is almost accidental.

Let yourself be human, and see what happens.

All the best,

Adam

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Freedom From Words

Seeing Through Words Into Freedom

"We are trying to unravel the Mighty Infinite using a language which was designed to tell one another where the fresh fruit was.” - Terry Pratchett.

Words are very helpful for communication, but are they the truth of anything? They are sounds assigned to objects. The sounds are not the objects. A door is not really "a door", we just call it "a door" so we both know what we are talking about.

Go beyond words by seeing they can only describe and point. They are not the truth of anything.

People often ask how they can slow down the momentum of a noisy mind. It slows by itself when you stop taking every word to be the truth of anything...

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When Anger Meets Inner Peace

Is Anger Spiritual?

When people move on to any kind of spiritual or self-help path, emotions such as anger can become unconsciously resisted even more, because they are seen as energies that shouldn’t be there...

“I shouldn’t be angry, I should be at peace.”

“I’ve been ‘spiritual’ for years but I still feel anger, and I shouldn’t.”

...These kinds of assumptions an be inside us, without us knowing, so if anger arises we resist it or suppress it or try to talk ourselves out of it.

Instead, throw a blanket over every thought and emotion that arises, and let it be whatever it is. That means you don’t even have to call it anything. Anger doesn’t have to be labelled as such – it can just be a fiery energy. It isn’t as personal as we imagine it to be. It’s just an energy.

We are talking about anger specifically, but we could replace ‘anger’ with any other kind of thought or emotion that is supposed to be 'unspiritual' or 'unenlightened'.

True meditation is about being a space for everything, so that everything that isn’t serving you has room to be released. Notice if there are any resentments or angers in your life that you are trying to push away, only for them to remain there even more strongly. What happens if they are no longer given a name, and are left to be themselves?

The assumption is that they will get worse, much worse. The reality is usually different. But I don’t want to spoil the surprise...

The quote above is taken from the chapter "How To Deal With Anger" from my book Undisturbed: A Guide To Emotional Wellness. If you would like to read more, you can get the full book by clicking here. 

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The Freedom Of Forgiveness

Forgiveness Is Freedom

So many of our mental habits can often do us more harm than good. Holding on to resentments, worrying about the future, resisting a current situation – all of these things tend to lock our attention into something undesirable, feeling stuck in it, struggling to fix what we don’t want, yet feeling evermore entangled.

Notice if there is any part of you that secretly seems to enjoy feeling bad, in any way. There might be a worry, an unforgiveness, perhaps a cloud of depression over something not being the way you want it to be. If you notice that there is something inside that seems to want to draw your attention into feeling bad, that is the first step to freedom.

Unforgiveness is a way to try to stop something equally bad happening in the future. We don’t want to be wronged again, and holding on to hostility is often a way we are taught to try to resolve the situation, or hold the other person accountable so that they won’t do it again.

In reality, holding on to resentments might not affect the other person at all. We are the ones that are carrying the load, punishing ourselves for someone else’s unconscious behaviour.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting. It doesn’t mean not learning from something. It means freeing up your energy to focus on yourself, rather than on someone else and their mistakes.

The quote above is taken from the chapter on how to forgive. If you want to read more, you can get the full book by clicking here.

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How To Care Less About People’s Opinions

Freedom From Judgements

Our habit to continuously judge people and form opinions about them makes it seem as if everyone else is doing the same thing to us.

It also takes our power away, always spending our time looking anywhere but within.

Taking our judgements of everything around us seriously probably means we will take other people’s judgements seriously too.

If your attention is less fascinated about the ideas you have about other people, and yourself, then the judgements that may or my not be going on in someone else’s head lose their importance as well...

As a result, your attention more easily rests within yourself, in the place where there are no judgements at all.

The quote in the picture is from the chapter on How To Stop Being Concerned About Other People’s Opinions. Click here for more…

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The Power Of Belief

Belief Makes Everything Seem Real

Looking for a suitable quote for this week, I landed on the above quote from my book "Get Out Of The Cage: A Guide To Inner Freedom"...

It is useful to look at what you are believing in your head.

Thoughts are one thing. The belief in them is another.

Our training is to always believe in every thought that arises. For many people, this becomes limiting, since their thoughts are not always constructive to the rest of life.

Let any thoughts come, but notice the tension that comes with automatic belief. If automatic belief is there, tension is inevitable when any negative thought arises.

Thoughts are just thoughts, while belief is one of the greatest forces in the world. 

Belief can be beneficial, but it can also lead to downward spirals if it goes on unchecked.

Notice that believing in your thoughts is optional. Feel the freedom that comes from this experiment: no longer instantly believing whatever arises in your mind.

Hope that's useful,

Adam

To get the full book for meditative reading and free yourself from the cage of the mind, click here...

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Noticing Your Freedom

Freedom Already Exists

People often have the feeling that they want to be free from the mind, free from negativity, free from lack or struggle.

Instead of trying to be free, notice any freedom you already have.

Our everyday freedom can often be overlooked.

Even if you feel like you’re not doing what you want to do – are you actually being forced to? Are you free to stop if you want, even for a moment?

We are often more free than we realise.

Jobs and work and family obligations can make us feel tied to life, as if we are almost like slaves, but noticing glimpses of your own everyday freedom can help to relieve this.

If there is anything at all you like to do in life – you can also appreciate the freedom you have to do it. Driving somewhere can become a journey of appreciation where you double your enjoyment of the whole thing. Deciding to do something becomes a movement of joy because you appreciate you are free enough to do it.

Maybe there’s something you don’t want to do tomorrow. Realise that you aren’t being forced to do it. No one is literally making you do it. There might be consequences to you not doing it, but to realise that you are still deciding to do it gives you back some power, a sense that you aren’t a slave to a particular task.

Even a simple task like cooking a meal can feel like a drag, as if you have to do it but you don’t want to. If you realise, however, that you don’t actually have to cook, that no one is actually making you, it is clearer to see that if you don’t, then you or your family won’t be able to eat. And you would rather they eat...

So then you carry on, perhaps now with a little bit more power or energy inside to do what you actually want to do in the long run.

If you go for a walk, realise you are free enough to do it. If you have a drink when you want, realise you are free enough to do it. Notice freedom in the little things, and it begins to grow and leak into everything else.

Hope that’s useful, speak to you soon,

Adam

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How To Achieve Goals With Presence?

Achieving Goals With Presence

Question:

Hello, after reading The Power Of Now I have been indulging in spirituality with a daily meditation practice, and reading many more books on inner peace. My question is how do I go about still reaching my personal goals, such as financial freedom through building a business, improving at sports, improving my relationships etc. while also remaining present and observing the mind?

Essentially, can I strive for "success" in the world of form and be "enlightened" too? Thank you for your incredible blog, I wish you happiness and peace.

Charlie

Response:

Hi Charlie, thanks for your question. It’s a good one.

In a word, I would say yes. Maybe “strive for” could be replaced with “create”.

Let’s take an example. You are here, present, alert. You have a desire to be financial free through your business. Being financially free feels good, having a successful business that brings good to other people also feels good. Great, so now what? You would probably get on and do something if there was something to do.

“Being present” has nothing to do with limiting yourself to the confines of your mind’s interpretation of your life.

For example, the thought “I’m not financially free yet” is a thought, one that might make you feel a bit low or disheartened. If you are present, you aren’t confined to these mental interpretations. Deeper creative desires might arise that give you feelings as if they are already the truth of reality.

If you are not resisting the moment you don’t feel so tied to undesirable circumstances, financial or otherwise. Your valuable attention goes back to its source, which is also the source of all creativity.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be financially free. Without any resistance, it means you are less likely to block its manifestation. The desire is in you already, you don’t have to manufacture it. From there you can feel how it feels to have a successful business, all while doing whatever you need to do in the world.

In fact, not being so conscious could lead to much more negativity, resistance and necessary complications from the mind.

Desires are quite natural. If you are hungry, you would want food to eat rather than the dirt from which it came. If you are building a business, you can enjoy its success before it's “technically” even happened, by paying attention to its fruition on an inner level which rises out into the world.

Does that make sense?

If you’d like we can continue this further, just leave me any feedback or question in the comments below.

Thanks for your question, and I wish you all the best,

Adam

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Your Hidden Power

Discovering Your Hidden Power

Sometimes we can feel powerless. Powerless over life, powerless against other people, even powerless over our own minds that can be causing great distress.

But we all have a hidden power, one that is always there, but often goes unrecognised because it has no form.

The power is your attention.

Your attention has the power to completely alter your life experience. If I am paying attention to what I don’t like about myself, my life, or another person, all of my power becomes drawn into that. The power makes these negative things grow in my experience, and they feel as if they are my world.

If I am paying attention to what I appreciate about myself, my life, or another person, then these more positive feelings begin to flood through my system, radiate out, and they become the foundation of my life experience.

We can all have the habit of letting our attention become dragged into anything that we can deem undesirable. Our primal minds are designed for survival – to look for problems and focus on them until they are fixed. This can work if there is an intruder in my cave, or a predator waiting for me to walk out into the night, but in our modern-day lives, with our modern-day minds, it’s not so practical.

Super Brains

Since we have much more sophisticated imaginations than our evolutionary ancestors, now instead of dealing with undesirable things in the moment as they occur, we tend to imagine them and then try to deal with them in our heads beforehand. It isn’t real. We focus on the problem, the problem, the imaginary problem, but it never seems to get resolved. The mental loop just restarts itself.

We are often raised with the idea that you have to focus on bad things to help stop them from happening. This belief or assumption can be there in our subconscious minds. Why else would we ever be negative, worried or deeply concerned? Because we think it will help. We are trying to help the universe to fix things, by paying attention to what we don’t want to happen.

If we really want to help out the universe, projecting negativity into it won’t help much. If we want to be in harmony with the intelligence of whole, it can help to no longer push back on what you don’t want to happen or what you don’t like about your life. When you aren’t pushing back, you aren’t resisting, and when you aren’t resisting, you are in a much lighter space.

From there your attention starts to become free again. It becomes something you can direct. If there is a much more pleasant potential scenario you wish to place your attention on (rather than imagining the worst), then you can, even if it’s only in your mind. And once you start to place your attention on any positive creative desires within you, as if they are already here, then you start to become a beacon for that same energy to return itself to you.

This doesn’t mean that you can never deal with life or things in the moment as they arise. It actually means you are free to deal with things more smoothly, without the same constricting negativity that might have previously strangled your intelligence.

"You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete."  -- Buckminster Fuller

Imagine a cell in a body that became very negative, cut off from the rest of the body, focussing on all the things it didn’t like about the body. This cell might start to cause problems, for itself and for the whole system. It’s hard for a cell like that to find solutions to things. Now imagine a cell in harmony with the whole, not needing to negatively focus on things it doesn’t want to happen. This cell would probably have a much better life, and could deal with things much more easily if needed.

Which cell would you rather be?

Free up your power. Give yourself a rest from being negative so that positive things can happen. Use your attention wisely, and keep it out of the muck. Let it be a creative force for good, rather than an empowering force for what you don’t want.

All the best until next time,

Adam