A Quagmire of Unresolved Confessions

I'm Jess. I'm 22 and a bit concerned I may turn into a Katy Perry song. I love to look back at things I've written or things I love when I was younger. I adore my family a little too much. I have (altogether) 10 siblings, only one of whom is a full blood sibling. I don't tend to be very good at making friends, simply because I have a few good ones and they're all I could need.

[meredithbklyn]

This is the thing: When you hit 28 or 30, everything begins to divide. You can see very clearly two kinds of people. On one side, people who have used their 20s to learn and grow, to find … themselves and their dreams, people who know what works and what doesn’t, who have pushed through to become real live adults. Then there’s the other kind, who are hanging onto college, or high school even, with all their might. They’ve stayed in jobs they hate, because they’re too scared to get another one. They’ve stayed with men or women who are good but not great, because they don’t want to be lonely. … they mean to develop intimate friendships, they mean to stop drinking like life is one big frat party. But they don’t do those things, so they live in an extended adolescence, no closer to adulthood than when they graduated. Don’t be like that. Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either. Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with your journal. Ask yourself some good questions like: “Am I proud of the life I’m living? What have I tried this month? … Do the people I’m spending time with give me life, or make me feel small? Is there any brokenness in my life that’s keeping me from moving forward?” Now is your time. Walk closely with people you love, and with people who believe … life is a grand adventure. Don’t get stuck in the past, and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet earned. Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep traveling honestly along life’s path.

Relevant magazine (via charliebravo)

[ppaction]

Hint for politicians: If you are this clueless about female anatomy, you really shouldn’t be trying to legislate it. 

[jessie-bee-blog]

Oh gosh my colleague has just asked me to call a customer and deliver some news they're not going to like about a mistake I made and you know what those anxiety meds are not bloody strong enough!

[mercy-nerfs-deactivated20200127]

just in case people needed some perspective as to how much a billion actually is

1 million seconds is just over a week and a half

1 billion seconds is about 35 years

[ssweet-dispositionn]

Whoa

[welcometolotr]

By their last few meetings, Luthien had become honestly afraid of Celegorm: for the desperation in his eyes, the hunger in his voice, and the grief in his soul. She saw how being around Curufin’s madness - far more dangerous - twisted his own. As the years passed, what was originally an annoyed dismissal turned into wary rejection and finally fearful avoidance.

Outward beauty was no indicator of innocence, as she well knew, but by his end Celegorm the Fair inspired in her only fear.

[bl-ossomed]

Are you in love with someone?

Nah I got shit to do

[leanedon]

Whatever you choose, however many roads you travel, I hope that you choose not to be a lady. I hope you will find some way to break the rules and make a little trouble out there. And I also hope that you will choose to make some of that trouble on behalf of women. —Nora Ephron

http://joannagoddard.blogspot.com/2014/09/15-career-tips-from-smart-women.html (via leanedon)

[ales-art]

… aaaand Finrod again >.>

[fancyeliza-deactivated20200804]

how many men who say they’re in the friendzone are actually in the “I was just nice to him because I felt bad for him but now he’s getting all clingy and manipulative to the point that he is making me regret basic human kindness which I feel really guilty about but I just want to be free from this nightmare” zone

[ridleydaisy]

[captainlordauditor]

#headcanon that when stark restarts shield#and brings nick back in#he sets up nick’s computer access so it follows his good eye#and whatever pops does so in front of him#wherever he’s looking#and also takes into account any depth perception issues due to only having the one eye#and tony just does it because he sort of makes for easier user access because he imagines no one else gets as much done as he does#he does the same thing for bruce’s computer access at the tower#doing research and eliminating triggers and flashing things from the interface#and generally subtly eliminating stress-inducing material#i just really like my headcanon that tony knows his friends have disabilities and works to accommodate them#and also sometimes he sends pepper in to give bruce a hug#because bruce needs hugs#and pepper is very good at them

[lexrhetoricae]

^This. Tony Stark would be the world’s best advocate of universal design. He’d be a star in prosthetics (isn’t that what the armor is?). He’d write software to help people with aphasia find their words. He’d make screen readers actual workable technology. 

Not because he feels sorry for us, not just because he identifies with us, but because it’s a problem that he can solve. And he can solve these things easily, and he just doesn’t get why the rest of the world doesn’t do it, too.

[lodino]

You silly little girl, you think you’ve survived so long that survival shouldn’t hurt anymore. You keep trying to turn your body bullet proof. You keep trying to turn your heart bomb shelter. You silly thing. You are soft and alive. You bruise and heal.

Clementine von Radics (via skinnyhippies)

[superbestiario]

“I saw that the camera could be a weapon against poverty, against racism, against all sorts of social wrongs. I knew at that point I had to have a camera.” – Gordon Parks

Segregation history, Gordon parks. 1956

[humansofnewyork]

"Who’s influenced you the most in your life?" “My principal, Ms. Lopez.” “How has she influenced you?” “When we get in trouble, she doesn’t suspend us. She calls us to her office and explains to us how society was built down around us. And she tells us that each time somebody fails out of school, a new jail cell gets built. And one time she made every student stand up, one at a time, and she told each one of us that we matter.”

[thecrownlesskings]

FAVORITE TOLKIEN CHARACTERS {1/?} » AREDHEL

~Aredhel Ar-Feiniel, the White Lady of the Noldor, daughter of Fingolfin, dwelt in Nevrast with Turgon her brother, and she went with him to the Hidden Kingdom. But she wearied of the guarded city of Gondolin, desiring ever the longer the more to ride again in the wide lands and to walk in the forests, as had been her wont in Valinor.

[micdotcom]

Why is the media overlooking Shaneka Thompson, the other victim of Saturday’s NYPD shooting? 

Since the shooting of New York City police officers Rafael Ramos and Wenjian Liu on Saturday, a flurry of news reports hit the Internet. But there’s one big part of the crime that’s being left out of reports: Before the shooter killed the cops in their patrol car, he shot his ex-girlfriend.

[sourcedumal]

The media is overlooking this because if they focus on her, they can’t use the killer as a scapegoat anymore

[freebowling]

Leelah Alcorn was a 17 year old transgender woman artist. She grew up in a very religious Christian family. When she came out as trangender to her parents they told her it was a phase and sent her to therapy. The therapies they sent her to were religious ones that told her things like god makes no mistakes, told her she was selfish, and that the only way to cure depression was to follow gods path. She came out as “gay” at school so people wouldn’t be as shocked when she came out as trans. Her friends were accepting but her parents called her an embarrassment. They took away all electronics for 5 months and kicked her out of public school.

She was an artist. The drawing above was drawn by her. 

She committed suicide on December 29th due to the transmisogyny caused by her family. Please remember her and the other transgender people how lose their lives to transphobia/transmisogny. 

Link to her tumblr (warning that it contains her suicide note and sensitive material)

Link to news article

R.I.P LEELAH ALCORN 

[rookiemag]

The world lost another great and talented young woman on Sunday. May Leelah Alcorn rest in power. And may we see a day when all trans people can get the love and support they truly need.

-Suzy

[npr]

Before Google there was — that paragon of accuracy and calm — the librarian. The New York Public Library recently came upon a box of questions posed to the library from the 1940s to the ’80s — a time capsule from an era when humans consulted other humans for answers to their daily questions and conundrums.

Here’s one salacious example: “I went to a New Year’s Eve Party and unexpectedly stayed over. I don’t really know the hosts. Ought I to send a thank-you note?” asked a “somewhat uncertain female voice” during a mid-afternoon telephone call on New Year’s Day, 1967.

Other patrons inquired about the life cycle of an eyebrow hair, how many neurotic people were in the United States, the name of Napoleon’s horse, and just how do you put up wallpaper? As one patron tells the librarian over the phone: “I have the paper; I have the paste. What do I do next? Does the paste go on the wall or the paper?”

The NYPL will be sharing these questions from the archive every Monday on its Instagram account with the hashtag: #letmelibrarianthatforyou.

Librarian Rosa Caballero-Li says that today, more than 100 questions still come into the NYPL’s Reference and Research Services desk every 24 hours. It’s not just fact checking — it’s questions of etiquette, opinion, contact information, even shopping.

"We answer everything," Caballero-Li tells NPR’s Linda Wertheimer. "Patrons can call us and reach out to us for anything they feel curious about, any service that they need — and I think that surprises a lot of people."

Before The Internet, Librarians Would ‘Answer Everything’ — And Still Do