can i say something. i think it’s really. Weird. how we (the collective “we”) readily accept illi mcmillin as a character - as a female character, but still struggle so much with gerard’s very real identity as a gender nonconforming person. someone who has publicly said they don’t mind what pronouns you use, someone who’s closest friends use neutral language for. the cheerleader outfit isn’t crossdressing, she is just Wearing Clothes. i think headcanons are beautiful i think the art and connection people feel to illi as a hc’ed trans girl is great but can we talk about how gerard way is also. and has been this whole time. nonbinary?
there is no greater sin that being a woman, than being feminine, until it’s fake. until we can make something up. but when a very real queer person is doing something weird with their gender it’s ignorable? or we turn it into something more easily Dealt With.
