I really love how misgendering is an act of colonial violence in the Imperial Radch universe.
Like when the Radch shows up and calls somebody "she" when they're not, it's not just getting their gender wrong, it's a statement that this entire part of their society doesn't matter and is going to be erased. And even when they gender someone "correctly", it's not any better. Because it's just the word that they're using, not a recognition of identity. It's insulting in a different way, and it must sting for the women who hear it and know that it's just happenstance that they're not being misgendered.
And it's constant. We talk about other people constantly. There's no escaping that violence when talking to the Radchaai.
And even when a Radchaai is trying to be respectful, they are so bad at figuring out gender that they constantly get it wrong, so even someone trying to be respectful is a reminder of the way that this imperial force erases identity and culture.















