[kryfearie]

[depsidase]

[junglejim4322]

I live a very balanced life of noticing things nobody else does and not noticing the things that literally everybody notices

[lazer-exe]

I'm gonna say it, I do think that even the laziest person imaginable should have a roof over their head, food in their stomach, and access to healthcare

[what-even-is-thiss]

When I suggest people go to the doctor for something a lot of them seem to assume I don’t know what it’s like to have doctors that don’t listen to you. Yeah I do actually. I still think you should go to the doctor.

[houndmother]

Consider: it is the healthiest and most normal thing in the world to go to your close friends and loved ones with problems in your friendships and relationships. Not to gossip, not to talk shit, but I go "Hey, me and (x, not related to my current partners) are on the rocks right now, can I talk it out with you?" and then you get input, advice, you get to process your feelings through conversation, then you're probably more equipped to go back to the person and go "hey I've been thinking and processing, I feel xyz."

Two major thoughts here:

Don't let anyone convince you that this type of conversation should only exist in therapy. Your friends and loved ones are there for you. Its called a support system for a reason. Getting advice and comfort is entirely different from talking shit.

If someone gets upset with you for talking about your interpersonal problems with your friends, its worth examining that dynamic. Why are they so worried other people will find out how they're treating you? This isn't like 100% always a bad thing, but like. Consider if there's other parts of the relationship that feel controlled. Consider how listened to and respected you feel, how safe you feel, how independent and free to act you feel.

[onion-souls]

The US senate is such a gaggle of old fucks that the old fuck everyone was sure dropped dead last week wasn't even the old fuck that dropped dead last week

[morganitism]

Fuck butchfemme I dont care about or respect your yankee ass queer history

[morganitism]

Okay listen I don't actually care if you call yourself a butch or femme. I don't actually view them as harmful most of the time. That being said if you uphold it as an essential pillar of lesbianism or you ask every lesbian you meet which one they are then I'm side-eyeing you H A R D as both a trans woman who has previously been essentially peer pressured by TME lesbians into being "butch" despite it being incredibly dysphoria-inducing, and someone who lives outside the impcore and has to see these USamericans gatekeeping and defining lesbianism with these terms

[morganitism]

Also telling that if you criticize these labels as something that can be heteronormative when treated as the holy grail of lesbianism, TMA butches/femmes will usually understand but TME butches/femmes will try to rip your fucking throat out

[dragongirlbunny]

there is nothing a corporation hates more than having employees, but a close second is having to provide a good or service in order to make money. these two reasons concisely explain is why the ai bubble formed in the first place.

[threedollarsdotcom]

dont talk to me or my clone or my shadow self or my reflection or my me ever again

[bodyintheriver]

Sleepy 😴

[bodyintheriver]

Bear your cross Harrowhark (wip maybe)

[junglejim4322]

90% of age gaps don’t matter when you’re a grown adult as long as you don’t have a repeated pattern of dating people barely legal. I would date someone 30 years older than me if I liked them who gaf

[junglejim4322]

This entire conversation is somehow 90% people infantilizing themselves and 10% actually people talking about the issue of men who never grow out of dating 18/19 year olds. No it is not a big deal when a 25 year old dates a 35 year old please get a grip

[junglejim4322]

Honestly if you’re in your mid twenties infantilizing yourself on this level maybe you shouldn’t be dating anyone

[dragongirlbunny]

[kazoosandfannypacks]

i love that discord doesn't tell you if someone's read your messages. like genuinely. normalize others not needing every second of your time right away. normalize taking time to formulate a proper answer. normalize this.

[boltlightning]

can everyone do me a favor and tell me your favorite thing to put on toast in the tags

[boltlightning]

i love this post so much. all the replies are like

"i'm so basic.....i just like a lot of butter or jam :(" (as though those are not god's best and most beloved condiments and his greatest gifts to mankind)

"FUCK health guidelines FUCK my cholesterol and most importantly FUCK diet culture i'll put a dumpster full of butter on my toast and not even GOD will stop me" (no notes. god would encourage this)

doxxing one's self by mention of polarizing regional delicacies (i am so curious about vegemite i must admit)

"does a grilled cheese count as toast?" (not for the purposes of this post)

"i don't like toast please don't kill me" (i appreciate the honesty but i fear this post is not for you)

people who put full ass meals on toast (based)

people who do not but eat toast as a full meal (based)

melty peanut butter (absolutely based)

"it's a guilty pleasure but...nutella 😳" (relieve yourself of fear and enjoy your dessert toast)

special shoutout to the pots-havers adding extra salt. also the one person who mentioned kaya. i see you and am in agreement

[boltlightning]

other highlights

beans on toast defenders (i will always support beans in any diet)

really strong opinions on what counts as toast and what does not for the purposes of this post (i left it vague for a reason)

a million avocado toast recipes that sound so delicious

someone who soft announced their pregnancy in the tags (congrats!)

"do i...have POTS?"

"KAYA TOAST MENTIONED 🇸🇬🇸🇬🇸🇬 🇲🇾🇲🇾🇲🇾" (my people. my people. my people)

[literallyaflame]

i have a secret third opinion about self dx discourse which is “why are you guys treating the DSM like it’s the fucking bible”

[literallyaflame]

the amount of leftists who uncritically support the DSM-5—wielding it online in battles against random individuals who might be “faking” a disorder—boggles my fucking mind. you guys realize that the DSM-5 isn’t the only diagnostic manual on the planet, right? you realize that we place it at the top of the global hierarchy because it’s american, right? has it occurred to you that the APA shouldn’t have so much authority over what counts as a “real” mental illness? has it occurred to you that perhaps there are other diagnostic manuals? in fact, there are dimensional models that don’t rely on sorting individuals into “disorder/no disorder” boxes in the first place. food for thought, lmao

[onemillionwordsofcrap]

They keep refusing to add CPTSD to the DSM. Even though the research consistently supports that it is a real, distinct disorder, requiring a different treatment approach from other, superficially similar diagnoses.

Judith Herman first proposed CPTSD in fucking 1988.

The ICD recognizes it, by the way. But the APA clowns in charge of the DSM continue to stick their fingers in their ears and go la la la about it.

See, the DSM is fundamentally part of the American healthcare system. It's been shaped by the demands of a for-profit industry and the necessity of dealing with insurance companies to get anybody treated. It's not like there's NO real science in there, but there's also a whole lotta bullshit, and a whole lotta reality just... left out.