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one of the most boring lessons I’ve learned is that when a task feels overwhelming, you just have to start doing it. Even if you’re not sure how to do 90% of it, look for one small component that seems close and start there. Sometimes it’s reading one article on the topic, or searching one related term, or literally just googling how to do the task. Do anything other than thinking about it. The process of working on a thing inherently makes it less scary.

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when avoiding the task doesn’t even free you from the obligation of it because youll still be thinking about it fucking constantly

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theambitiouswoman

Stop doing out of character things to teach someone a lesson or try to “get even.” It doesn’t prove a point, it just pulls you out of alignment with who you are. I won’t do anything out of character to prove a point to their disrespect. I’m not matching anyone’s trash energy or try to prove a point or anything to someone who disrespects me. That’s just too close to proving myself to someone who already showed me is beneath me

A person with good values can you see your worth even if they can’t reach it. And they act accordingly or leave respectfully. Really need you guys to understand this

Once a person disrespects you, lowering yourself to their level just shows you’re willing to abandon your standards to match their behavior. And the moment you do that, you blur the line between what you tolerate and what you become

Real power isn’t in retaliation. It’s in restraint, clarity, and boundaries. It’s in being so grounded in your standards that disrespect doesn’t provoke you, it disqualifies them

You don’t teach people how to treat you by acting like them. You teach them by what you allow, what you ignore, and what you walk away from. If a person doesn’t treat you how you treat them or deserve to be treated, you leave. “Easier said than done.” Not really

It only feels hard when you’re more attached to the person than you are to your standards. When you are looking for love outside of yourself, because you’re not giving it to yourself. When you start valuing your peace, your self respect, and your time more than temporary connection, the decision becomes extremely clear. If it doesn’t feel that way, then you’re just not at the place with yourself I am describing. Because it indeed becomes extremely clear

You’re not losing them. You’re choosing yourself

And that’s the standard. You should never lower or lose yourself to keep anyone

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The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse

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until you learn the lesson

angelsaxis

im not a feminist just for me. i always find it worrying and confounding when a woman denounces feminism because she believes her needs are met. what about the women and girls who don't have what you have? who don't have a job, or education, or safety of any kind? its fuck them just because you're set? you don't see a woman get abused and think there should be some way to fight this?

goose-the-corvid

If I just keep repeating this to myself in a Tommy Shelby voice maybe I will get my shit together

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lakemojave

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