Also please don’t think it’s enough to be pretty. The biggest issue I struggle with is seeing beautiful women or thinner women and feeling like I’ll never be that and am therefore worthless but the gag is that beauty is disposable and temporary like shit. It’s not enough to be pretty because prettiness doesn’t save women from pain, it doesn’t save you from being taken advantage of, being harmed, being discarded. Being pretty isn’t some instant cure-all that will end every insecurity. Be kind, be smart, be aware, be necessary, take up space in your relationships and bring some invaluable characteristics to your interactions. When people talk to you, listen to them deeply, try to know them, be engaged, be fucking present. Like I promise you I know it feels like conventional beauty is the key to happiness and being loved by all but it truly isn’t. There are plenty of extremely beautiful women who live empty ass lives and are clawing at their own skin wishing to be something they’re not, too. It’s a fucking trap let me tell you, and comparing yourself to others does nothing for your own growth. The sooner you realize the qualities of your humanity that will stand the test of time and tragedy, those formidable distinctions that set you apart and make you unmistakably you, the better off you are. Do not strive to be the prettiest girl in the room because those silent competitions you set up between yourself and other women bear no real winner. Be the girl in the room everyone wants to be around because you shine so bright in your own skin you let them shine too. Be grateful for your positive interactions with people, cherish your friendships and cherish the space you occupy within them. Live deeply and from a true sense of self that is free of unnecessary self criticism. Give yourself a break and stop chasing pretty. Chase you and find yourself.