m :)

She/her 22 | Femme4Butch | Lesbian 20+ interactions only | minors & men dni

[ss3raf3mm3]

why isn't there a butch in my dms being cutesy, hot, and freaky with me at the same time . i wanna yap abt our interests , be cute together , and get freaky all in one day is that too much to ask...

[sapphic-sprite]

black lesbians honestly deserve so much more. they are constantly an afterthought in the lgbtq community despite having so much history in building it. it really hurts seeing other lgbtq members brush off black lesbians struggles to them “overreacting” or being “too emotional” over being constantly erased from their own community. listen to black lesbians. if a black lesbian tells you that you are making your lgbtq space unsafe or uncomfortable for them then you listen and make changes. it shouldn’t be controversial to say that black lesbians deserve to feel safe and accepted in the lgbtq community.

[itspartytimez]

feeling like a pretty femme princess today 🤍

[kotabutch]

being dominant about consent

“you will tell me if something makes you uncomfortable.”

“can I touch you here, sweetheart?”

“would you like me to think for you for a bit, smart girl?”

“i will always take care of you. you can put your trust in me.”

“tell me your color, or i will stop.”

“tell me with words, or i will stop”

[thebelchers]

Bob's Burgers Lo-Fry Volume II - Lofi Christmas

Visuals by Simon Chong, Ben Chuang, Phill Hayes, Dave ScarpittiMixed by Alex PrietoTracklist:00:06 | Crazy Cosmic Christmas Stuff - Produced

On December 12th, Bob's Burgers Side Orders (prev. named Behind Bob's Burgers) YouTube channel uploaded a second volume of Bob's Burgers Lo-Fry, titled "Lofi Christmas." This features a seamless loop of a snowy evening outside the Belchers household.

[vniilaa-deactivated20260316]

Wouldn't you be a futch since you're not feminine the way femmes are?

no.

there’s no definitive “femme way to be feminine”, there are so many different ways that femmes express their gender, not every one is hyperfeminine. i express my own “version” of femininity, but i am still very feminine at my core and as a person, it goes beyond my expression :)

[that1passionatedyke]

Hairy femmes, femmes with stretch marks, femmes who aren’t the most feminine, femmes that are weird with their gender, femmes with resting bitch face, fat femmes <3

[thegenderqueerfemme]

Again profusely expressing my love for gnc femmes

Including but not limited to gnc...

Femmes of colour!

Femmes who use he/him!

Femmes who use they/them!

Femmes who use neopronouns!

Femmes who want to be called "boyfriend"!

Femmes who like masculine terms and compliments!!

Femmes who dress androgynously and/or masculine!

Femmes with deep voices!

Trans and nonbinary femmes!

Intersex femmes!

Femmes who have had or want top surgery!

Femmes who have had or want bottom surgery!

GNC FEMMES 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

[demonbo1]

My girl 💜

[9710144]

[crankshaftcowboy-deactivated202]

I think my queer, neurodivergent people need to hear this. You don't owe everyone your kindness. So many of us grow up trying to fit in just to feel safe, and I know for me, that pushed me headfirst into people pleasing and trying not make waves so I didn't stand out more than I already did. You don't have to bend over backwards to be accepted. You get to speak up when something doesn't feel good. You're not for everyone, but everyone isn't for you either. You're allowed to decide who you let in. You're not an asshole for choosing to stand up for yourself. And while we're at it, you're allowed to make mistakes. You're allowed to get shit wrong sometimes. As long as you're doing everything you can to learn from it and do better, you're still more than worthy of good, beautiful things. Shame hurts and we could all use a little less of that in our lives.

[mushroominaforest]

Shout out to the doctor who responded with complete sincerity when I (on anesthesia) uttered the phrase “chat are we cooked” in her medical professional vicinity. You’re such a real one for that fr fr

[that1passionatedyke]

Due to the discourse on butches here’s my butch appreciation post. I love butches, butches that are or aren’t hairy, butches with long hair, butches with short hair, butches with or without top surgery and bottom surgery, butches on t, butches that aren’t on t, butches on estrogen, trans fem butches not on estrogen, plus sized butches, butches that are skinny, butches that are or aren’t curvy, gnc butches, butches with or without complex relationship to gender identities, butches with or without facial hair, butches that pass and butches that don’t, butches that don’t act like how people think they’re supposed to, loser butches, butches who wear makeup, butches who like feminine things, butches with or without tattoos, butches who are (stone) tops, butches who bottom or switch, butches who are butch4butch, butches that are butchfemme, butches that are or aren’t service tops, poc butches, butches that think they aren’t butch enough, butches that use different pronouns, he/him butches, butches that are Transmasc/ transfem butches, transmen butches, lesboy butches, intersex butches, butches that are twinks, boyfriend butches, asexual butches, neurodivergent butches, disabled butches, butches that are chronically ill, butches that are or aren’t my type, older butches, baby butches, I love and admire ALL of you.

[atyourservicetop]

that dorky butch will not only save you but will cherish you for everything that you are fyi

[kosmogrl]

I will get there

[furiousgoldfish]

Living only thru fiction and ‘magical thinking’ are common childhood ways to survive the cruel reality of abuse. If you don’t find any safety, understanding, support or nurturing in your immediate environment, the only other place you can look as a child is books, series, movies, anime. Child fiction specifically deals with a lot of trauma, lots of independent and abandoned children who you can relate to, with adults being absent, uninvolved, or dead in the story. Protagonists deal with a hell of trouble on their own and succeed, and it’s hopeful that you could too. They also have loyal friend groups often risking lives for each other, which is a common desire to have for an isolated, trapped and friendless child. Having someone passionately ready to risk everything for you would do so much for your feeling of self value.

Magical thinking is another common way for children to survive abuse, and it can be interlaced with fiction. Since the forces of evil in your young life are so strong and prevalent, you have to imagine the forces of good are as strong and prevalent too. So that if you suffer pain and struggle past your endurance, then this means miracles could happen too. Waiting to be taken away, to be transported to another dimension which is your real home, to be materialized in a book or a movie, to be given your fictional friends in real life, to be given magical powers, believing you are special and chosen, believing you will become strong and powerful if you only wish it enough, and this feeling like an inevitable reality, that is magical thinking. It can get dangerous, because as a child you’ve learned that for a little bit of good, you need to suffer a lot, so by that logic, to get your miracle, it can feel like you need to sacrifice something big, pray endlessly, provide extraordinary circumstances and relentless faith, believe it into becoming the truth, or even give up on the rest of your life only to make it happen. It can go as far as a child founding their own personal religion or set of beliefs that are very removed from reality. 

Magical thinking is designed to help you survive as a child, but it can grow into an obsession, or something that takes over your life and becomes impossible to let go of, because you feel your life now depends on it. It’s a life of waiting and inability to let go of the thing you’re waiting for, because you lived just for that, it was the only thing that made sense.

Not being able to bear your reality, you can get stuck only feeling alive in fiction, or thru maladaptive daydreaming, and these strategies to protect yourself are very hard to let go of. If you’ve experienced these, it’s likely you’ve been dealing with trauma that couldn’t be faced, couldn’t be processed by a kid, and wasn’t survivable without a fictional escape. There is no shame or embarrassment in getting lost in fiction, magical thinking, or daydreaming; in fact, you’re still alive because of it. You wouldn’t have gotten lost in them if there was any other alternative. You gave yourself a reason to go on where there was none. You found a way to keep being alive thru unsurvivable. Your mind saved you in the best way it could.

[furiousgoldfish]

Reassurance Masterlist

My blog is mostly harsh to read, so here’s every reassuring post I made:

When you feel it “wasn’t that bad”

How loving parents act towards their kids

You’ve done enough to try and understand your parents

Abuse towards you cannot be justified

Abuse and trauma have no benefits

When you feel you weren’t abused enough

There was nothing you could have done differently to avoid abuse

It’s not your fault you feel like you don’t belong

Talking about abuse isn’t whining

Craving abuse is not your fault

Self-harming is not your fault

Intrusive thoughts are not your fault

Nobody in your situation would be able to get it together

Needing attention, comfort and validation is normal and human

You’re allowed to feel your feelings

You cannot provoke abuse, and you did not ask for it

Abuser’s point of view is not valid

Abusive parents can’t tell you who you are

Responsibility for abuse lies on abuser, not on you

Your pain is not a burden on others

When you struggle to call yourself a survivor

You do not deserve abuse even if you feel addicted to it

Your abuser didn’t have to hurt you

Nobody made them abuse you

Your future won’t be lost even if you can’t move forward right now

You are alive because of yourself

There are good things in you even if you don’t see it

Your problem isn’t that you’re not good enough

You can make up for everything abuse damaged in you

Relapses are not your fault and can be time-related

Craving abuse can mean you’re only craving comfort

Survivors of abuse will strive to create an environment of compassion