Vale / 25 / They/Them / Agender / Switch + Verse / Poly / t4t / tme family-abolitionist-transfeminist / trying to blog my way into being less shy about and afraid of desire lol, nsfw personal account
Hi, I'm Vale. This is a personal account where I excise my thoughts and feelings on sex and romance that I can't express elsewhere. Mostly through rbs, but also rambly original posts. If you recognize me from my main account: No you don't.
I'm open to asks and dms, and new connections in general, although be warned I often treat online communication like snail mail and I'm shy and weird. I don't mind if you take a long time to respond, there's no pressure with me. I'm really only interested in people who are like 23 at least, late 30s at most, but any adult can follow.
I'm a relationship anarchist/hierarchy-rejector who prefers making things up together as we go along, wherever that leads us. I like when it's weird. I generally bring a lot of curiosity and enthusiasm.
This is a mostly text-post based blog, with maybe occasional reblogged illustrations, because I really don't get anything out of erotic visuals of complete strangers. It doesn't take me long to be attached enough to be affected by you like that, but I do have to know and like you at least a little first, it's just the way I'm built. My tag for pictures of myself is #itsinwaves.vis
The most relevant thing about me is usually that I have a very bizarre and unstable disability. It means I can't get out much, and have to spend a lot of time alone or my condition will dramatically worsen. It's unintuitive to understand and not possible for everyone to accommodate, so, long story short, I live a very different life from most people and it makes me weird. I don't take intrusive questions about it, I'm vague for a reason. I'm very passionate about other disabled people, especially the medical-establishment-hating anti-psych noncompliant doctor biters<3
I don't have enough kinks to create a whole into/not into list, but you'll probably see a lot of general d/s dynamics and sadomasochism. I'm much more into emotional pain than physical, though I love biting, grabbing, and overstim. I really love crying and light mocking. I enjoy being on either side of any of it. I like cnc and somno when I am in a specific mood but I probably won't reblog much of it. (It will be tagged.) I know this is all pretty tame but I promise I won't judge you for whatever you are into.
In terms of fiction, I'm very into mech/robots, sometimes aliens or vamps, and always deeply fraught and intense fictional dynamics. (This isn't a fandom blog, I reblog character concepts that make me feel something sometimes, tagged #characters). I write, and I sometimes share tiny snippets under #itinwaves.origfic . I don't take it too seriously, but I enjoy it.
Please do not gender me in any way, I'm completely unaligned and do not conceptualize myself as either feminine or masculine. I'm just Vale.
Last note: I find DNI's incredibly off-putting as a practice, and the only thing I will say is that I am a very passionate transfeminist, and I do not tolerate any transmisogyny whatsoever. If you post about gendered oppression using a nonsensical male-centric approach, I don't want to be around you. If you spend your time aggressively discoursing, saving "receipts", and posting/sharing call-outs, I also do not want to be around you. Thank you.
Everyone else: Welcome to my blog! Thank you for reading<3
Update on the horrible medical study that didn't even get useful data, it turns out it did after all!!!! I have one new diagnosis and treatment plan that isn't too intimidating. I'm not sure how big of a dent it'll make with my hypersomnia but it will be something and I don't have to think about going through that again, so I'm really happy and relieved. They really made it seem like they didn't get anything😭
Yeah sex is cool but have you ever had somebody give you a bunch of little kisses all over your face until you're giggling and blushing because that is peak.
Wanting to sub partly to have an outlet for all my pent up emotions that want to come out through desperate sobbing and partly because I'm craving a context for it where it is wanted and not burdensome to the other person and partly because I want to be taken care of through it and partly to simply receive attention when I most want to be worthy of it
It sucks what a deeply, deeply unsexy word chuckle is when a low, breathy laugh is so fucking hot. Probably the biggest problem facing erotica writers and readers today
Coo is a runner-up. It's not nearly as bad but I do not really like it. Yet I want to be doing it at someone basically all the time. Preferably while holding their face and gazing adoringly into their teary eyes
