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How do i let him go ?

At first, you don’t.You’ll hold on to everything that reminds you of him.You’ll sleep in the shirt he left at your house just to torture yourself even more.You’ll check his social media 200 times a day just to see if he’s already met someone else.You’ll suffer. Alot.

And one day, you’ll find yourself sitting infront of your best friend, drinking hot chocolate and it won’t remind you of that one cold winter day when you and him sat on the floor wrapped in blankets. You won’t be ready to start over with someone else yet, but you’re getting there. You’ll feel it.You’ll miss him like crazy, but everyday it gets easier to live without him.

So, I think we never really let them go, we just learn how to let go of the heartbreak. At some point we just find peace. And in that moment it won’t hurt anymore.

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[conscious-love]

How to Stop Choosing the Wrong People

I’ve chosen many men because my pain and dysfunction recognized them as sources to keep the pain alive. For example, I’ve chosen angry men because anger remains something which is unresolved in myself. Some women gravitate toward unavailable men because they were abandoned or neglected in childhood. Humans are creatures of habit — our minds seek the familiar.

Research both Codependency and Trauma Bonding. This will help you discern whether you’re choosing someone out of love and compatibility, or due to your dysfunctional past/mindset.

Heal all that is unhealed in yourself. Become aware of your unconscious needs and meet them yourself, that way you don’t seek them unconsciously from someone else.

Become whole on your own so that you don’t feel that you’re lacking. Learn to approve of yourself so that you don’t seek approval from others. This way, you won’t choose people out of desperation, but rather because they would be a healthy addition to your life. You won’t settle for toxic people anymore, you’ll drop them as soon as you figure them out.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

— Carl Jung

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#itwasfriday #shecrazytho #sogladifoundyou #myfavorite (at Absolute Dental Services)

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at Downtown Wilmington By Cape Fear River

[donaldtrumpsfatcock-blog]

stop romanticising depression.

Depression isn’t cool, depression isn’t a fashion statement or an aesthetic. Depression rips your fucking life from you. Depression takes everything that you used to love and rips it from your hands. Even basic things you loved to do before don’t even matter. Life is fucking hard, life is scary and rough and it’s awful sometimes. We ALL have these points in our lives. Everyone you see from the fucking mailman, the police officer you see, the guy at starbucks, EVERYONE has these moments. But what truly matters is what we do with these feelings. Find something that makes life worth living, and focus on that. Because if you don’t this world will consume you.

[kwallaceaatoralsurgerync]

#eastersunday #thebunnycame🐰 #easter2018 (at Fuquay-Varina, North Carolina)

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[handwrittenhearts]

Women’s March 2018 - NYC

Probably my favorite sign from the march if I’m being honest.

[gomcgill]

Be patient. Relax and trust. Let go. Then, let go some more.

Melody Beattie (via mysimplereminders)

[ermrepublic]

Your healing. Your joy. Your relationships. Your solutions. That job. That desired change. That opportunity. It will come to you–naturally, with ease, in a host of ways. That answer will come. The direction will come. The money, the idea, the energy, the creativity. The path will open itself to you. Trust that, for it has already been planned.

Melody Beattie (via ermrepublic)

[extramadness]

[mingdliu-deactivated20210422]

I stopped trying to impress men who couldn’t differentiate between lust and love. I stopped comparing myself to other women; my face, my legs, my talents, and my waist.

And I stopped asking myself for too much every day, and instead of punishments, I started forgiving myself.

I showed her how beautiful she was, both her laugh, her mind, and her crinkles.

I told her she was good enough, to be the person she wanted to be, and to be with someone who treated her well.

I made her open her soul to her powers, what society was doing to her, and how she could someday change it.

Somehow, that was all I need to drown in my own skin and survive. That was the healing ointment—I was mending without having to tear apart my art in order to do so.

[positiveupwardspiral]

[burnt-out-angel]

What addicts want normal people and those who love us to know

1. We are not stupid, we’re well aware of the damage. We know that what we are doing is killing us. We know that we are hurting people. We are aware of how society sees us. We know.

2. ADDICTION IS NOT ENJOYABLE. We are not “partying” or having a good time. The party ended a long time ago. We’re fucking miserable. Many of these drugs were never party drugs to begin with. It might seem fun and exciting the first week or month, but it quickly becomes a chore.

3. We don’t keep using just because we want to get high all the time. We use to not get sick and just to function normally in our daily lives. After awhile, we’re not thinking “how am I going to get high today?” We’re thinking “how will I be able to get to work today?” And then the reason we relapse is because we can’t remember surviving without it.

4. We have massive amounts of guilt, shame, and low self-esteem. We don’t need to be called “pieces of shit” and “scum junkies” because we already feel that way about ourselves every day!! The disease tells us not to care when we lie to and steal from friends and family. The disease makes us selfish. But we are human and we feel terrible about it. We aren’t psychopaths and are more than capable of feeling remorse. The more selfish acts we engage in, the worse we feel about ourselves. But we compulsively keep dragging ourselves through dirt.

5. It has absolutely nothing to do with you or anyone else. You didn’t cause it, you can’t control it, and you can’t cure it. It is no one’s fault and you did not fail as a sister/brother/mother/father/aunt/grandpa/best friend. When we lie to or steal from you or choose drugs over you, it is nothing personal. It does not mean we don’t still love you. When the disease takes over, it doesn’t necessarily want to hurt you. It just assigns everyone the same value so they are neutral/irrelevant. Someone in active addiction is stuck in a completely internal thought process that completely blocks out the existence of other people.

6. The drug is stronger than love and values like family and friendship and that’s why we’ve chosen it over you. That is the unfortunate truth. That’s why we find a higher power in recovery, because no human power or emotion can fight off the drug on its own.

7. While addiction makes us choose the drug, we NEVER chose the addiction over you. Addiction is miserable and we don’t want it. The addiction chose us.

[thecodependent-blog]

Self-care is an attitude toward ourselves and our lives that says, I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying and meeting my needs. I am responsible for solving my problems or learning to live with those I cannot solve. I am responsible for my choices. I am responsible for what I give and receive. I am also responsible for setting and achieving my goals. I am responsible for how much I enjoy life, for how much pleasure I find in daily activities. I am responsible for whom I love and how I choose to express this love. I am responsible for what I do to others and for what I allow others to do to me. I am responsible for my wants and desires. All of me, every aspect of my being, is important. I count for something. I matter. My feelings can be trusted. My thinking is appropriate. I value my wants and needs. I do not deserve and will not tolerate abuse or constant mistreatment. I have rights, and it is my responsibility to assert these rights. The decisions I make and the way I conduct myself will reflect my high self-esteem. My decisions will take into account my responsibilities to myself.

Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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[confessions-ofa-druggie]

10 Reasons Not To Relapse:

1) Withdrawals. Those weren’t fun, were they?

2) The mental torture and anxiety of realizing the dope is almost out…

3) …and having to experience that feeling every single day.

4) Your freedom will be lost once again. The dope will be making all the decisions now, and it doesn’t care how its choices will destroy you.

5) Do you really want to lose your clean time? Even if it’s a day, so many people will never be able to achieve a day of sobriety.

6) Oh, but you might not get an opportunity to ever get clean again, because there’s a good chance you’ll O.D.

7) You’ll go back to the same lifestyle that brought you to get clean to begin with.

8) Think you feel shitty now? You’ll feel even shitter when you relapse.

9) Think of your worst drug run and double it: that’s what you’ll have to look forward to.

10) I may not know you personally, but I know you don’t deserve to relive the horror that is active addiction. You may question your worth, but let me be the one to tell you that you deserve SO MUCH BETTER than having a needle in your arm, powder in your nose, or toxin in your lungs.

Now, don’t be ashamed or feel hopeless if you relapsed, because relapse is a part of lot of people’s stories, including mine. Relapse doesn’t mean you can’t get clean again; in fact it’s a big incentive to say “fuck you addiction!” And try again!

** This post is for the addicts who are about to pick up. I just wanted to try to prevent at least one person’s relapse, because as many of us know, relapses are miserable. **