[queenjld]

Cecily Strong at the 2015 White House Correspondents’ Dinner

[smartgirlsattheparty]

MIC DROP

[seo721-blog]

Inspiring and making headway for female representation in politics, and even making headway for the possibility of having a female president!! 

[fuckyeahlavernecox]

Laverne Cox with the President and the First Lady of the United States at the 2015 White House Correspondent Dinner

[micdotcom]

Watch: Cecily Strong absolutely destroyed at the White House Correspondents Dinner. Seriously, the whole thing is incredible. 

[salon]

The recent sentencing of Patel, a 33 year-old Indiana resident, to twenty years imprisonment under a feticide law, has reminded me that we all, as women, are at risk of having our reproductive and other liberties snatched away at any given moment. Although the Indiana feticide legislation, like others of its kind, was designed to prosecute violent crimes against pregnant women by others, its implementation against Patel opens a terrifying floodgate of future similar prosecutions of women for having abortions, miscarriages, using drugs or otherwise being seen to ‘harm’ their pregnancies.

Why the Indiana woman’s conviction could open a floodgate of similar prosecutions for abortions and miscarriages

[woahdudenode]

[the-saltiest-healer]

Free them

[bigbardafree]

the thing about being someone who’s never catcalled is that you start to wonder why like is it because im ugly???

and then you realize that youre judging your worth by whether or not you are objectifiable to a man and thats so fucked up like honestly its so fucked up 

but the worst part about the patriarchy is that it still sits at the back of your mind regardless like “nobody thinks youre pretty because they dont see you as a sex object” like somehow thats a desirable thing and it fucks me up

[oooga-booog]

WOMEN ON 20S

Hey guys! There’s this awesome event going on and every participant is extremely important! 

http://www.womenon20s.org/

People are voting on who they want to replace Andrew Jackson on the 20 dollar bill. Women aren’t on ANY bills and this is the final round of voting.

All of the finalist historical figures are amazing women in the history of the United States and I’d be happy with any of them being chosen for the final petition push.

The finalists are:

Eleanor Roosevelt

Harriet Tubman

Rosa Parks

Chief Wilma Mankiller

Please vote guys! Every vote shows another person that wants this change to happen!

[willflyforbeer]

People wearing gags gather in central Moscow on April 24, 2015 to mark the 100th anniversary of the Armenian genocide.

Photo by Dmitry Serebryakov / AFP / Getty Images

[elysianlilac]

[micdotcom]

Watch: This whole interview is honestly so refreshing

[fuckyeahfeminist]

Who were the first ones to deal with the issue of boys and men being abused by other boys and men? Feminist WOMEN. So for all the men who say ‘feminists hate men’… It’s ridiculous! It’s completely false. They were the first to speak up when men did not. They paved the way for us to deal with our own problems. And they continue to do so.

Jackson Katz, University of Denver April 21st, 2015 (via fuck-yeah-feminist)

[annfriedman]

In my ongoing quest for the perfect framework for understanding haters, I created The Disapproval Matrix**. (With a deep bow to its inspiration.) This is one way to separate haterade from productive feedback. Here’s how the quadrants break down:

Critics: These are smart people who know something about your field. They are taking a hard look at your work and are not loving it. You’ll probably want to listen to what they have to say, and make some adjustments to your work based on their thoughtful comments.

Lovers: These people are invested in you and are also giving you negative but rational feedback because they want you to improve. Listen to them, too. 

Frenemies: Ooooh, this quadrant is tricky. These people really know how to hurt you, because they know you personally or know your work pretty well. But at the end of the day, their criticism is not actually about your work—it’s about you personally. And they aren’t actually interested in a productive conversation that will result in you becoming better at what you do. They just wanna undermine you. Dishonorable mention goes to The Hater Within, aka the irrational voice inside you that says you suck, which usually falls into this quadrant. Tell all of these fools to sit down and shut up.

Haters: This is your garden-variety, often anonymous troll who wants to tear down everything about you for no rational reason. Folks in this quadrant are easy to write off because they’re counterproductive and you don’t even know them. Ignore! Engaging won’t make you any better at what you do. And then rest easy, because having haters is proof your work is finding a wide audience and is sparking conversation. Own it.

The general rule of thumb? When you receive negative feedback that falls into one of the top two quadrants—from experts or people who care about you who are engaging with and rationally critiquing your work—you should probably take their comments to heart. When you receive negative feedback that falls into the bottom two quadrants, you should just let it roll off your back and just keep doin’ you. If you need to amp yourself up about it, may I suggest this #BYEHATER playlist on Spotify? You’re welcome.

** I presented The Disapproval Matrix to the fine folks at MoxieCon in Chicago yesterday, and they seemed to find it useful, so I figured I’d share with the class. It was originally inspired by a question my friend Channing Kennedy submitted to my #Realtalk column at the Columbia Journalism Review.

[thespoonmissioner]

[arielsfunblr]

Parks and Rec got Men’s Rights Activists exactly right and it was perfect.

[angel-cine]

Lajja (2001)

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Favourite

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By Steven Paul Judd

[upsettingrapeculture]

[naustalgea1-blog]

I CAN’T FORGET WHAT HAPPENED BUT NO ONE ELSE REMEMBERS floats in the reflecting pool as call to create national memorial to survivors of rape and abuse.

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