Mr. J & I have been swinging a lot more this year -at least till the quarantines hit- && let me tell you something, each new partner I've taken in the past month has been bunk AF.
One was a 19 y.o -way below my usual age range but I was trying to not to be a judgy brat- & it was bad, sooo bad. Lets go over why it was bad:
He could NOT understand the concept of FWB -Friends With Benefits- & kept making it known he was getting emotionally attached -to someone he only talked to for a few days but when they are young, dumb seems to be the normal standard-, I do NOT get emotionally attached. -yes I made this very, very clear on a few occasions-
He seemed to have a problem listening when it came to emotional distance & wanted to be intimate in ways that I am not ok with if it isn't Mr. J.
Now the #1 reason why it was so damn bad? Kid couldn't get it up, when he did it would not STAY up! 🙄 are you kidding me? Am I ugly as sin or are you just having shy dick?? Either way I bailed on that quickly. I didn't need nor want to train a new toy who couldn't at least get it up.
Well call this one 'N', now N slid into my DMs on a different social media account. N seemed chill -at first- but we never made it to meeting up, WHY you may ask?
He wanted to domme me, which isn't bad usually because I'm a switch but he didn't want nor respect any kind of rules or boundaries that I had & have always had.
He wanted to 'push them' because he wasn't use to having rules & felt like he shouldn't NEED to follow them because he was an XP domme + domme's control the scene... -_-' UM... NO!
Overall why didn't we meet up? Because it seemed this douche just wanted to abuse someone, that ain't my cup of tea.
Ok this one was a 40 y.o much older than I've e v e r thought about trying but again: I'm not trying to be a judgy brat so I gave it a shot. After talking for a week he tells me he is married because I make it known that, I, myself, am married as well & that we are poly. He seems chill with this & basically tells me his wife & him are swingers so no big deal. Right? RIGHT?? WRONG!
He never introduced me to his wife, this by far was the biggest red flag to me but maybe they had one of those 'don't ask, don't tell' things. -this kind of standard always puts a bad taste in my mouth but this isn't my marriage so it's not my circus-
He kept trying to latch onto me emotionally, texting me everyday since we exchanged numbers which put me off. Dude, you have a wife & I am very, very happy in my marriage. Back up abit!
He meets Mr.J at our abode, we all drink abit -I do shots because my tolerance for alcohol is kinda high, let's not judge me- we start getting busy after he knows Mr.J gives full premission to be with me & you know what happens? Gotta guess?? HE CANNOT GET IT UP. So what does Mr. J do? Warms me up for our guest. It's like 2 hours till our guest even gets halfway hard.. Finally Mr.J finishes on my stomach, oh gee look at that our guest is finally hard enough to insert himself && he only lasts 3 minuets! -yis our guest uses a condom, I am very strict on this rule-
I am just so peeved these encounters were so damn bad, does every guy get shy penis? Why even agree to something when you know you can't preform? I'm confused + irritated, at least Mr. J had fun in the last encounter! He enjoys making other men feel impudent & weak. It feeds his ego & power play 😏 but damnit I wanted to at least get something good too. 😤😤😤
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