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[respectissexy]

"I'm no better than a man!" Men being horny for women is also morally neutral. Hope this helps.

[cheshirelipstick]

[adulthumanproblem-deactivated20]

Men being horny for women isn't inherently about power though. Like this is so odd. OP is completely correct and y'all should really acknowledge that yes, straight men being horny for women IS in fact morally neutral

[myboyrozanovv]

Mens attraction being inherently predatory and destructive and needing to be restrained is, in fact, part of evangelical ideology, and i think a number of people have unrecognised evangelical beliefs, left over from their youth or gained from societal permeation of whatever. And maybe they should recognise and critically examine those beliefs. And think a bit about where they got them from, instead of thinking up feminist justifications for them.

[hunter-rodrigez]

"Mens attraction being inherently predatory" is an excuse to pretend men are mindless beasts who aren't in control of their own actions, which by extension also means they cannot be blamed for said actions.

It's "Boys will be boys" taken to the extreme.

It's the attitude that leads to bullshit like blaming rape victims for the way they were dressed.

It's not feminism, it's the exact opposite, it's a fucking scapegoat for the people these "radical feminists" claim to hate.

[quezify]

during eggtober i also want to share a couple of causes to donate to. it's not lost on me that i am making art of food while palestinians are being starved, so here are some organizations helping provide aid to those in need.

the palestine children's relief fund

the sameer project for south gaza

gaza soup kitchen

[quezify]

EGGTOBER DAY ONE

[tarragonthedragon]

always fascinated by which things people assume are unique to their culture and which they assume are universal. listening to an australian podcast right now and they are very confident that nobody will understand that 'cozzie' is short for 'swimming costume' and explain it every time it comes up, but they give zero information about swooping season because surely everyone gets attacked by birds for like a month a year

[ceasarslegion]

In my experience if youre an atheist there will be many, many times in life when you are faced with the dilemma that is "i really like this person, but their religion is so woven into the fabric of who they are that I can not voice my own beliefs around them without them taking it personally and, in a lot of cases, morally." When you are faced with this dilemma, you can either shut up and never voice your own beliefs while they continue to voice theirs unimpeded, or you can risk them seeing you as a bitch.

And im telling you right now from personal experience to always choose being a bitch. No matter how much you like someone, if they can voice their beliefs freely but your own have to be locked up tight while they begrudgingly tolerate them, that's an unhealthy dynamic that is going to boil up and explode one day. And im also telling you from experience that when that explosion happens, the religious person is the one whose side everybody takes, because as an atheist you are seen as inherently aggressive and bigoted towards religious and spiritual people even and especially in "progressive" spaces.

This is not limited to religion either, this also includes if your witchy friend is allowed to talk all day about your star chart and how it determines your personality but you saying "I dont believe in spirits or astrology or spells" sends them into a death spiral

[ceasarslegion]

Okay you guys can have this one back but the second I get called a fucking FASCIST again for this its gone again

[pukad0n]

this is killing me. get cherried idiot

[kat-witha-k]

hey everyone just so you know misgendering someone on purpose just because you personally don't like what pronoun set theyre using is still misgendering and that is still bad

[kat-witha-k]

"hey is it ok if i use they/them for you? i don't feel comfortable using it/its" how about you die by my demon blade

[kat-witha-k]

"it/its feels like its dehumanizing them! i won't use it/its for them" i, an it/its user, am going to slash you with my demon blade

[kat-witha-k]

#you know what’s more dehumanizing? deciding that you know better than it does about its own pronouns

@noodles-07 absolutely not letting you leave this in the tags

[lighthouseshepard]

fries. envelopes. ive been awake for 18 hours can i go to bed now.

[lighthouseshepard]

you know i think the fact that friends and enemies autocorrected to this and i didn't notice is reason enough i should sleep

[lighthouseshepard]

[queeranarchism]

It's a real shame that online reply guys have made 'thought experiments' into a constant ordeal of 'would you let me say the n-word to save 5 black children?' bullshit, when actually, real thought experiments are important training tools to unlearn acting on bigotry, biased instincts and propaganda.

In life you're going to encounter ethical questions that you've never considered before or you'll find reasons to question ethical questions that you always thought that you knew the answer to. And when that happens, you have to be comfortable thinking the whole things thru from all angles, even though your gut instinct tells you to settle for the easy answer that makes you comfortable.

You have to be able to ask questions like 'but is anyone harmed by the thing that disgusts me?', 'is this about improving the world or just about punishment'?, 'what if my assumptions about why people do this thing are wrong'?

You have to be comfortable not being sure yet what your conclusion will be. You have to be comfortable exploring opinions that differ from what your friends think. Thought experiments teach you this.

If you don't get comfortable doing that, propagandists will trick you into accepting a comfortable answer based on your preconceived biases and whatever new biases they want to slip in there.

[queeranarchism]

I regret to announce that I need to actually explain to insufferable people in the notes why 'would you let me say the n-word to save 5 black children?' isn't a clever little thought experiment. Let's start with a little story:

I work the door at a feminist club sometimes. We've got a big sign at the door in bold letters reading "No touch of any kind without consent, you will be kicked out". When new guests show up, we point out the rule and ask them to confirm that they'll follow this rule.

Every night, there will be a few guys whose response to this is to immediately put a finger somewhere on my body, like my shoulder or my arm, and ask "not even this?". If those guys are allowed to enter the club, they ALWAYS end up groping people. Their response to a boundary that was put in place to prevent harm, is to immediately push it, test it, see if they can do a little bit of harm, see how much harm we will tolerate. That's what that finger and "not even this?" shows.

In this club, little innocent touches without prior consent definitely happen. It's loud and it can get crowded on the dance floor and around the bar. Shoulders touch, people tap each other on their arm to signal that they want to get through the crowd. No harm is done. But "No touch of any kind without consent" stays up at the door because its an effective filter to keep out the predatory guys.

Social conventions around the n-word are a lot like that. While it is technically true that the sound of the n-word does no harm on its own and it's the intent that makes a slur into a slur, to point that out is to misunderstand why the "don't say the n-word ever" social rule is there. It's a test, like our "No touch of any kind without consent" rule. People who see that rule and respond by pushing its boundaries are telling on themselves. They're showing that they want to explore how much harm we will tolerate.

So you're not particularly clever if you invent a thought experiment that shows that the n-word isn't a magic sound that does harm on it's own. We all knew that already and you're not cleverly exposing purity culture or dogmatic liberal behavior. You're just telling on yourself. The "don't say the n-word ever" social rule is a filter that exists to get people like you to tell on yourself.

[queeranarchism]

This also branched into a bigger thing about thought experiments: Thought experiments are NOT neutral lenses which reveal inevitable truths. They're artificial realities controlled by their creators, and as such they're extremely subjective.

Clever, insightful thought experiments have no clear answer and challenge us to examine all sides of an issue, to dig deeper until we get to a more complex nuanced understanding of moral issues.

Thought experiments whose only purpose is to create a scenario in which we must inevitably say the n-word, or we must torture someone to defuse a bomb, etc. are not insightful, they just reveal that their creator would really like to be alloed to say the n word / torture. They're blunt manipulations and we have every right to refuse to play that game.

[elminx]

I’ve noticed some posts around about how you can’t romanticize your life during a fascist regime and while I deeply sympathize with this sentiment, I want you to try to understand that’s what they want you to believe.

Fascism thrives best in the cesspool of hopelessness. They want us so confused and hopeless that we give in. When you give in, you don’t fight back.

If you wait for life to look good to do the things that bring you joy; life will still be bad - you will just have less joy.

As someone who has struggled with my mental health a lot for the last thirty years, I know this struggle firsthand. And changing this belief system - the one where you spend all of your time expecting bad things so you won’t be surprised when they happen - it’s the hardest work that I have ever done. And I’m not perfect; I still have setbacks. I still experience really real fears about the state of the world and the US, in particular, because that’s where I live.

But I made a vow to myself that I will not let the choices of others ruin my life. When I made that vow, I was thinking of my parents - but it applies to the state of the government right now, too.

There are still flowers in my garden, and ripe tomatoes, and it’s almost pick-your-own apples season, and I have plans with my friends to go to as many cemetery ghost walks as we can find this October.

I still deserve to live. I still deserve to laugh. I still deserve to love. I still deserve to be as happy as I can be.

And you do, too.

[yeahawvampire]

Dan Savage.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

witnessing a surge of trans infighting at a time when our rights are under violent, organized government attack that threatens to set back 40 years of progress:

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

watching social media pit transmasc and transfem experiences against each other

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

seeing fellow trans people get tricked into arguing with each other online, meanwhile the government wants to compile our legal identities into a national registry:

[charl0ttan]

genuinely so so beautiful how much mileage we're getting out of juggling lab. its always something new like its genuinely always something fully new. every time. i love it🔴

[flowerbleedme]

we love juggling!

[adropofhumanity]

[ampersand-amplified]

cmon man just take it

[molabuddy]

having long distance friends is so fucked. do you wanna come over to my house and play (it will cost us 1 william dollars)

[innerchildabortionclinic]

i'm sorry I just burst out laughing because WHAT????????

[awihog]

^^^^^^^^^^^^ (via @nebula---dreams)

[dear-child-of-skylights]

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"Are you respecting boundaries out of love or punishment?" This is a video about respecting boundaries of estranged children without framing it as the pain of your abscence being the punishment for walking away from you and towards somewhere that feels safe.

[andielion]

People on tumblr loooove to talk about restorative justice and abolition when it’s a nebulous concept. It’s lovely to think about someone growing and changing and trying to reckon with the harm they caused but when some people actually see that person, they can’t handle it. God forbid someone says “I did something awful and I don’t want people to hurt others the way I did.” Do you just expect every shitty person to magically disappear from the earth? Do you want them to pretend it never happened?

[schafpudel]

#a lot of people have an idea of abuse where it's a trait a certain class of person has#rather than actions anyone can do (and -stop doing-)

[ir-dr]

Day 3769 - 20 September 2025

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