๐ค ๐ Marital Conflict and Reconciling Spouses Managing severe marital conflict where physical aggression or property damage manifests can cause deep distress within a long-term marriage, particularly when children are involved. While couples often experience periods of friction over decades of shared life, the escalation of disputes into physical hostility or destructive behaviour severely threatens the sanctuary of the domestic environment. For practising individuals striving to preserve their family unit, experiencing a spouse's uncontrolled outbursts demands immediate attention, spiritual reflection, and practical intervention to restore safety, respect, and mutual dignity. The Islamic Condemnation of Domestic Aggression In Islamic jurisprudence, there is no isolated legal category for a scenario where a wife exhibits physical hostility toward her husband; rather, such actions are evaluated under the comprehensive framework of Islamic ethics, marital rights, and personal conduct. Physical aggression, striking a spouse, and intentionally destroying personal property are entirely repugnant and strongly condemned in the Islamic tradition. Marriage is divinely intended to be a source of mutual comfort, emotional security, and respect, rather than an arena for physical or verbal abuse. To maintain the sanctity of the household, spouses are commanded to govern their interactions with compassion and patience, even during intense disagreements. Scriptural text mandates honourable companionship between couples: "And live with them in kindness." โ Surah An-Nisa, 4:19 When anger remains unchecked, it leads to actions that directly contradict the character of a practising Muslim. The Prophet Muhammad explicitly warned against losing self-control during disputes, emphasizing that true strength lies in restraint. Abu Hurayrah reported that the Messenger of Allah said: The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger." โ Bukhari Implementing Education and Professional Counselling When domestic disputes escalate to unacceptable behavioural levels, such as the destruction of garments or physical altercations, immediate remedial steps must be taken. Both husbands and wives require ongoing education regarding prophetic manners (adab) and the legal rights owed to each partner. It is vital for spouses to learn healthy mechanisms for conflict resolution, recognizing that anger must never express itself through physical violation or property damage. In these critical circumstances, seeking professional matrimonial counselling is an absolute necessity. A neutral, qualified third party or counsellor can help uncover the root causes of the escalation, establish firm behavioural boundaries, and equip the couple with communication tools to defuse arguments before they turn destructive. Prioritising Reconciliation Over Divorce Preserving a marriage for the sake of children is a highly commendable priority that requires immense patience and wisdom. Deconstructing a household through divorce is not the primary solution to relational friction. Problems and deep-seated conflicts must first be addressed through peaceful, constructive means, prioritizing the psychological and spiritual well-being of the entire family. Divorce is an impactful legal allowance that should only be resorted to as a final measure. It is only acceptable when every peaceful avenue of communication, behavioural correction, professional intervention, and familial reconciliation has been completely exhausted and proven unsuccessful. Prioritising peaceful resolution allows couples to heal their relationship and maintain a secure environment for their household. ๐ฌ๐๏ธ ุดุงุฑู ู
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