Yesterday, I went to see a movie entitled âEveryday I Love Youâ with my friend.Â
Tristan - Gerald  Anderson
Details about the movie relevant to this post:
Audreyâs waiting for Tristan to wake up from a coma because of a vehicular accident. Before the accident, Audrey told Tristan that she is applying for a hosting internship in Manila which he did not like and sparked an argument. Tristan is the kind of boyfriend who tells Audrey what to do and what not to do. Because of this Audrey changed. Her family noticed that she was not herself anymore.While waiting for Tristan to wake up, Audrey met Ethan who unlocked her desire to host once again. She had the chance to make her dreams come true which brought back her old self. The one that her family missed, her happy and funny side.
I canât help but recall something from my past thatâs quite similar with the story. The part where Gerald Andersonâs character - Tristan - is the âyou should and should not do this or thatâ kind of boyfriend.
Well, I had my first boyfriend (havenât had any since our breakup up to now) at the age of 15 (4th year high school). Our relationship lasted for 11 months.Â
It was a good relationship except for one thing - we had been somewhat hard on each other. He became just like Tristan in the movie. **Not to give all the blame to him, I might have reciprocated his acts and I think I became the âjealousâ type of girlfriend at some point** I did not notice it during our relationship (or I noticed it but did not mind it) maybe because of the cliche phrase âLove is blindâ. Yes, I strongly attest to this phrase.Â
So over the years, of course Iâve moved on. I even consider us friends even though we havenât talked in years. :) (mamaya assumera lang pala ako eh no? Hahahaha)
With this experience, Iâve realized something.Â
Maybe some people go through these things for us to:Â See our self worth. That we are not somebodyâs robot for them to tell us what to do or what not to do. That we have the freedom to do whatever we like and nobody has the right to stop us. We should have the courage to stand up for ourselves and not to submit ourselves to them just to keep the relationship. We donât need to change for anybody.Â
If in a relationship, weâre not happy and the relationshipâs not healthy anymore, then it needs to end. Donât cling onto something that kills you inside. It will be hard, yes, but it will definitely be worth it. Maybe someday weâll meet someone who will love us for who we are. That we need not do or not do things just for him/her to be happy and satisfied. We just have to be ourselves and he/she will love us unconditionally.Â
Audrey found hers, maybe Iâll find mine too. âSA TAMANG PANAHONâ :â)
by Janella Andaya (November 11, 2015 10:15PM)
