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Jordan | He/Him | 24 | Gay man | Artist | Scene King | Internet funny man | Retro games and nostalgia

[j0kb0x]

“You can’t hate your parents!” i’m permanently disabled because of them. son. 🥀

[j0kb0x]

I’ve never cheated on any of my previous partners before and I was always hesitant and never really content on breaking off with them. The times I broke off were painful. I was always incapable of doing so due to intense abandonment trauma, and looking back at it, I should’ve just accepted that some things aren’t really meant to be. I hated myself so much and I was so desperate to feel wanted that I actively prevented myself from growing.

I suppose this is the consequence of having an unloving family who betrays you whenever they want, and keeps reminding you at every turn that you’re unlovable.

I’ve been better at prioritizing myself since then but it still feels… Wrong. It feels wrong to say “I’m lovable.” This whole concept that i’m inherently repulsive and unworthy has been so deeply engrained into me by my mother.

“You are incredibly hard to love, Jordan. Y’know that?” Is a sentence from my mother that keeps replaying in my head sometimes. All because I needed surgery. My mere existence was a burden. To her. To the other people around me. This is what I was taught my whole life.

[wheresmybubble]

Showing up is enough ✨.

[j0kb0x]

The more I see pride flags made by pedos trying to wedge their way into the lgbtq, the more I think this might be another republican attempt to paint us as unhinged psychopaths. Kinda like that clovergender bullshit a while back. I think you radqueer mfs might be falling for something 😭

[j0kb0x]

If I die tonight, here’s some quick advice: I am a male. The woman who wants to bury me is an abuser.

[ruinedchildhood]

[danceundersparklinglights]

i’m going to be really honest with you guys i think the tendency to read the absolute worst possible intentions into every action you don’t agree with is getting too automatic and it’s eating you from the inside out

[daily-reminders-that-ur-enough]

someone loves you

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[j0kb0x]

Demanding people get a diagnosis for their mental illness as mandatory to be seen is classism. Not everybody has the money to spare to get properly recognized and treated. Don’t demonize self diagnosers for those in the USA and other countries without free healthcare.

Also, sometimes getting a proper diagnosis is straight up a death sentence. You’ll be denied jobs simply for having DID. Or schizophrenia. Anything stigmatized and categorized as “dangerous.” Sometimes it’s best if you try to get treated without the labels. If you can even afford a therapist that is. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been gaslit about events due to the fact I have CPTSD and am therefore “Insane.”

A good medical professional will ask for your input and opinion before diagnosing you anyway. Because you know yourself better than anyone else. Just make sure you do intensive research on your symptoms.

The very clear symptoms don’t just MAGICALLY disappear because some moron on the internet said “You actually don’t have that illness, because I said so!”

[funtergeist]

dess pov

[ejgto]

[perfectquote]

“Be the love you never received.”

— Rune Cazuli

[yand3retard]

[baexywth]

[j0kb0x]

What a delicious treat! A pastry with a little label is put in front of you and it seems to suggest there’s cream filling.

But when you take a bite…

The pastry is hollow.

[charlesoberonn]

America has a weird relationship with cults where they’re terrified of small cults (or organizations they think are cults) but completely normalized massive cults that hurt many more people (eg: LDS Church, Jehovah’s Witnesses, the Amish, Scientology, most Megachurches)

[charlesoberonn]

To anybody asking if the Amish are a cult, the answer is yes, very much so.

They’re a high control group that isolate you from society. The cult decides how you dress, how you behave, who you marry and how. They control what you know, blocking all information from the outside world. They control how you feel and what you’re allowed to think with threats of both social and supernatural harm. They’re a cult.

[charlesoberonn]

The best method to determine if a group is a cult, in my opinion, is Steven Hassan’s (cult expert and former cult member himself) BITE model.

BITE stands for Behavior Control, Information Control, Thought Control, and Emotional Control.

The more points a group “scores” on the model, the more of a cult it is.

I think this model is the best one for several reasons:

It’s more nuanced than “cult” or “not cult” and doesn’t make false equivalences between groups

It’s versatile, applying to groups big and small, and cults of all kinds, religious, political, financial, etc.

It focuses on what’s important, which is what the cult does to its members, and those members’ experiences, and not on irrelevant details like how uncommon their doctrines are or whether they have a charismatic leader

[charlesoberonn]

This is a great example of Thought Control used by cults whenever they’re confronted with criticism.

[saxifraga-x-urbium]

#you might notice that there are a lot of similarities between cult techniques and those of abusive partners#and that is an important thing to be aware of

yah that goes in the post

[charlesoberonn]

The creator of the BITE Model considers abusive relationships to be two-person cults.

[forgotn1]

It’s important to note that almost every sect of evangelical christianity in the US today fails the BITE Model.

[alp-crispy]

This was the post that lead to breaking my JW mindset. Been a while since I seen it.

[charlesoberonn]

I’m glad I could help in your deconstruction, if only a little bit. I wish you all the luck in your journey moving forward.

[tuulikki]

And to highlight a key aspect of the “two-person cult” dynamic:

Not all high-control groups are religious. Secular cults exist.

I’d strongly recommend reading this brief bio of Janja Lalich. She’s a deprogramming therapist, but she’s also a cult survivor from a political cult.

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

high control groups can also form in friend groups and online! any social group can theoretically be a high control enviroment that’s abusive. any group can be a cult if someone uses that group to control and abuse others.

[fuzzyghost]