[junglejim4322]

Something that I have noticed is I know almost nobody my age that goes to a food pantry. I know people who regularly run out of money for food and in general have to eat an unsuitable diet because that’s what they can afford and they still don’t go to a food bank, im not sure if it’s because they’re embarrassed or maybe if you didn’t grow up going you don’t know much about it but if you’re financially struggling I really recommend it. And look into other options for food assistance too like community fridges and gardens and other programs that can assist you, where I live Salvation Army pays for an allotted amount of grocery delivery for low income people every month, in the summer farmers take excess produce to the library to be taken by anyone who needs it, etc. There are a LOT of resources for free food that you can look into especially if you are literally not eating because of your financial situation

[junglejim4322]

Btw if you have dietary restrictions you can often let them know and in many cases they’ll prioritize certain items for you

[realmarysue]

Global map of community fridges

Urban Harvest - global foraging maps

Food Not Bombs Global Chapter Locations (mostly vegan!)

USA - Find your local food bank

USA - Meals on Wheels free or reduced cost food delivery (age usually 60+, check your specific area's eligibility

[aleph-none]

Map of US food banks that can accommodate gluten-free

[junglejim4322]

Good thing to have on hand in the midst of food stamps issues

[etherealnoir]

The thing that makes me the most frustrated about the Bryce x Trinity conversation is that there was so much focus on Bryce’s insecurity about Trin leaving, when in reality guys like Bryce are more likely to be the one to leave. Or there’s always an expectation that the white person in the relationship will drop the Black person the minute they have the chance.

We saw this with Nicolandria last season. Everyone kept saying that the minute Nic had the chance to ditch Ola for a blonde, he would. It’s been a year and they’re still saying it.

And then with Ciara Miller and West, that was another example of a BW being dogged out because their white partner wanted to go back to what they know.

Even in my own life, I’ve experienced dating or situationships with white men who decided they wanted something serious with a white girl. Because that’s what they do lol

Bryce’s insecurity about a Black man coming in to take Trin away feels so weird to me because it feels unwarranted. It even feeds into how he acts around KC when he’s with Trinity. If he wants to grow with Trin as a partner in this game he has to trust that she’ll pick him even if she’s attracted to someone else. Otherwise he’ll always be paranoid.

[she-ramen]

the she-ra reboot makes this video relevant again which means we are in the best timeline

[she-ramen]

the kids these days dont know this masterpiece…they will learn

[logan-exe]

the Masters of the Universe remake makes this video relevant again which means we are in the best timeline

[etherealnoir]

Went to a stoplight party and saw this one couple kissing, but it was like…one girl had her eyes closed and was just smushing her face against the other girl’s. There wasn’t any movement. They were just awkwardly holding each other and pressing their mouths together. But they weren’t kissing. It looked like two people who had an idea of what kissing was, but didn’t quite know what it entailed.

I wish I could explain how weird of an image it was.

[fluoresensitives]

(smoking a cigarette) the average american is afraid of what is new and what is foreign, and especially of what is adult. they are trapped forever in daycares of their own design, reading books and watching shows made for children. And while there are interesting things made for children, by and large, they tend to stick to inoffensive, intensely juvenile things that won't challenge them much. And worst of all, if you suggest to your Average American that they should try to step outside of their narrow box, especially if they're trying to become artists, animators, film makers, novelists, etc, everyone acts as if you've just bombed the daycare. Wow.

[gaypeople]

Jacob Princesson

[etherealnoir]

Watching CinePals watch S2 of Scandal and I forgot how desperate for Liv’s coochie Jake is from day one lol

[etherealnoir]

At this point, whenever someone online refers to themselves as a POC before their actual ethnicity, I’m going to assume they’re white and think they’re not because they speak Spanish or some shit. Either that or their great grandfather was 1/2 Black.

[etherealnoir]

It’s actually so sad how many men will just casually admit that they were coerced into sex by a hookup or a partner.

I was talking to a guy at a bar last weekend, and he was like “Yeah, I didn’t really wanna hook up with this person. But she kept asking me and I felt bad so I just did it. I didn’t really like it. But it was whatever.”

And I’m like… “Dude, that’s not okay. You have the right to say no if you don’t want to. And the other person should accept that and leave you alone.”

And that’ll be a NOVEL concept for them. Like they never considered that they could say no and stand firm in it. Because they’re convinced that as men they should always want sex, even if they don’t actually want it. It’s so sad.

EDIT: The fact that they don’t consider this coercion despite it being the TEXTBOOK definition of it absolutely explains why so many of them do it to women and don’t think it’s wrong.

[yourleastfavoritebodegacat]

This is a very important topic that I wish I could have more brothers talk about. From my own experience I was always told to think about how the woman feels if I reject the offer.

There were also two time I declined and both spread rumors that I was gay years before I understood I was bi. Both times were very forceful advances too. Yet, my masculinity and sexuality were questioned all because I didn't want to have sex with them.

[etherealnoir]

Thank you for sharing, dearest.

First off, I’m so sorry that happened to you. That’s absolutely not okay, and I hope you’ve had a support system to speak about this with. I also wish that there more men you could have this conversation with. I think it’s a double edged sword because nobody wants to learn that they were possibly assaulted, and no one wants to know that they possibly assaulted someone else by coercion.

I think that not enough men and women are taught about the ins and outs of consent from the other side of it, and it shows.

It’s rough because a lot of parents JUST STARTED having conversations with their kids about consent. And even then, it tends to be very heteronormative and framed by a specific gender binary. Men can’t be assaulted, they can only assault. And women can’t assault, they can only be assaulted. The only sexual assault that matters is penetrative. If that doesn’t happen to you, then it’s not assault.

I would hope that we evolve in the way we teach children and teens about assault. That no one—regardless of gender— is obligated to have sex with you and you aren’t obligated to have sex with someone just because they want it. That if someone says they don’t want to, that doesn’t mean you should spiral and take it as a personal attack. And also dispel the notion that men are inherently more sexual than anyone else.

[colleenwing]

[stilinski-ortiz-dolan]

[neilcicierega]

If someone beats you up for being "cishet white male" and nothing else, is this okay? Did you deserve it?

what if the world was made of pudding

[oncce-againn]

If someone really wants you in their life, they find some way to show it, even with distance, even with work.

[madphantom]

"I'm just a girl☺️🥰💖💞💅🌺🌷🦄" when you were eight and the teacher said she needed some strong boys to carry something you used to be furious, and when you convinced them to let you help, you carried twice as many chairs as the boys with the righteous anger of a girl who knew she was just as capable as them. Where did that go?

[that-windy-place-tho]

People in the notes

[meowbugz]

ID: Tweet by Benny Feldman (@Feldfrog): “It’s just a joke dude. And the joke is just rooted in ideas. That I’m just reinforcing 😈” End ID

[etherealnoir]

It’s actually so sad how many men will just casually admit that they were coerced into sex by a hookup or a partner.

I was talking to a guy at a bar last weekend, and he was like “Yeah, I didn’t really wanna hook up with this person. But she kept asking me and I felt bad so I just did it. I didn’t really like it. But it was whatever.”

And I’m like… “Dude, that’s not okay. You have the right to say no if you don’t want to. And the other person should accept that and leave you alone.”

And that’ll be a NOVEL concept for them. Like they never considered that they could say no and stand firm in it. Because they’re convinced that as men they should always want sex, even if they don’t actually want it. It’s so sad.

EDIT: The fact that they don’t consider this coercion despite it being the TEXTBOOK definition of it absolutely explains why so many of them do it to women and don’t think it’s wrong.

[neshatriumphs]

I remember many moons ago, when I was a youngish lady and I tried to articulate how it didn't feel *right* to always be pressured. (I don't have very many sexual experiences that weren't coerced), and the general consensus when I would try to voice this discomfort was "Well, that's just how sex is. We don't really ever want it, but you do it because your man wants it."

And THAT was a thing that sounded and felt wrong that I convinced myself must've been how things were, because people kept saying it and I keep looking like something is wrong with me when I complain about it.

Then, the internet became a place where you could talk to other people and find information, in tandem and quickly. I was able to finally find out I wasn't fucking tripping. I was able to find conversations and studies and smart articles to show and be like "This is what I've been trying to describe! This is the shit I keep going through. It ISN'T how this is supposed to be!" And... I mean. More people than I would like still think that I'm tripping. Rape culture really took strong roots with our society very early on to the point that despite the fact that it doesn't feel right, people have convinced themselves and sometimes others that that's "just how it is."

[etherealnoir]

Thank you for sharing this Nesha! And you’re so right that rape culture has such deep roots in our culture. There are way too many people walking around completely unaware that access to our bodies is a PRIVILEGE and not a right. Nobody is obligated to receive pleasure from your body without your enthusiastic consent.

Truly we need to burn everything down and start over.

[etherealnoir]

It’s actually so sad how many men will just casually admit that they were coerced into sex by a hookup or a partner.

I was talking to a guy at a bar last weekend, and he was like “Yeah, I didn’t really wanna hook up with this person. But she kept asking me and I felt bad so I just did it. I didn’t really like it. But it was whatever.”

And I’m like… “Dude, that’s not okay. You have the right to say no if you don’t want to. And the other person should accept that and leave you alone.”

And that’ll be a NOVEL concept for them. Like they never considered that they could say no and stand firm in it. Because they’re convinced that as men they should always want sex, even if they don’t actually want it. It’s so sad.

EDIT: The fact that they don’t consider this coercion despite it being the TEXTBOOK definition of it absolutely explains why so many of them do it to women and don’t think it’s wrong.

[januaryhoney]

Late Spring, Mary Oliver