Comparison are easily done, once you....
If you took the strengths of others and compared them to your weaknesses, how do you think you’d size up? And do you think this would make you feel good?
The funny thing is, this is what most of us do at one time or another — and some of us do pretty often.
It’s a sure-fire recipe for a drop in self-confidence and for unhappiness. It’s also not that useful.
Let’s say I take a look at someone who creates amazing artwork and and I look at my skills and realize that I don’t come close to measuring up. In fact, I look pretty pitiful.
But wait a minute: it’s not a fair comparison. Just because I don’t measure up doesn’t mean I should get out of my passion, or that I should get depressed or jealous or resentful. Instead, if I looked at my strengths i have a lot to be grateful about.
And that’s so important — being able to look at your own strengths, and see your true value. It’s actually one of the keys to find a peace because without this ability, you will be unmotivated, and won’t believe in yourself.
Here's some ways to deal with this sht:
Stop yourself (gently change the focus)
Count your blessings (count what you have not what you have not)
Focus on your strengths (Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are)
Be OK with Imperfection (You aren’t perfect and you never will be)
Don't knock others down (Taking someone else down for your benefit is destructive)
Focus on the journey (If you always want what others have, you will never have enough. You will always want more. That’s an endless cycle, and it will never lead to happiness)
“To love is to stop comparing.” – Bernard Grasset
