bits of limerence

xxiv | virgo | ar lath ma fen’harel

[stringcage]

Years of personal growth can be unraveled in 2 days at your parents house

[mokopirirakaugalaxias]

2 hours if they’re experts

[desinteresse]

It’s crazy how low self-worth fucks with peoples lives

[desinteresse]

“What will I be if I don’t graduate/don’t get a promotion/don’t get my shit together/don’t make this relationship work?” You would be a perfectly normal human being who is inherently valuable and who possesses many talents and good traits

[desinteresse]

“What if I fail even when I tried my very best?” The world keeps turning and you will find many other things you will succeed at.

[tengreatcoats]

[legitimately]

*sees a beloved mutual in the notes* hi honey

[tintheelvenking]

Here's to the people who weren't abused by their parents, but whose parents sucked anyways. Here's to people whose parents fucked up raising you out of ignorance and not malice. Here's to the kids whose parents didn't know what to do with you so they did nothing at all. Here's to people whose parents are getting better and growing as people but still hurt you. Here's to every mean comment that wouldn't have been so bad if it hadn't come from your mom; here's to awkward family dinners because you're all trying to forget;

here's to you, survivor of a thousand 'not as bad as it could have been' hurts. I see you. You aren't alone.

[sculien]

Beth Dutton Yellowstone 5x01

[secondbeatsongs]

somehow instead of saying "as a treat", I've started using the phrase "for morale", as if my body is a ship and its crew, and I (the captain) have to keep us in high spirits, lest we suffer a mutiny in the coming days.

and so I will eat this small block of fancy cheese, for morale. I will take a break and drink some tea, for morale. I will pick up that weird bug, for morale.

I'm not sure if it helps, but it does entertain me

[havingcompassion-deactivated202]

Once you stop trying to entertain this imaginary audience and start living for yourself things should get a bit better

[gowns]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Imaginary_audience

this is a developmental stage of adolescents

[gowns]

do you think that social media is keeping larger numbers of us in a state of arrested development?

this is rhetorical – since clearly a lot of people find this sentiment relateable

the truly painful fact is that the internet provides an opportunity to craft a “personal fable” for everyone; it is now both highly personal and highly anonymized. you are a brand in a sea of brands. 

adolescents are self-conscious because of an “imaginary audience,” something that was, in the 1960s, a false concept. but today, if you use social media regularly, you actually do have an audience. what is the effect of this? probably drags the brain more into self-conscious ego-centrism; makes people more susceptible to trends; maybe this is what makes “internet discourse” so vile, because it’s so terribly egocentric + responsive to its own audience.

unfortunately there’s no way to undo what’s already been done. the cat’s out of the box, the porridge has been stirred, the universe tends towards entropy. it will be interesting to see how these machines shape our brains, and how future generations might resist the lure of audiences and fables

[gentlier]

This is why tumblr is my only form of social media. Because no one on tumblr cares about their “audience.” At least not in the same way as one might on twitter, reddit, snapchat, or, especially, instagram and tiktok. You can have a 30,000 note post and 5 followers. You can consistently get 0 notes and have 1,000 followers. I’ve tried all other forms of social media and it never stuck. I feel like tumblr is the last bastion, for all it’s faults and flaws.

[chharliedayarchive]

Don’t get attached to unpopular ships because you will run out of fic and die

[chaoticfandomthot]

Alternatively: create the content and become adored by like 3 people forever

[sugarmint-dreams]

Happy 31st anniversary to Sailor Moon ☽

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my shop

[pathologising]

your 20s is all about the fog, actually

[chloeinletters]

I’m sorry!!! I’m sorry that we can’t go back!!! And for all the things we can’t remember. But I’m glad we did it!! The love will always be there!

[papayajuan2019]

the night is still young. i can do yoga and use my oil pastels. i can cut another fruit. i can write in my journal. i can make a poem. i can invite the figure outside my window in

[scenicframes]

fleabag (2016–2019) art by @ratsandlilies.art

[sweatermuppet]

headphone cord unplugged by furniture 6,000 dead 23,459 injured

[toastbutteregg]

[howelljenkins]

ok maybe i romanticize everything a little a lot