tldr; I think what I'm trying to say here is trans people aren't crazy exploding landmines. Assuming that we are always offended, actually kinda hurts. We're just normal people with emotions, like everybody else.
Usually in time this weird fear around offending me fear subsides as they start to see I'm just a person.
Sometimes I have a hard time posting about things that deal with negitive emotions, so usually my compromise is to take out the panel that I feel sensitive about since I don't want a large audiance to see it. I've done this here, so it's easier for me to post things. If you see extra panels sometimes on webtoon but not on tumblr, that's why. Let's hope it doesn't take away from the context like the last time I did this.
anyways, alt text for those who need it:
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I noticed that a lot of cisgender people feel like they have to walk
on eggshells around trans people. I tell them I'm trans and they
become overly cautious.
I think the majority of the time this behavior comes from
a good place. They might not be familiar with trans people
and don't want to offend anyone.
But sometimes, I think this cautiousness might come
from the stereotype that trans people are overly
sensitive and will blow up at the slightest
provocation.
Regardless of the source of this behavior, I don't like being treated
like an emotional landmine. I actually find the opposite to be true. You have to grow a thick skin to misgendering when you're trans, especially
if you are pre-HRT. I'm not fragile!
I like to think of it as pebbles in a jar : some are small, some are big. When you give me a pebble, of course I'm not mad at you! Pebbles are light, and they don't mean much. ( left bubble: sorry pal! right bubble: Don't be, I get it all the time)
Most days, carrying my pebbles isn't too hard. It's manageable.
Some days there are more pebbles than usual and the jar becomes heavier. ( bubble: It's a full jar day) But still, It's contained.
The only reason that I would negatively react to pebbles is
if someone is THROWING fistfuls of them at me… ( that hurts!) …and doesn't care or acknowledge that they are pebbles
( top: Stop! bottom: oh please,
most people enjoy it when I throw these at them! Learn to be normal!)
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