Isolation is a way to know ourselves

18〃Sölvi〃avoidant autist〃far leftist

[kaputtsolvi]

intro

hi! my name is Sölvi (ö is pronounced like the i in bird, or like uh. S-uh-lv-ee. Its Icelandic, my name is not pronounced sol-vi)

this is a personal blog. I post book stuff, disability stuff, aroace stuff. I am hard of hearing, diagnosed ASD+cPTSD from CSA, and will reblog or make posts about childhood sexual abuse, these will always be tagged #tw csa

he/him

18 years old

communist, more active in local politics rather than internet politics

IBDP student

This is a sideblog, I like and follow from @solvibullet

[kaputtsolvi]

I finished the Lego set :) my fighter jet interest is showing a bit, but the poster fits thematically with the hail Mary

[amygdalae]

I absolutely adore dogs but I think dog haters are (usually) more justified than cat haters wrt their reasoning

[amygdalae]

your average cat hater: I don't like how they r bitchy and ignore me/ won't let me manhandle them

your average dog hater: I have been mortally endangered by an ill-trained dog

[stuckinapril]

Controversial take some of u will get defensive at, but there IS a right way to give advice (in my opinion). I recently discovered this when I made friends with my former bar manager, a guy in his 50s whom I’m literally in love with (platonically lol). I frequently ask him for advice, and he doles it out to me freely, but he’s also always like “you have it in you to figure this out.” He’s always like “you don’t need me for this; you have it in you.” He’s always reminding me that I have the capacity and experience and emotional intelligence to work through even the toughest weeds. That’s the way to give advice. If you’re not bolstering your friend’s confidence, if you’re not inquiring about their own thought process, if you’re just caustically cutting them off with advice every single time, I’m sorry but to me that’s doing it wrong.

[phalaropus-lobatus]

i love using “ok” to punctuate my sentences ok

[kaputtsolvi]

i like keeping my blogs semi organized so i made one for me to silent hill post, and also generally to reblog and post about games i like and series i watch. @lakemourning yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay

[mens-rights-activia]

The duality of man is thinking “children cannot help themselves and we all need to be patient with them as they explore what it means to be human in public” and also “damn, I wish this crying baby was not on the plane rn :/“

[ffcrazy15]

Just as courage is not the absence of fear but doing the brave thing in spite of it, patience is not the absence of irritation but doing the kind thing in spite of it.

[crimeboys]

the worst part of getting into new media is when youre at the stage where youre completely obsessed with it but you cant go through the tags or seek out anything about it bc youre not fuckiny done yet

[kaputtsolvi]

So tired of family members trying to guilt me after I just don't hear them. Like I'm not sorry that I didn't hear you enter the apartment after you called my name, you KNOW I can't hear you if I'm wearing my headphones. Same thing with my dad acting like I ignored him on purpose just because I didn't hear him yell for me on a bus. Sorry not sorry, not my fault if living with me all my life still makes it so you can't remember that I'm HoH and act like I'm ignoring you on purpose

[that-house]

partially-managed mental illness is so fucking funny i'll be sitting around doing my job and suddenly think "wow i hate myself" and immediately get confused because, like, that's not TRUE! i love myself so much. who are you to talk to me like that

[lost-where-the-forest-would-grow]

I just got described as an "ad hating commie" by someone because I said a minute of youtube ads is unpleasant. fully spent 5 minutes arguing and defending youtube ads. insane stuff

[daovihi]

reblog if you are an ad hating commie

[stuckinapril]

[differentlylimbed]

people on this site will be like "PROUD TO BE A DEFORMED FREAK" and they have self harm scars or clinodactyly or something. it has to fucking stop

[differentlylimbed]

in case it's not clear: deformed is a slur used against people with major visible differences (limb differences and facial differences). the word "differences" in this context is a replacement for the more commonly used "deformities". it refers to significant, lifelong differences in the shape/size of a limb, absence of a limb, or major facial abnormalities such as those caused by certain genetic syndromes.

while major burns and scarring can cause visible differences, it would be highly unlikely for the vast majority of self harm scars to fall into this category. this isn't to say that people with self harm scars don't experience forms of discrimination or maltreatment, or aren't made to feel bad for showing their bodies! that absolutely happens, but as someone with both self harm scars and a limb difference, i can tell you the way i'm treated for showing my scarred arms vs the way i'm treated for showing my legs are very different. it's an important topic to discuss, but it doesn't mean you are "deformed".

minor variations in appearance, such as clinodactyly (a curved finger), low-set ears or a high-arched palate, affect around 1 in 5 people and are not considered deformities/visible differences. a limb difference means a major difference in the fixed shape of a limb - for example, having severely curved, absent or shortened bones. hypermobility, mild foot abnormalities such as pes cavus, and reduced range of motion are not limb differences. while some people with these conditions might have been described with the word "deformed" or feel it resonates with them, they are not part of the group whose lifelong oppression has been perpetuated by the word "deformed", and therefore should not "reclaim" it.

this isn't about invalidating anyone or gatekeeping a word - it's about the way those with limb/facial differences are almost always mistreated and swept under the rug by the rest of the disabled community, and the very real harm that is done to our community when conversations about us and our oppression do not include us. i was really excited to see that discussion of the specific oppression focused by those with limb/facial differences has been increasing on tumblr, and the rise of terms like "deformimisia". however, once again, very few people are making any attempt to listen to us and our experiences, and the conversation is dominated by those with minor differences who wouldn't traditionally be considered "deformed". even when the conversation is literally about us, we're excluded.

tldr: calling yourself a deformed freak with no critical analysis or input from our community isn't punk, it's ableist.

[differentlylimbed]

reblog this instead of meaningless posts that go "people with limb differences are all so awesome and cool"

[toddsolondz]

destroying and betraying yourself for nothing all by yourself, handsome?

[local-lesbian-tree-demon]

i think there is something fundamentally wrong with me but that's okay

[2colde]

it's thousand yard stare summer

[soneybun]

Your soulmate will be so soft and patient with you