subtle transmisogyny and how all of you are with it
alright so i’ve noticed some stuff that you non transfemmes do, and i’d rather make a singular post about it, instead of repeating myself in a multitude of posts. i just wanna address these and tell you how you guys can act better towards trans girls in general.
here is some shit you guys do that is pretty Not Cool:
calling trans girls ‘dude’ or ‘man’ or masculine terms w/o their discreet permission.
calling them fake in any form, even if it isn’t even about their gender, it can really easily be perceived that way and cause dysphoria and is just pretty sketchy.
arguing w them over trans headcanons or codings of characters, especially when the majority of trans girls say a certain character is a trans girl. whether you think the character is or not, and most people agree that they’re a trans girl, don’t say they’re anything otherwise. (fr example characters that lot of trans girls say they relate to and id as) so please don’t encroach or try to reclaim said characters if you’re not a trans girl.
ignoring a trans girls opinion on certain topics, whether or not you think you’re right, always be mindful of their opinions and don’t argue w/ them on conversations involving what they experience or how they feel, unless a majority disagrees or says its bullshit
proudly proclaiming that you’re an anti-terf/twerf when you’re not a trans girl, it seems a little bit like you’re just trying to earn our trust or w/e when u don’t even experience shit from terfs/twerfs
calling us bitches, cunts, etc. or just like demeaning terms in general, like you’re looking down upon us or that we’re somehow lower than you, even if it isn’t the intention. again, it doesn’t matter what you actually mean sometimes because it can easily be perceived as transmisogyny or of the sort, even when it isn’t directly.
trying to deny that certain actions you take are transmisogynistic or have a transmisogynistic context. if a trans girl tells you to stop doing something because it makes them feel uncomfortable or it seems really sketchy, stop immediately.
also making fun of a trans girl for saying things are transmisogynistic, its not cool to just invalidate their feelings and input.
equating having a dick to being a man, joking about having a dick if ur not a trans boy and afab, and using dicks as a joke, saying ‘suck my dick’ or saying u have a ‘ladyboner’ is just throwing trans girls under the bus for your shitty jokes.
jokes about girls with deep voices, or jokes about boys wearing dresses and being embarrassed or using a boy enjoyment of feminine things for comedy
equating menstruation to be the pinnacle of womenhood, that’s shitty and cissexist.
also it seems like a callout for a transfemme is more believable to you all than a non-transfemme its shady as hell.
calling us ugly, disgusting, etc. it really makes you look like a transmisogynistic cunt, which if you call a trans girl anything but beautiful, you probably are.
actively enjoy media that have cis men portraying trans women, not hard to see why that’s awful
calling amab people violent or saying that all amab people have privilege when you’re talking about cis men, it’s equating us to men and saying we have privilege for being trans
alright, that’s all i have fr now. if you’re transfeminine and think i’ve missed something, please add whatever you think should be included! also, please reblog especially if you’re not transfeminine! it’ll help inform those who do this bad shit to stop doing this bad shit.