First Encounter: The Question “What Do You Do For A Living?” Should Be Outlawed When Meeting a Potential Benefactor
This question is the adult version of “What college are you going to?” your senior year in high school
“What are you going to do now?” when you’ve barely got your college diploma in hand.
Most women when looking for a benefactor will ask this question as a conversation starter (and obviously to determine if the man is worthwhile), but she might as well just straight up ask:
“What’s your net worth and can you afford me?”
If you are too direct early on, you risk causing a resistance that can never be lowered. Both men and women are naturally fearful and apprehensive of the opposite sex. In the initial stage of seducing him, you can never give the impression that you are looking to be financed, that you want to get in his pockets. Seem unthreatening. Learn to approach people from the side.
Lets say I’m at happy hour and I spot someone who looks like they fit my standards. First step, flirt with my eyes. If there is a positive response. I will approach him (yep, me). Speak first,this will inflate the male ego (she must really be attracted to me/think I’m hot stuff); if he only knew who he’s dealing with…..
I’ll start the conversation by complimenting him:
“You have such beautiful eyes.”
THIS will catch him off guard. Men are rarely complimented by women.
Side note: If a man looks like a good candidate, approach him. Don’t wait for him to approach you. You can’t be shy when you’re on the hunt. You need to have a go-getter mentality..
Now starts the small talk. Without coming off as a money hungry bloodsucker we need to find out:
What he does for a living?
Is he married/single? (this does matter. It determines how you handle everything moving forward)
Firstly, you only need to have a couple of questions ready in advance; if there is an attraction and connection the conversation will flow. The initial conversation should only be brief. Once you find out the answers to our two questions. Conversation over. Be the one who ends the conversation, this is important.
Back to my example, I might ask him:
“So what keeps you busy when you’re not sipping a whiskey on the rocks?” (remember to smile, smile smile!)
This question will give him the encouragement to share his line of work and hobbies. I’m indirectly asking him what he does. This will be useful for me on future dates; I’m educating myself on the things that he likes.
“Are you getting away this summer/winter?”
This question can lead to conversations about his family (married or single), reveal special interests and, since I like talking about travel, it’s a sure-fire way to keep a conversation interesting.
The art is to get the man to talk about himself. Ask the right questions, stay open ended. Ask how, why or who. As soon as you learn a little about him, ask how he did it. Or why he did it. Or what he liked about it, or what he learned from it, or what you should do if you’re in a similar situation. Show a sincere interest.
Talk very little about yourself.
End the conversation with you giving him your number.
“Well, I’ve got to run here’s my number…. Call me… chat soon sweetie/babe/honey/any endearing word (insert irresistible smile)”
Don’t wait for him to ask.
Refresher: Remember subtle touches are also an effective means of seduction and should be used. Touch him at least once during your conversation.
You’ve met a potential benefactor, talked for 15 minutes, now he’s going to walk away thinking:
“Wow, we just had a great conversation. She is awesome”.
Later when he gets home, he will realize he didn’t learn a thing about you; and that is when the fun begins…
Ladies, this is all a game. Get in that “I don’t give a damn” mindset. Don’t think you have to impress him, he needs to impress you. If you approach it as a game, you always a step ahead, you will succeed every time…
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