what the thunder said

just a quick run of things that seem good to me.

[existentialwhale]

Active ways to cultivate positive body image:

(Because oh my god, it’s so hard, and everyone’s all like stop feeling so bad about yourself and it’s like how???) 

Be naked. A lot. Sleep naked. Have sex naked. Eat cereal naked. (Or naked and wrapped in a sheet. Favorite thing.) 

Follow beautiful, confident, (un-photoshopped) body-positive babes on the Internet. Unfollow anything that makes you feel insecure. Exposure is key. You’re not going to get it if you don’t seek it out, because the media sucks and wants us to feel like shit about ourselves so they can take our money. (Some hashtags to follow: #effyourbeautystandards #bootyrevolution #blackisbeautiful #transisbeautiful #wheelchairlife #fatkini #fatshion)

Lingerie. Next best thing to being naked. 

Self care, babe. Different for everyone. (Me? Showers, books, shaving my legs, nature walks, dark lipstick, good playlists, clean rooms, candles, sexy time.) 

Get ready in your underwear. Boobs = happiness. 

Self portraits. Be pro-selfie. Take a million selfies. Take sexy selfies. Take no makeup selfies. Take bad angle silly selfies. Take artsy tripod selfies. Take everything-is-on-point selfies. You’re gorgeous; document your gorgeousness. You don’t even need to post them. 

Stop with the self deprecationnnnn. Pleeeeaseeee. It’s hard to control your thoughts love, I know, but you can control what you say. NEVER insult yourself out loud. Dare I say compliment yourself out loud? (And if you can, do your best to try to body-positive-ify your thoughts too.) 

Sex (including solo sexy time), wine, and chocolate. In that order. 

Share the body love. Compliment your girlfriends. Cultivate a nonjudgemental, supportive, lift-each-other-up “we’re so cute” friend group. Everyone’s insecure. Compliment your besties. And strangers, too. Be that person that makes everyone feel good about themselves when they’re around. 

Good luck gorgeous. It’s a battle. We gotta unlearn all this societal bullshit.

[mytinyskullsizedpornbrain-deact]

Reblogging cuz this is vital. Especially the point on self-deprecation. Stop that shit now. It is a glamour-don’t, a welcome sign for fuck ass ppl.

[thecommonchick]

finally a bath bomb to match my soul and wardrobe 

[recreationalwitchcraft]

imagine the curse you could cast

[shotsofhorror]

The Craft, 1996, dir. Andrew Fleming.

[musterniillustrates]

THE SHITTY HOROSCOPES ANTHOLOGY IS NOW FUNDING ON KICKSTARTER!

The horrible horoscope series is now conveniently compiled into a single book!

Reblog and spread the word for your chance to be one of five people who wins a Kickstarter launch celebration package containing:

A signed copy of the Shitty Horoscopes anthology

The original printed zines of the Shitty Horoscopes series, book i-x (1-10)

A 5.5″x8.5″ print of your favourite design of any one (1) sign in the series on a sheet of metallic, Stardream coverstock paper

An adorable/horrible button pack!

Giveaway ends May 5th 2016 at 7PM EST, winners will be contacted on May 6th!

[thelosersshoppingguide]

Purple & Pink Sailor Moon Fem Stickers

[fancybidet]

I love The Property Brothers so much. They are so soothing. I wish there was a Property Brothers fandom. Like a platonic fandom. I just wanna be friends with them.

[amadiwhispers]

They’re now becoming Vine stars and they hang out with people whose literal claim to fame is making six second videos filled with oppressive language and tropes making more six second videos filled with oppressive language and tropes. I don’t even get it.

[fancybidet]

Ugh. YOU COULD HAVE BEEN MINIMALLY PROBLEMATIC, PROPERTY BROTHERS, BUT NOOOOO.

[action52nes-deactivated20170326]

[aikoandtherabbitsden]

‘Sannin shimai’  (Three sisters)  2015  

Sculpture by Natasha Cousens

[thatadult]

why do rich people always start crying when people say they’re rich or are critical of their privilege and say “my parents work REALLY hard, my parents work SO hard for everything we have” like bitch do you think… poor people.. don’t work hard lmao? you think your parents are the first people to work hard?

[calmingmanatee]

[Image description: A photograph of a manatee facing the camera. There is sand beneath it, and a small fish off to the left of its face. TEXT: “It might be dark now, but it won’t be forever. No matter how bleak things seem, the sun always comes back.”] (Image source)

[nohetero]

heyyo here’s a fun fact for y’all

trans women don’t experience male socialization before we come out

we experience closeted trans woman socialization which is an entirely different and extremely toxic monster

thank and have a terrible day if you disagree 

[nohetero]

hi if you’re safe to do so you should probably be reblogging this the idea that trans women are socialized as anything but women is one of the most potent arguments for stripping us of our humanity

[sunmeetsflower]

BRAZIL: GRAPHIC ILLUSTRATION: RACHEL DENTI

[kierkegaard]

I'm lonely here

[plaingold]

Even as you’re self-improving, cocooning yourself and waiting to erupt, making better beauty, fashion, friendship choices, you’re still enough. It’s so tempting to condemn yourself now with that future goal of becoming more palatable, more tolerable, more interesting, prettier in photos. But now, right now, you are still enough for all things. Explore what you want. You can wait, but you don’t have to.

You’re learning, but you’re still yourself. You deserve. You don’t need to aim to be desired. You’re enough, it’s enough.

[kierkegaard]

[socimages]

“Defensive architecture” aimed at the homeless as a deliberate, considered kind of cruelty.

By Lisa Wade, PhD

I encourage everyone to go read this very smart and very sad essay from Alex Andreuo at The Guardian. It’s a condemnation of defensive architecture, a euphemism for strategies that make the urban landscape inhospitable to the homeless.

They include benches with dividers that make it impossible to lie down, spikes and protrusions on window ledges and in front of store windows, forests of pointed cement structures under bridges and freeways, emissions of high pitched sounds, and sprinklers that intermittently go off on sidewalks to prevent camping overnight. There is also perpetually sticky anti-climb paint and corner urination guards, plus “viewing gardens” that take up space that might be attractive to homeless people:

The examples above and below are from a collection at Dismal Garden. Here’s a picture of anti-encampment spikes featured at The Guardian:

This is to discourage urination:

This is to take up space so people can’t camp on the sidewalk:

Andreuo writes of the psychological effect of these structures. They tell homeless people quite clearly that they are not wanted and that others not only don’t care, but are actively antagonistic to their comfort and well being. He says:

Defensive architecture is revealing on a number of levels, because it is not the product of accident or thoughtlessness, but a thought process. It is a sort of unkindness that is considered, designed, approved, funded and made real with the explicit motive to exclude and harass. It reveals how corporate hygiene has overridden human considerations…

If the corporations have turned to aggressive tactics, governments seem to simply be in denial. They offer few resources to homeless people and the ones they do offer are insufficient to serve everyone. Andreuo continues:

We curse the destitute for urinating in public spaces with no thought about how far the nearest free public toilet might be. We blame them for their poor hygiene without questioning the lack of public facilities for washing… Free shelters, unless one belongs to a particularly vulnerable group, are actually extremely rare.

He then connects the dots. “Fundamental misunderstanding of destitution,” he argues, “is designed to exonerate the rest from responsibility and insulate them from perceiving risk.” If homeless people are just failing to do right by themselves or take the help available to them, then only they are to blame for their situation. And, if only they are to blame, we don’t have to worry that, given just the right turn of events, it could happen to us.

Lisa Wade is a professor of sociology at Occidental College and the co-author of Gender: Ideas, Interactions, Institutions. You can follow her on Twitter and Facebook.

[maisiewilliams]

1. had sex: $10.00   2. smoked: $3.00 3. got drunk: $7.00 4. went skinny dipping: $5.00 5. kissed someone of the opposite sex: $5.00 6. kissed someone of the same sex: $5.00 7. cheated on a test: $2.00 8. fell asleep in class $0.50 9. been expelled: $5.00 10. been in a fist fight: $10.00 11. given oral: $10.00 12. got oral: $10.00 13. prank called the cops: $3.00 14. stole something: $2.00 15. done drugs: $5.00 16. dyed your hair: $0.50 17. done something with someone older (like a few years): $3.00 18. went out with someone over 18 (if your under 18): $4.00 19. ate a whole thing of oreos: $0.50 20. cried yourself to sleep: $1.00 21. said you love someone but didnt mean it: $1.00 22. been in love: $4.00 23. got caught doing something that you shouldn’t have been doing: $1.00 24. went streaking: $4.00 25. got arrested: $5.00 26. made out with someone: $2.00 27. peed in the pool: $0.50 28. played spin the bottle: $1.00 29. done something you regret: $3.00

add up the things you’ve done and put the total in the tags.

[criminalreid]

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