expanding on my thoughts because they got too long to reply to cee's comment lol:
please note that i'm coming from this as a 23 yo who is actively seeing how this is affecting cishet men in my generation, this probably isn't going to apply AS MUCH to people 30+. also, this probably reads as super generalized, this is your default “not all men” disclaimer lmao.
i really agree with your other post, where you were answering a similar question from an anon, where you mention specifically that kinks are going untagged (not just in audios! in fucking fanfic too!) and that porn culture is blurring the line between kink and sex in a lot of ways. i think that's made hookup culture a lot more traumatic for women and fem presenting people specifically, which has in turn made hookup culture almost a form of selfharm for some women and fem presenting people that i know. this has in turn, permeated into what once was considered to be a safe space for female sexuality (see romantasy, see erotic audios being openly discussed in front of minors on social media platforms that cater towards children like tiktok, etc, etc, etc). there are so many men that use this stuff as an excuse to abuse women and so many men who have only seen kink porn and therefore believe women inherently like this stuff. getting choked during a hookup without first negotiating that kink is so fucking common. i've had friends who have been slapped without having that negotiated, like it's BAD. and SCARY. because of the internet, these safe spaces for female sexuality are oftentimes being seen by men as well. which in turn, for a lot of men i think, gives them this excuse of “oh, women talk about and like this, therefore i can do this to women,” which is very broad and generalizing. every person is different, just because you saw one girl on the internet talk about dark mafia smut doesn’t mean that every single chick wants to be locked up in a basement.
like the term “good girl” has feel run into the absolute fucking ground because it’s the only form of praise men think women like because that’s what they see when they hear women talk about it on social media. i think that poorly done daddy dom content is a mix of men seeing what women talk about in terms of female sexuality and kink in this very very specific bubble, the blurring of lines between porn and hookup culture, and just smashing them together. the male audio writers that create daddy dom content know that women like calling men daddy, but they don’t necessarily know why, which is the main disconnect. and once again, that’s not to say that there aren’t women that like this content (there are) or that there are women who aren’t writing this content (it’s very abundant), but if we’re talking audio porn specifically the most egregious daddy dom content is written by men who know the kink, think it’s hot, and are approaching it almost entirely from their perspective. imo, bad daddy dom audios are almost self-masturbatory and THAT’S why i don’t like them. you’re creating a product for other people (typically women! whose sexuality has been vilified for literal centuries! if not millenia!) and not considering WHY people want that product.
why i think women are gravitating more towards this content and why women write really bad daddy dom content is a whole other conversation and tangent i’d be happy to expand on, but like, considering that a good chunk of VAs on GWA make their own scripts, talking about men writing bad daddy dom feels more important to this conversation. anyway, those are some of my thoughts on the subject lol.
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