Truths Behind The Mask

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My thoughts on nepotism.

A quick google search pops up the meaning of nepotism as “the practice among those with power or influence of favouring relatives or friends, especially by giving them jobs.”

In many industries nepotism prevails, one such example being businesses. For instance, when the owner of a big flourishing business retires he would want his/her son/daughter to inherit the business and keep the business within the family. There is nothing wrong with that as well. When my time comes to retire and I have a very successful business under my name I would surely want my son to succeed that and keep the business flourishing.

The word nepotism is much under the fire recently, specifically in Bollywood, as people are targeting the star kids. The reason being the star kids are given more preference or they are bagging more movies due to the influence their parents hold as opposed to some new comer who doesn’t have any background in the industry.

As a parent you always want the best for your child and there in no harm in that. Even I would do that for my son, the main problem would arise when I go out of the way to spoil someone else chances just in order to see my son flourish. I would never do that. In fact I would raise my son in such a way that once he has crossed certain age, he shouldn’t be dependent on me in any way. 

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Memories that Haunt Me

Not long ago, and not something recent too. This happened 22 years ago in 1998.

I was just a 10 year old boy. 

In our locality a dog had just given birth to puppies, lots of them(at least that’s what it felt when I was a kid). One particular pup, I don’t remember its color or how it looked, but for a kid like me, its was a very cute one. 

For the first couple of weeks the puppies hadn’t opened their eyes. When the puppies opened their eyes one by one. One among them, lets call him Tiger(didn’t name him at that time) was the one that caught our attention. Tiger used to be very cute as my memory serves. He used to follow us where ever we went. To the playground, to the fields, to where ever we went.

One fine day we were playing in the fields. I don’t even remember what we thought we started walking somewhere, Tiger was following us. There was a small drain, which was about 6 feet deep, but was not much wide as we at that age could jump across that. But Tiger who was following us, couldn’t, he fell into that, I was too young I couldn’t help him. I didn’t have any ideas to pull him up. I couldn’t do anything, maybe I was too dumb. I could hear Tiger crying in his squeaky voice.

By the time I could find someone and get help and reached the place of the incident, Tiger was no more.

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Work Life Balance is a Myth

Ever since I started working, I have been hearing that there should be a balance between your work and personal life. Guess what sucker, that’s never gonna happen.

People have been fooling you, even the company you work for have been fooling you.

Lets say, you plan to have a work life balance, and on a daily basis end your work at 5 PM, how long do you think your manager is gonna tolerate that? Leave that aside, even if your manager tolerates, how are you gonna handle all the discussions that happened after 5 PM. How are going to handle the tasks or collaborate with your colleagues?

We have been forced into this vicious cycle where you have to work, tirelessly on daily basis for the rest of your life and you cant even complain. 

Your kids will grow up, your spouse will empathize you, but mostly secretly hate you for that fact that you are not around much.You parents will wait for your call but you cant call them as you are still slogging.

You will wait for the weekend to try something new, but you will be too tired to try anything at all, mostly sleep through the weekend and then go ahead with the Monday morning blues and wait for the next weekend.

It might seem that I’m pessimistic, but trust me that’s how the life of over a million people is being spent.