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30. not white. used to be viatores. (they/she/whatever)

[normaloperafan]

I'm always saying this.

[geniusbee]

these are getting weird

[parkchanwoohoo]

When you feel discomfort at a marginalized group but feel that expressing so would be wrong, it is very common to come up with "progressive" justifications for non-involvement.

Oh, no, my non-involvement with Black art is because I'm not Black. Black people have gone long enough dealing with appropriation and people like me (non-Black) have taken up enough Black spaces enough. So really, I'm actually doing a good thing by non listening to Black music, watching Black movies, reading books by Black authors.

No, you see, trans people are so chronically fetishized and belittled that it's normal for me to feel suspicious and wary to see trans people in sexual contexts, intimate contexts, nudes, artwork, etc. It would be best in fact if I did not engage in erotic or romantic works involving trans people at all.

The insidious part of these kinds of justifications is that they are often based on actual issues that minoritized people will openly discuss, but have a convenient "side effect" (really, it's the Whole Point) of allowing you to silo yourself away from groups you are not involved with or comfortable around while patting yourself on the back saying you're actually doing a good thing by segregating your tastes, hobbies, and preferences to an exclusive diet of mainstream hegemonic art

[girlcodedhamlet]

it's very frustrating seeing otherwise well-structured posts about media literacy and critical thinking bookended with statements about "nowadays", "nobody has literacy anymore", "this generation is so anti-intellectual", and the like, unquestioningly falling into better past fallacies.

Do we really think the 80s and its Satanic Panic were better at critical thinking? what about the 40s? the Victorian era? societies have always had problems with critical thinking and literacy, because most societies have dealt with propaganda, corrupt leadership, difficulty providing education (due to poverty or discrimination or other issues), and/or people who resist critical thinking (due to privilege or circumstance or what have you). we can criticize media trends without pulling a "well back in the GOOD OLD DAYS" about it.

[househunting]

$325,000/3 br/2.5 ba

Gretna, LA

Built in 1920

[henk-heijmans]

A little Mongolian archer girl, 2018 - by Filip Gierlinsk, Polish/English

[spaceshipsandpurpledrank]

[cognitiveinequality]

[oneheadtoanother]

[dailybtvs]

Buffy the Vampire Slayer 2.07 — "Lie to Me"

[sapphling]

a lot of you have mistaken unbridled and honestly vile serophobia for safe sex advocacy lol

[sapphling]

stop calling people "clean" or "dirty," stop calling people stupid for having had unsafe sex or otherwise contracted an STI, stop fearmongering and playing up your disgust for a type of illness that the majority of people will contract at some point in their life, stop acting like regular testing isn't something that many many responsible people engage in, stop treating STIs as a moral taint and not a class of overwhelmingly curable (and in other cases manageable with treatment) infections, it is beyond obvious that this is less about genuine care for others and more about keeping alive the same smug sense of self-satisfaction that's been carrying you since middle school health class

[sapphling]

i genuinely worry seeing how some of you talk about protection (which, to be clear, is great!) as the sole ward against a universally life ruining illness. if you're sexually active then it's more likely than not that at some point in your adulthood you or one of your partners will get a positive on a panel, when this happens the most likely outcome is that recent partners get phone calls and then everyone at significant risk goes into a clinic and gets a shot in the arm that kind of stings and then you don't have unprotected sex for like a week. ymmv depending on the infection and your relationship style and status. protection is cheap and a great option to reduce worry in your life but you are doing nothing to advocate its use by talking about STIs in the same fire-and-brimstone way your that your abstinence-only gym/sex ed teacher did

[househunting]

$2,955,000/4 br/2.5 ba

Rhinebeck, NY

Built in 1870

[digitalroot]

Visit Original Link

[lesbian-sweeney-todd]

What you must understand is:

1. Men are systematically privileged over women.

2. Men love to take advantage of that privilege while simultaneously denying that it exists.

3. This dynamic does not change when the men and women in question are trans.

[lesbian-sweeney-todd]

Men get very upset when confronted with this!

[lesbian-sweeney-todd]

👍

[harleycao]

Rip Anthony Stewart Head.

Here's an amazing story about him that I read years ago and never forgot.

I'd hoped to meet him at a convention, myself, one day.

Heartwarming story of Buffy's Giles going out of his way for a young trans fan

Tired: J.K. Rowling supporting a woman with anti-trans views. Wired: Buffy actor Anthony Stewart-Head quietly going above and beyond for his

[heedra]

really losing my patience for any 'feminist' statement to the tune of 'we need feminism because women fill a fundamentally different and necessary role than men and will be better at doing x y or z'. like actually i think we need feminism because it is an unbearable death of the spirit by inches to exist in a world where you are not seen as a fully realized human being because of a single cultural determination, and because a world that enshrines such things creates systems that are fundamentally sick to the core

[t00thpasteface]

part of the reason i love mean, bitchy, rude, domineering, firecracker female characters and loathe seeing them defanged is because the prickliness repels men and the defanging is ALWAYS to make them more fuckable for whatever man they have a weird sexual tension with. like yeah i don't like the Mean Lesbian stereotype either but at least the mean lesbian isn't shelving her career to become a tradwife after spending however many episodes/chapters/issues saying how much she didn't want to do either of those things

[t00thpasteface]

i will take twenty mean women being headcanoned as lesbians solely on the basis of how fucking toxic they are before i will take ONE formerly mean woman suddenly being sunshine and rainbows in the arms of a man she should be slapping across the face

[t00thpasteface]

i love seeing women get character growth and interesting arcs but NOT BEING ATTRACTED TO MEN/THE MALE PROTAGONIST IS NOT A CHARACTER FLAW

[t00thpasteface]

and maybe this isn't revolutionary of me at all but in addition to being perfectly fine with the mean lesbians i also just want to see more female characters who are genuinely Married To Their Work. not in that she doesn't have time for dating but wishes she did, i mean that she genuinely gets all the fulfillment she needs from the satisfaction of a job well done and the socialization she enjoys in the process of doing her job. and it can be any kind of thing that keeps her busy, not just modern formal 9-5 employment; "passion" and "calling" also work here instead of "job". female characters are never allowed to loiter around unfucked, especially not if the male lead wants a piece of that (and even if the male lead getting a piece of that would completely derail everything she has going on). like oh my god can just one chick win an employee of the month award and not have to immediately suffer some sort of cisheteronormative penance for it

[t00thpasteface]

the thing is, as much as i want to hate the stereotype for its real-world implications, i'll only be able to stop finding catharsis in the fictional(!) Mean Lesbian when i stop feeling alienated by the mainstream reduction of female characters to sexdolls and housemaids.

anyway, in light of recent developments, i'm briefly returning to this post to give a hearty congratulations to both eva "scapegoat" stratt and captain ava iron lung for each winning the Mean Lesbian Employee of the Month award. your names' allusions to the biblical eve are not lost on me and i too agree that eve did nothing wrong. i do think it's feminist praxis for an intimidating, glowering, nonsexualized woman to seal a crying man inside a metal box and not let him back out

[marbirds]

peace and love on planet earth