#poly dating

[polyamorousmood]

One of the best parts of polyamory is getting to watch my loves fall in love. They're so cute, blushing at their phone screen. Like, that's what they looked like when we were first talking😊How many people really get to know that?

[openlifestylehub]

[polyamreject]

Awesome things about living with my partner, meta, and her adult children:

- Communal Ice Cream Drawer.

- Excellent Vibe.

- Always Someone to Hang Out With.

- Cat.

- Extensive Tea Collection.

- Endless Love and Support.

Downsides:

- 1 Bathroom

[openlovehub]

I don’t split my love—I multiply it. And this is just the first taste of how we’ll burn together, hotter than before. 🌍❤️‍🔥

[polyamoryunmasked]

I have a theory:

The monogamous don't know the difference between being possessed and being treasured.

Stay with me.

Most monogamous folk that argue against polyamory usually only describe the person they love as what that person does (mostly for them, [i.e. 'they're my rock' or 'they're my everything' or 'I can't imagine my life without them']) and hardly ever on WHO that person is.

The concept of loving someone from afar, or from a distance is legit a fantasy concept to a monogamist.

And that's why queer folk write the best poetry.

Send tumble.

[a-yas-shit-gets-personal]

This came up in my local non-monogamy discussion group last year and I'm just curious what some other ppl's thought were on it. We were discussing dating safety tips/red flags, which ones do you have as a poly person that your mono friends don't have, any tips for ppl new to polyamory who maybe hadn't considered that yet.

Mine was not letting new dating partners know my address for a bit, which seemed to surprise some ppl. Some ppl were on the same page, especially ppl with children or abusive exes, but some ppl didn't have that as part of their risk profile. While it is a safety thing for me personally, it also is important to me that someone potentially dangerous doesn't know where my partners sleep at night. My polyamory also heavily overlaps with bdsm so I also want everyone in the home's consent before I give out my address to anyone new. I just want everyone to be aware of who has that information, just in case.

What about yall, is there any "unconventional" safety tips yall use for poly dating?

[xalienprophecyx]

I have been polyamorous for a pretty long time, and I have definitely felt like I have to keep it hidden a lot of the time, especially now that I have kids.

Which is sad, because to me it’s such a beautiful thing. I feel like most people don’t really understand, and assume it’s just constant threesomes or orgies (and don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with this type of non monogamy! But it’s not the full story!)

This week, I had to rush my toddler to the hospital. My spouse dropped everything and left work to meet us in the ER. He called his partner, who went over to our house to take over babysitting our other kid, and I called my partner, who brought food to us at the hospital. It was a terrifying time, but my heart still swelled with gratitude that we have so much love in our life with our chosen family (and everything ended up ok, the toddler is fine now!).

But it saddens me that I have to keep this part of me so hidden. I saw another post recently lamenting how part of their queerness is being polyamorous, yet they felt like there is still so much judgment and hatred of polyamory within the queer community. I feel this too. There is such emphasis now, especially in queer circles, on chosen family, and mine is wonderful! I truly don’t know where I would be without them.

I don’t really know what my point here is, just feeling the complicated combination of gratitude and sadness for the way things are, I guess.