On the resurfacing of purity culture and right-wing pandering
Disclaimer!! This is a less formal post, as itās on a topic that has made me pretty mad. Itās also my first post in a long time, since Iāve been busy with school and mental issues. Please do take the time to read and reflect on what Iāve said, and interact with this post! Iād love to see what people think about in comments or reblogs! Enjoy!!
Recently, Iāve been quite active on social media, watching what happens as TikTok goes dark in America. I was curious to see, wondering to myself, āWhat, if anything, is going to grow in popularity in the final week?ā Just as soon as I asked myself that, I got an answer. Wait, so weāre hating on polyamory??
The hatred so shamelessly flung at poly people hasnāt been a new thing, but it certainly flared up in the last moments of American TikTok. Itās all the same insults; being cheaters, being homewreckers, and really just a lack of empathy and understanding.
What is truly disheartening, though, is that many members of the queer community seem perfectly fine jumping on that bandwagon. It seems that those who are āunapologetically queerā and āsafe-spaces for those who are differentā refuse to see anything other than what they were told to be true, and honestly, the need for purity in their own beliefs.
As Iāve said before, Christian rhetoric has been spread from parents to child, starting at birth. As such ideas are shared, those ideas embed themselves in the minds of young children, and though those children may grow to be queer and atheist or agnostic or something anti-Christian, the values become internalized and integrated into their personality.
What Iām inclined to believe is that a lot of queer people are worried about their safety, and think that clinging to conservative values and morals might save them from the wrath of the right. However, thatās already happening with trans people, and everyone is seeing the results of that, which do not lean in favour of having āthe good ones.ā
Not only that, but many of those people are absolute hypocrites. You canāt be āunapologetically queerā and shun other queer people because you donāt understand how they can ādo something like that.ā You canāt call them all cheaters, yet fight against the stereotypes of all gays being āmolestersā and all trans people being āsocialist groomers.ā Youāre essentially doing the same thing done to you unto others, claiming all members of the group are doing the same, immoral things.
Obviously, some people are cheaters. Obviously, some people are absolutely awful to be around. But just because there was a gay man who was a serial murderer and rapist does not mean all gay men are serial murderers and rapists. So obviously, some poly people are liars and cheats, but that doesnāt sum up the whole group.
Next, itās clear your problem is with cheaters, and as cheaters are just liars with extra steps, you hate liars. The thing is, with a healthy relationship, poly relationships donāt include lying. Now, I donāt want to speak for the poly community, but itās my understanding that what keeps poly relationships going is honesty. While some partners may not date others, they know each other and at happy with each other. To my understanding, those who lie in these relationships are the problem and get removed from such relationships. What makes cheating actually cheating is the aspect of lying.
If youāre saying, āmy problem is with claiming to love multiple people,ā then boy, have I got a surprise for you. I bet you love people. Your mum, dad, siblings, cousins, aunts, friends, perhaps your dog. You love people, maybe not all romantically, but you love more than one person. Humans have always had the capacity to love, and loving more than one person romantically isnāt really all that different. Even if you still donāt understand, why would you hate someone for having more love to share than you?
Is it jealously? Resentment? Perhaps a bad personal experience? If so, do you also believe that detransitioners should be able to spew hate towards the trans community, just because they harbour jealousy and resentment and had a bad personal experience with it? If yes, then youāre a fucking cunt. If no, then you are upholding some insane double-standards.
Wait wait wait, why am I talking about this when this post is about purity culture? Well, I believe this is yet another stepping stone to building another castle. Literally, weāre reverting to the belief system of the gilded ages.
In recent years, progress to create a more welcoming, accepting world has been crushed backwards. We had moved one step forward, and now weāre fifteen steps back. With Trump being reelected, Canada facing the threat of a conservative majority, and many countries cracking down on trans and gay youth, itās clear purity culture is back and bigger than ever. Sex is taboo, being gay is taboo, and right now, being poly is a bloody nightmare. Iām not even exaggerating, I havenāt had a sex-ed class in two years.
In simple terms: weāre fucked. Gay people are fucked, trans people are fucked, POCs are fucked, neurodivergents are fucked, the poor are fucked, non-Christians are fucked, everyone is fucking fucked. Should purity culture persist and people lean further right to ākeep themselves safe from hatred,ā everyone gets fucked right up their gaping asses. So please, gain some consciousness, move away from the right-wing propaganda, and try to be a nice person maybe.
TL;DR: The people hate poly people, but actually they just hate everything that isnāt typically Christian, the world is in shambles, donāt be a fucking twat.
If you read this far, I hope you may have changed your mind about some things, and that this post is actually coherent because itās 01.30 and I am severely dehydrated and definitely procrastinating studying for my math final. So uhhh please reblog idk like and subscribe or whatever š
I might post tomorrow or I might post in 2027ā¦ either way Iām happy I got to actually finish writing this (I have many a unfinished drafts).
