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[innerspark-01]

I never understand how my mom always pulls away emotionally when things get heavy, why she always talks sweet and warm to me when things are all good and the moment something goes wrong, she just pulls away, leaves is there any logic in it!!!! I just need my mom's love without the feeling of guilt, blamed or threatened. How she suddenly becomes busy when things are heavy with me!!!! I mean are you serious mom???? How you never notice me???? why you always try to find ways to blame me or make me feel how ungrateful I'm!!? when things become messy i need your love not avoidant or blaming, why you make me cry on my birthdays?? You didn't even spare birthdays to compare me or put me down, You told me that you don't like me and you also told me once to not try to be your favorite. why always try to make feel guilty and blame me for everything no matter whatever I do. why you left me all alone when I needed you the most even you also knew it??? You have no idea how much I suffered. I still wonder where my fault is????? what did I do wrong????? WHAT ABOUT MEEEEEE??????????????? YOU ALWAYS MAKE ME FEEL UNLOVED WHYYYYYYYYYY?????????

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Raise your child with love not with trauma because when the child grows up that trauma stays inside them forever no matter what they do or say or wherever they go childhood trauma haunts them down. Toxic parents don't have the idea about how their decision and doings affect our entire life. A child needs love, emotional safety, support of their parents, softness, this is called HOME. When a child doesn't get that they suffer all along their life .

[mournfulroses]

Christa Wolf, from her novel titled "Cassandra," originally published in 1983

[luvdeadd]

[mournfulroses]

Sinéad O'Connor, from her book titled "Rememberings," originally published in June 2021

[letsbelonelytogetherr]

— william wordsworth (via letsbelonelytogetherr)

[innerspark-01]

Stop asking why instead of that say "Thank you what’s next."

Start taking accountability for your actions instead of blaming the person or the situation you also hold some accountability towards that situation. You didn’t create the boundaries, you didn’t say no . Instead of these things you only said why, I’m so bad, I’m so unlucky. Analyse what is this situation is teaching us, what is the lesson Stop saying oh life is so unfair to me why only me instead of these things accept the things as the way they are and give yourself the freedom to move on from the past. Instead of saying" it’s not meant for me, why only hard things happen to me "say I’ve to go through this situation to become the best, ideal and strongest version of myself. When you hold on to your past saying yourself that you are not worthy enough or you don’t deserve anything, what if it doesn’t work out, what if that person doesn’t like etc. you are just decreasing your self-confidence, you are resisting your progress in life and making your life boring. Living in your past punishing yourself is not helpful at all. You are not doing yourself any favor by doing these things. When you are saying yourself that you hate yourself you are not doing any favors to yourself you are just being unnecessary mean to yourself. The level of shame is 20 and after 20 we have 0 which is death. So, stop feeling shame, guilt and fear and start living. If you don’t forgive yourself or start loving yourself or feeling that you are also worthy of good things you will attract wrong people in your life and settle for bare minimum. So instead of staying stuck and crying 'why only me' move on and say, 'Thank you what's next. ' People who never doubts, have faith in God, and believe that everything will work out even when the situation is out of their control universe loves these kinds of people.

[biancacanlove]

Acknowledgement.

And give the pieces

that you found

to the people

that broke them, find them

and tell them,

here is the child, here,

the adolescent,

here is the youth,

here is the changeling, the

innocent,

here are the pieces; for pieces

they shall be

and pieces they shall remain;

never to be whole again.

[innerspark-01]

THE REASON WHY YOU'RE STILL STUCK IN LIFE AND NOT ABLE TO CHANGE.

We are unhappy—not because we were born unlucky or into painful circumstances, and not even because we ended up in bad situations. We are unhappy because, somewhere deep inside, we are choosing to be.

That might sound harsh, but it’s the truth. And it’s important to say it out loud.

Sometimes, being unhappy feels… comfortable. Familiar. When you’re used to pain, chaos, or sadness, your mind starts to see that as “normal.” And the normal even when it hurts is easier to accept than the unknown. You are not stuck. You are just too familiar with your current life. And familiarity isn’t freedom.

Lifestyle is how one sees the world and oneself. You might look at other people and think, “I wish I had their life.” You might admire how lucky, or happy they seem. But the truth is—it’s not about their luck or their circumstances. It’s about what you’re choosing are you choosing the same life you had up till now or are you choosing to build a new lifestyle. You Can Choose all over again.

Lifestyle is not something you're born with. It’s something you choose—every single day. And because it's a choice, that means you can choose it again. You can choose something better.

If you don’t like your current lifestyle, change it. You have the power to do that. Nobody is stopping you except you.

And if you aren’t changing something that means you are simply choosing that thing. You are just blaming your circumstances and other ppl for your unhappiness and bad lifestyle because it is easy to blame others rather than actually taking action and change your life.

People can change whenever they want to change. The real reason most people don’t change is simple: they’re afraid. They lack courage.

Deep down, you may already know what you need to do. You know you need to take a stand. You know you need to change something in your life. even when You can take the actions which is in your control. But you’re not doing it. Why?

Because of a psychological state which is called helplessness.

It happens when you’ve been exposed repetitively to negative situations, things you couldn’t control, outcomes that hurt you—and now, your brain just assumes it will always be like that. So, your brain tries to protect you from the disappointment. This is not your laziness or your weakness. your brain starts thinking, like ''no matter what I do It’s not going to work out, so why should I try it again? So don’t try so I won’t be disappointed again.'' This is exactly what happens when you feel like you can change the situation, but you don’t take the actions.

But that is exactly the moment when you need to stop and say: “Wait. Whose voice is that in my head? Is that really my truth?”

Break the Pattern. The only way out is to break the pattern. And no one is going to do that for you.

Let me be honest with you—no one is coming to save you. It’s your life. Not theirs.

People say they care. They say things like, “Call me if you need anything,” or “I’m just one message away.” And sometimes they mean it. But most of the time? When the moment comes and you’re truly in need… they’re not there. And that hurts. But it’s the truth.

So don’t wait for someone to come fix your life and your mess and heal you or help you. It’s not their responsibility. It’s yours. They won't help you instead of helping they'll break you even after knowing you need them.

If therapy is available to you, go. If it’s not, read self-development books, Watch self-development videos. Pray and Talk to God. Journal. Sit with your thoughts. Do whatever helps you move forward.

But don’t wait.

Start Small, take one step today, take one step at one time and day by day you will see a big difference but when you feel that you have the power to change things and you can right now, then change it. Don’t listen to your brain when it says that no matter what I do, I will be disappointed at the end of the day. No, you won’t be .take the action and then see, it’s not what you think, it’s all in your head, you can change it, and the outcome will be different this time. And see one thing is, if you constantly think about a negative outcome negative things, everything will be negative. Nothing will be changed. But if you believe that it will be good then it will be. It might not exactly how you imagine, but the outcome will be exactly what you expect. What you think, you become. What you focus on, you feel. What you believe in, you attract.

You have to heal yourself nobody will do that for you. DON'T WAIT JUST START WITH WHAT YOU HAVE RIGHT NOW, EVEN IT'S SMALL BUT YOU MUST START.

[gbsngrll]

inside of me there are two wolves

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Take the control of your own life

2m

In life if you want something you go and get it. Here, I’m talking about your goals. you must all know in gossip girl, Blair Waldorf said destiny is for losers, it’s just a stupid excuse waiting for things to happen instead of making them happen. And I believe this very strongly. because if you really want to do something or achieve something, you do not wait for others to cooperate with you or handing over that thing to you. when you really want something as bad as you want to breathe, then you get it. Pray for it, work for it and don’t quit no matter what the situation is. People won’t support you people won’t love you, People will hate you for no reason, but these things cannot get in your way from achieving what you want because this is your life. Life is too short to live. In this short lifespan, if you keep thinking what people are thinking about you, how to impress people, how to get praise then you are putting your life in others stake. You are becoming a puppet. Living your life, according to them, if you always keep thinking how to impress other people and how to satisfy others then you are never gonna be happy. Always remember, getting praise is like depending on vertical relationship where you depend on other people's opinion to make yourself better or worthy. Honey, people won’t support you. People won’t support your dreams. People won’t support your choices because it’s not theirs People always love to think and manipulate others in a way what they want, what they want to achieve. People might use you as a channel to get what they want, but if you keep getting stuck in those loops, where maybe your loved ones, your close members are using you to get their life goals, then honey trust me, You are never gonna get what you want, and you are going to keep staying unhappy in your life it will feel that something is missing in your life and you will feel dead. You won’t have the courage to live your life as you want, so stop doing that and take the control of your life in your hand. When you take control of your life in your hand, people will get offended because now you are taking care of yourself choosing yourself and which they absolutely don’t want because now they’re losing a chance to get what they want because they now cannot use you as an equipment to get what they want. Now you focus on yourself now this time is your turn. Not theirs. You can do what you want because it is your life at the end of the day, People are not going to come to make your life, you are the only one who is going to make it so you decide whether to live up to peoples expectation get praise or get accepted by others or you become happy from within , do what you want people won’t support you. You have to start it on your own and trust me when I say this people who wants to improve themselves who wants to help themselves who wants to do something who really wants to do something nobody will help, but God helps God does help when everything is against you lots of odds , Everyone is against you, but you still believe that I am gonna make it, then you know who is with you, God, God will help. But first, you have to have the courage to change your life to take control of your own life. If not now, then when this is your time do it right now, it’s your life’s call and it is absolutely not selfish doing what you want, and if people are getting upset when you choose yourself, then trust me when I say this, those people are toxic. They are absolutely toxic. You need to create boundaries with them. Make them understand their limits. YOU CAN DO IT. GOD is with you

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letting go and start over

We are in pain because we always keep holding onto our past. Past is nothing but baggage to our current and future life. So to move on from the past, we must learn how to let go. You cannot force yourself to let go no matter how much you don’t want it to be there. You just cannot simply move on when people say you to move on. You cannot just simply lose your grip and relax a little, but the day you realize you have to admit certain defeat , you start to let go when you decide that no, it’s enough now I have to build a new life for myself which I deserve which I choose, you let go when you feel that you can no longer stick to a thing which is not meant for you. Letting go is a moment when you feel that you cannot find peace in the ruins. Always, remember, don’t force yourself to let go because whenever we force something, we hold onto it tighter and harder more than ever, instead of this, allow yourself to cry as long as you want, be a mess, that doesn’t mean you are crying for months but few days you know. When we do this, we also validate our feelings and emotions and stop seeking validation for our emotions from others. But after all of these crying and being a mess and feeling like a shit and feeling like the life is ending at the end, you will find yourself still standing, strong and new version of yourself show up and you will build a new life for yourself, then you will feel that this loss was maybe a part of the plan . But you have to take a step. Take one step for one day, then another for tomorrow and eventually day by day, you will build a new life for yourself. And then one day, you realize that everything you lose was not a punishment for you, but a process. My dear fellows always remember you are the one who have to start other people will not be cooperative with you, but that is not connected to you. You should start no matter whether others are cooperative or not. Because at the end of the day, it’s your life, not theirs. They are not responsible for your life, but you.

[innerspark-01]

Hi I'm new on this site. I'm Sia. Here to talk about mental well being and how to bring back your inner spark. Taking care of our mental and emotional wellbeing is not selfish it is very important. It decides how we are going to live this life not just surviving. It's like feeling happiness from within not forcing yourself to be happy. Feeling alive and painting your life the way you want.