Gulfstreambae @kingairbae - Tumblr Blog

6 years ago I lost my spark and went through immeasurable hardship and trauma trying to return to the version of me who used to command rooms with her aura alone and had unwavering faith in God and her own abilities to reach even her wildest dreams. There were many moments where all I wanted was to give up and where I didn’t see any light at the end of the tunnel. Moments that allowed fear and desperation to torment me to no end.

This summer I have finally recovered that spark back. I’m anchored again in my feminine, faithful, expansive, unapologetic self. I’m never going to take this version of myself for granted again. It feels so good to be back.

thoughtkick

“At any given point you have the power to say, this is not how the story is going to end.”

— Unknown

hermajestyimher

One of the many problems with dressing up and looking your best just to attract men is that, once you think you’ve secured a partner, you may start to become complacent with yourself and your appearance. That’s because you treated your looks as a means to an end—getting into a relationship—rather than as an extension of your identity and self-respect.

This is partly why people talk about “boyfriend air” making girls look worse. When you mix stress, mistreatment, and complacency or laziness, the result is a slow deterioration; not just emotionally, but physically too. Your mindset around appearance should always be rooted in self-care and self-value. You take care of your body the way someone takes care of a prized possession: with pride and consistency.

Whether you’re single or in a relationship should be irrelevant. You look your best for you first. And in doing so, you not only maintain your standard, but you also send a message: you’re a woman of value, and anyone lucky enough to be with you should know it, because others can see it too.

theambitiouswoman

goodgrlguides

perfect hair, exceptional grades, beautiful body, is always right, attractive, beauty with brains, clean and fresh, sexy no matter how she feels, well spoken, well mannered, intelligent, unmatchable aura, trendsetter, scandalous with limit, unbreakable confidence, belief in herself and in others, gives love and deserves even more back, ultimately the perfect woman and goal.

therichwife

hermajestyimher

“You’re always so positive” God forbid I choose to look at the silver lining in all things and trust that everything is working out in my favor instead of wallowing in pessimism.