i can’t stand this anymore i can NAWT keep cutting 😂😂✌️✌️
no more tumblr cuz i don’t necessarily want to kill myself at this moment in time.
remember the only thing that makes someone a rapist is if they rape someone. no one is inherently a rapist because of their gender , sexuality , race etc.
i’m beyond sick of these ppl who say rape is fine , say ppl deserve it. etc etc.
terfsarenthuman person gen , i hope you get help and heal. because this isn’t normal. it’s not okay.
never once have i seen a cis woman post about a rape fantasy on here. also do you realize that you sound like a disgusting piece of shit. “when we actually rape them” okay so you rape women? you enjoy raping women? you enjoy the idea of raping women? i’m no terf by a longshot but i fear this is just …?? insane?? how much of a degenerate do you have to be. do you know what a job is? do you know what a shower is? do you know what deodorant is?
also anyone with rape fantasies need help. i will point out ; notice how one group is fantasizing about doing the raping , and the other isn’t.
genuinely curious to what this logic is? trans women shouldn’t all be called rapists. being trans isn’t what makes you a predator, being predatory is what makes you a predator. that being said ,, as a rape survivor that’s one of the nastiest posts i’ve ever read.
are you not embarrassed? disappointed? are you so desperate for attention you turn to making disgusting comments about one of the most dehumanizing things a person can do to another??
“how tf does porn support rape” first of all , do you not know anything?? secondly , DO RESEARCH.
“ The porn industry presents issues including potential exploitation, human trafficking, and significant health risks for performers, such as STIs, substance abuse, and mental health issues. Performers often come from disadvantaged backgrounds and face pressure to perform risky acts, with some research suggesting systemic violence and abuse within productions. Consumer-facing issues include challenges with age verification and the potential for problematic pornography use among viewers, which can affect sexual function and mental health “
Shelley Lubben, an ex-porn star, discusses the destructive, drug infested, abusive, and sexually diseased world of porn the porn industry.
Gail Dines, the author of an explosive new book about the sex industry, on why pornography has never been a greater threat to our relationsh
Our "Not a Fantasy" report delves into the connections between the pornography industry and image-based sexual abuse.
*Content warning: This article includes mentions of sexual violence and discrimination. A December 2020 New York Times article by Nicholas K
this isn’t really a new thing…
“ In one study, data aggregated from 400 million web searches revealed that the most popular term related to sexual searches was “youth.” One of the most searched terms on popular porn site Pornhub is “teen.” This term has remained in the top ten for six years.
It’s clear that the demand for child sexual abuse content is high. As previously stated, this material always counts as sex trafficking.
The UK-based nonprofit Internet Watch Foundation works globally to identify, remove, and disrupt online child sexual abuse material. Internet Watch Foundation receives and processes data from reporting portals hosted across four continents and 50 nations. In 2019, IWF assessed 132,676 URLs that they could confirm offered access to child sexual abuse imagery. The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC), which serves as the “clearinghouse for child pornography reports” in the US, receives an average of one million reports each month.
In the last several years, Internet Watch Foundation’s research has also revealed a trend in the creation of “self-generated child sexual abuse content.” , In 2019, approximately 29 percent of 132,676 web pages analyzed by Internet Watch Foundation contained “self-generated” content. Even if it seems to be created by the child, this is still human trafficking. When porn is distributed, companies that own porn websites profit from the sexual abuse of these children.
Adults can also be groomed, coerced, or manipulated into producing “self-generated” content. Data behind child porn consumption provides a glimpse of how widespread human trafficking is within this industry. However, it is not a complete picture. The pressure for porn actresses and actors to appear consensual makes it difficult to differentiate consent versus coercion. ”
“ The 2019 Trafficking in Persons Report from The U.S. Department of State highlighted an example of this. The report revealed that some traffickers in Asia pose as model or actor agencies. They use “fraudulent recruitment techniques to coerce Japanese men, women, and girls into signing vague contracts and then threaten[ing] them with legal action or the release of compromising photographs to force them to participate in pornographic films.”
Even in the mainstream porn entertainment industry, recruiting and employing actors and actresses can involve deception, threats, and drug use. Porn producers sometimes act as pimps on the side, selling their performers as escorts.
In 2020, Derek Hay, owner of porn entertainment agency LA Direct Models, was one of several defendants “charged with pandering” in accounts of “unlawfully [procuring people] for the purpose of prostitution.” Porn actresses attested to being pressured by Hay into prostitution through a partnering business. They were threatened with repercussions upon refusal. The four women who filed initial complaints remained anonymous for fear of facing “retaliatory physical or mental harm and the ruin of their careers by a powerful industry insider.”
These actresses are survivors of human trafficking. This is just one known example of what could be thousands of undocumented cases of trafficking in the commercial porn industry. “
“ This is where the line between legal pornography and human trafficking becomes blurry. Several of the world’s most popular porn sites have been found to host illegal content alongside legal content.
You can see an example of this in a recent campaign launched against Pornhub. Pornhub is arguably the largest porn website in the world. Responding to the extensive library of illegal material on the site, thousands of voices have advocated for the website to be shut down.
Types of content Pornhub profits from include cases of human trafficking, with over 100 confirmed cases displaying child sexual abuse (according to an Internet Watch Foundation investigation). With approximately 42 billion visits annually, Pornhub profits millions each year from illegal and abusive content. ”
“ Did you know that the top 3 porn sites in the world receive a combined 134,491 new website visits per minute and that most pornographic videos contain some depiction of aggression and violence? Did you also know that most young people are exposed to pornography by the time they are 11-13 years of age and that research has shown pornography consumption is frequent ? In fact, one study that assessed porn consumption rates of 18 to 73 year olds found that 91.5% of the men and 60.2% of the women who they surveyed reported having consumed pornography in the past month that the study was conducted (Solano, Eaton, O’Leary, 2020) .
These results mean that the minds of people are being influenced by the reality of pornography and the violence it can depict and research is finding that users are more likely to hold erroneous sexual beliefs. According to Fight the New Drug, research has stated that that porn consumers who engage and watch more consistently are:
“more likely to express an intent to rape, less likely to intervene during a sexual assault, more likely to victim-blame survivors of sexual assault, more likely to support violence against women, more likely to forward sexts without consent, more likely to commit actual acts of sexual violence, and … more willing to purchase sex”
Moreover, various research studies have suggested that adolescents who use pornography, have lower degrees of social integration, increase in conduct problems, higher levels of delinquent behavior, higher incidence of depressive symptoms, and decreased emotional bonding with caregivers. These behaviors are thought to be linked to a decrease in connectivity between different parts of the brain responsible for impulse control, reward, and regulation. (Seok and Sohn, 2018; Messina, Fuentes , Tavares, Abdo, Scanavino, 2016). Interestingly, this is what is also seen in the research that assesses substance misuse and addiction. With increased usage over time, the brain and body are being primed to establish patterns of behaviors that are linked with compulsive dependence on a substance or behavior of choice. Similarly, frequent users of pornography are more likely to want to watch more specific types of content and watch more often to produce the same effects on their bodies and brain. This increases the demand for pornographic content to be produced and this is where sex trafficking comes in as demand is one of the factors that drives the reality of sex trafficking. “
the most searched porn category by men is “teen”. let that sink in ok?
idk do your own research instead of asking a 15 y/o
hai so if you post stuff like this please don’t int w me!! this is lowk so predatory 🥹 “belong” “for us” excuse me ma’am that’s rape 😓
please don’t go sending her hate as it’s not worth it + i don’t support cyber bullying. just someone to add to the blocklist.
i’ve never really understood posting stuff like that on tumblr out of all places. you call lesbians genital fetishists but then say stuff like that…? TwT please go outside. please shower. please use deodorant. trust there’s much better ways to get validation than posting your creepy fantasies on tumblr miss lady.
also what the fuck is even a “cuntgirl” pls stop reducing (bio) women to their genitalia
i’m 15 and kind of scared of everyone now!! isn’t that lovely
i had an ear infection and unfortunately the type is hard to treat, and it spread to my throat and sinuses, and to my right eye. hopefully i’ll be back soon
i love streamers who don’t bring sexism into their jokes. ily caseoh. anyways chat i need podcast recommendations. my attention span is like a goldfish so its gotta be smth captivating
does anyone else think shock value rage bait is stupid and predatory
like , joking about rape , liking kids , sa etc.
i’ve noticed it’s always men doing it too 🤔 they’re all “legalize humour” until someone makes a joke about their cult cough cough i mean religion , gender or looks
“it’s not every man” you’re right , it’s not every man. but it’s enough men that you feel the need to say “it’s not every man” whenever someone is critical about misogyny
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i wish i didn’t have to make this post. i don’t aim to shame bisexuals, nor do i aim to bring any harm to the people whose images have been used for this shit, but alas… this is too important not to talk about, because i’m tired of this conversion therapy rhetoric, and i’m tired of the violence.
how bisexuals appropriating lesbian terminology hurts and endangers lesbians.
⚠️ trigger warning: this post contains graphic screenshots of violent, sexually charged homophobia, as well as rape, cheating, kink/BDSM, and heavily censored pornography. stop reading at any time, prioritize your mental wellbeing.
…so to start off, let me introduce the two main subreddits i will be talking about in regards to this issue.
their captions say it all, really. both are places for homophobes to get off on the thought of raping lesbians until they suddenly become “no longer homosexual” (either develop a trauma response causing them to chase the experience of their rape over and over again, or discover that they were never homosexual at all). plenty of the posts are pornsick men posting gifs of women they headcanon as “lesbians” so that they can enjoy stealing their sexual autonomy, violating their consent, and of course, the main attraction… making them “turn straight” afterward.
this is corrective rape, and it’s an all-too common tactic used by homophobic men and women to attempt to “fix” someone else’s homosexuality, by subjecting the homosexual to unwanted, brutal sexual violence. heavily mirroring the current rise in homophobia and traditional gender stereotypes, people with this fetish are homophobes who believe that homosexuality (in this case, female homosexuality, aka lesbianism) is a disease to be “cured,” and that all female homosexuals secretly crave sex with men, or just “haven’t met the right guy.”
men have been flocking to this type of rhetoric and fetish content since the now infamous Jojo Siwa pride month scandal, where she cheated on her girlfriend of 3 months, Kath Ebbs, with now boyfriend Chris Hughes, a man 10 years her senior, who she had just met on international reality television. this incident seemed to strike a reality for some men— in the comments of commentary videos about the incident, stories from men were pouring into the comments sections, saying how they’d had multiple “lesbian” friends of theirs WILLINGLY OFFER to “go straight” for them, and a fantasy for a lot more of them. together, this lit a light of hope in many men’s eyes, a light that, clearly, refuses to die.
these men are, however, accompanied by a lot of women— self-proclaimed “lesbians,” who are THRILLED at the thought of men “turning them straight” through rough heterosexual sex.
[WARNING: you may see flesh in between censored parts. rest assured, all genitals, faces, legs, torsos, and chests (except one i couldn’t censor without compromising the horrific caption that is necessary to drive home the point of this post) have been properly censored with my scribbling. all that are left is hands, hair on the head, and necks, maybe a back or two. the point is not to release anyone’s nudes, nor is it to doxx anyone. if your sex tape is mentioned here nonconsensually, let me know and i will remove it from my post, as well as report the post on reddit as well.]
of note: notice the “homophobia okay” tag within a lot of these titles. it is clear that these people agree with homophobic sentiments, are fine with homophobic rhetoric in exchange for an orgasm, and are even trying to get their friends into this.
there are also people in these kinks who are actively targeting lesbians to “convert” by luring them in for hookups, only to bring out a man when it’s time to follow through with it. i encourage all lesbians to thoroughly check the people who you’re agreeing to hook up with, and if they EVER say ANYTHING about a man that you find personally suspicious, i recommend ghosting, blocking, and moving on.
also of note: this kink heavily goes in hand with breeding kinks, with these so-called “lesbians” fantasizing about getting pregnant “the natural way”, I.E. through heterosexual sex.
these kinks also heavily go along with rape kinks or “CNC”, violent urges to rape/be raped/assist in a rape. CNC stands for “Consensual Non-Consent,” and although it’s proponents often love to harp on about how vital consent is to the kink community, if you read any posts on kink forums or BDSM advice subreddits, you will quickly find out that men who engage in “CNC” as the aggressor in this scenario, actually don’t tend to care about the consent of the victim at all. who’d have thought.
all of these came from one subreddit, and when we take a look at the other… it gets even uglier. these i will display without commentary, so you don’t have to suffer through seeing these posts in your periphery when you’re trying to read my rambling.
i collected more and worse receipts than this, but these were the most egregious i could find that wouldn’t traumatize the audience more than i, admittedly, probably already have.
the last one is undoubtedly the most disrespectful to the lesbian community, as the Labrys flag is a symbol of triumph after severe struggle under homophobia, as well as an ode to the lesbians we lost during the Holocaust. to insinuate that we have been beaten, raped, lined up and shot, ostracized from our families and cultures, and robbed of our dreams and lives for CENTURIES, just to still be considered for “male use” is, undoubtedly, heinously homophobic, male supremacist dogshit.
if you have the strength to stomach it, i urge you to report these subreddits for their homophobic propaganda. every subreddit like this taken down is at least a few lesbian lives saved. i also urge you more than ever to share this post. people need to see the violence going on in the shadows, people need to know what these predators are doing when they think no-one is watching.
thank you so much for reading. have some eye bleach, you deserve it. 🖤
Bisexuals, especially bisexual women, are obviously the ones who made those poor, innocent heterosexual men fetishise lesbians. If it wasn't for us bisexual women having the audacity to exist, then heterosexual men would never fantasise about raping and abusing lesbians to "turn them straight." They would be your greatest allies!
As we all know, individual examples of bad people who are from minority groups are the reason behind oppression. The oppressors are only oppressors because we aren't all 100% perfect. It's not their fault! It's ours!
It's not like even the first example that you showed is blatantly a male LARPing as he typed that out with one hand, thanks to reverse-image-searching and finding that female "body selfie" posted on a porn site a year before he put it there. No, no, that's definitely a 19 year old bisexual woman who wants to "revisit her youth"!
Obviously, whenever anyone claims that they're bisexual or an "ex-lesbian" or whatever online, they're always telling the truth, and it isn't either a man pretending to get his rocks off, it isn't a porn bot, and it isn't straight women. No, it's always definitely 100% bisexual women because we are the most dangerous to lesbians, not those wonderful, innocent men.
Follow this example, ladies, misandry and heterophobia need to be stamped out to save our lesbian sisters!
these women are posting multiple photos of themselves in order to further serve the fetish. obviously i’m not trying to blame all bisexuals for this, as i SPECIFICALLY POINTED OUT bisexuals using lesbians terminology despite knowing they have bisexual tendencies. i am NOT calling these men innocent in the fucking slightest, if anything that’s why i’m focusing more on the women here, because men are monstrous and we all know they will continue to suck. it’s when they pull specifically homophobic bisexual women into their fetish that creates a dynamic of women selling their sisters out for no reason other than an orgasm, a dynamic that i do feel is worth acknowledging. i know men hold nothing sacred. but don’t act like ALL OF these women aren’t real, they very much are. and they are worth criticism. i criticize men all the fucking time for this shit, but the second i criticize bisexual women for helping spread these narratives, suddenly i think men have never done anything??? in fact, i make SURE to point out SEVERAL TIMES that this is specifically about bisexuals calling themselves “lesbians”, and made a WHOLE SEPARATE POST about how these women calling themselves lesbians is rooted in biphobia.
but sure, i make one post criticizing women’s involvement in the objectification of lesbians, and another about how sexual orientation subconsciously impacts the way you view the opposite sex in regards to feminism, so now i’m just blaming male behavior ALL on bisexuals. definitely not critiquing THEIR behavior, just blaming them for what men do. and i’m definitely glad one of the selfies was fake, because that gives me hope that more of the TONS of selfies on that sub are fake as well. and definitely don’t take into account the lesbian point of view, we are clearly NEVER being met with clear lesbophobia and homophobia even from other SSA women. absolutely fucking not. never has happened. clearly every lesbian who calls out internalized homophobia in the bi community (which honestly receives more homophobia from more sides than lesbians) fucking hates every bisexual, blames them for everything, and doesn’t think men are guilty of anything.
don’t act like the relationships between our communities aren’t impacted by the safety of lesbians being, unfortunately, a small part RELIANT on how bisexuals move, and especially in fetish spaces dominated by men (and even more so in media, since you want to act like me tracing the relation i’ve found between a pretty massive scandal at the time and the rise of a related kink & rhetoric is just me digging shit up from AGES AGO to blame bisexual women for god knows what).
i was being serious when i said i didn’t want to harm bisexuals with my post. focusing on female involvement with this type of stuff was a conscious choice, because we all know males are typically predatory. i’m not gonna keep focusing on being shocked and appalled that men are fucking disgusting, especially when strengthening our solidarity (which is reliant on ACTIONS) is how we can defeat them. so yes, i’m gonna call certain bi women out, because the sooner we get a handle on internalizedly homophobic rhetoric and behavior in these spaces, the closer we get to actually getting strong enough solidarity to beat male supremacy, and that means calling out male supremacist narratives and self-perception/harm issues like this when i see them. internalized homophobia for bi women can often come with externalized lesbophobia as well, and that’s what i don’t want as it hurts all of us. you too should want to stamp out this behavior in your community.
you are also at risk. and i’m sorry i didn’t hammer that in enough in my post, seriously, i was typing from a pretty activated space about this situation. but this isn’t just some “blame bisexuals for me stubbing my toe” type incident, this is SERIOUS. and when i choose to call out the bisexual and OSA community for something, it’s because it’s urgent for all of our safety. please hear what i say and not the lesbian biphobes i seem to remind you of. i’m trying my best, but men being degenerates does not call off the need for inter-sexclass dialogue about the effects of internalized homophobia in women with both SSA and OSA attraction!
I particularly enjoy you doubling down pretending that every single example of the women there had to be bisexual. I love that you glossed over your very first example clearly being a LARPing male.
When you frame this as "how bisexuals appropriating lesbian terminology hurts and endangers lesbians," what you are actually saying is, "bisexuals are the cause of this problem." Don't be obtuse.
I'm going to put this into bullet points so that you might understand this more easily.
Calling out bisexual women in general for this issue blames bisexual women and lets men off the hook.
Your entire rant is how bisexual women using certain words is the reason behind men on Reddit posting their lesbophobic rape fantasies.
You refuse to acknowledge that in your own examples, there are men who are pretending to be bisexual women.
You refuse to imagine that there are porn bots involved.
You refuse to imagine that there are heterosexual women involved.
Instead of calling out provable bisexual women as being lesbophobic and fetishistic, you decided to smear the whole community.
I also want to underline the little gem of you saying, "the bisexual and OSA community" - are you allergic to calling out heterosexuals for their actual systemic harm as opposed to individual bisexual women? There is no "OSA community." You're focusing on being biphobic and defending heterosexuals, hiding them and defending them, all to concentrate on the imagined harm that you think that bisexual women do to lesbians inherently.
You know for a fact that a post with what you wrote about bisexuals while supposedly not wanting to shame us, with those heavy trigger warnings, also heavily implies that it is all bisexual women who are engaging in all of that to attack lesbians, as opposed to the truth - you showcasing evil male Reddit porn subs that are dominated by men.
I don't know why I bother. "Bisexual and OSA community." You should be fucking embarrassed.
this is fucking ridiculous. i’m gonna save the blabber and focus on this part:
do you not see the clarifier?? “bisexuals appropriating lesbian terminology” IS NOT ALL OF YOU??? i worded it shittily, i should’ve said “bisexuals [who] appropriating lesbian terminology”, but regardless it got your attention, which is what mattered. i know there are bisexual women who are normal and just experience attraction to both women and men, you’re really beefing with the title alone because i worded it like shit. and no, what i’m actually saying is NOT “bisexuals are the cause of this problem,” it is instead “the role bisexuals play in this problem is the focus of this piece”. it’s so easy to just shut off your brain and assume i’m saying all bisexual women feed fetishistic men instead of…. READING WHAT THE FUCK I SAID.
the involvement of bisexual women (or men cosplaying as bisexual women, which is also something i took into account in the writing of this piece, and was in fact another thing that made writing this post URGENT for me) in this particular kink community plays an important role in how it operates: “lesbian” women (bisexual women calling themselves lesbians, or men calling themselves bisexual women calling themselves lesbians, which still warrants making the SSA women community aware) giving testimonies of being “turned”, wanting to be “turned”, wishing to have their same-sex attraction magically taken from them by fucking a man. PART OF IT IS WANTING TO GET RID OF THEIR OWN SAME SEX ATTRACTION. this is not just men cosplaying (although, once again i’m sure many are), women flock to this type of shit to run from themselves. i’ve already gotten confirmation from another radfem friend of mine that SHE KNOWS A WOMAN (yes, bisexual) INTO THIS SHIT. that’s small, but it’s worth it in the hopes that the bi female community will start applying the pressure for women to STAY AWAY from people like this.
and just because you’re THOROUGHLY CONVINCED THAT THIS IS ALL MEN/STRAIGHT WOMEN doing this, let me just remind you that it still involves bisexuals in what these people are doing. either some of you are into this kink that fetishizes lesbians, or you’re being intricately mocked by straight men and women. that alone warrants the making of my post, even if you think i’m just painting you all to be fetishists (which i NEVER, EVER DID!) it involves you regardless because you’re either being cosplayed or some of you are cosplaying. your view that i’m just smearing all bisexuals and saying you’re “causing” straight men to do this shit is honestly just a lack of reading comprehension— either on your part, or assuming it on my audience’s. this is not about how normal bisexual women USING WORDS is causing this mess, this is about how SPECIFICALLY internalizedly homophobic and biphobic bi women calling themselves “lesbians” plays a part in the growing community of people who fetishize lesbian conversion, both directly and indirectly.
as for “OSA community”, i said that in particular because that includes bisexuals and straight women. bisexuals are in an odd intersection where they are both SSA and OSA, and face stigma in all different directions because of it. it is that knowledge that inspired me to make the post— because i know what causes bisexual women to go stealth as lesbians (escaping biphobic rhetoric thrown at them), and i know what happens when they end up meeting and liking a man while identifying as a “lesbian.” i am not protecting straight people for shit, nor am i absolving men of guilt- i know they’re both guilty! but i am appealing to the community that i KNOW will actually listen and get enraged about this shit, the community whose trauma and guilt from shame on all sides is being exploited, mocked, and involved in this fetish community. i know my wording wasn’t perfect, but i’m not gonna let wording stop me from calling a spade a spade. YOU SHOULD BE WORRIED ABOUT THIS, NOT JUST ABOUT THE REPUTATION OF BI WOMEN! THIS IS ENDANGERING YOU TOO!
you’re still convinced i’m biphobe of the year? fine. but i did it to make my sisters aware of these communities, aware of the role of bi women in all of this, and to get people to DO SOMETHING, both in the bi community AND out. i did it because i want CHANGE to happen within the bi community, not to paint all bi women as evil fetish freaks. for fuck’s sake, just block me already. because i’m not going to stop talking about CERTAIN bi women’s involvement in homophobic rhetoric, and i’m not about to put a thousand disclaimers on it when it’s shit as urgent as this.
imogen, this woman makes it a personal, maladaptive hobby of hers to harass and tone police lesbians who don't microscopically examine every syllable of everything they say to ensure that it doesn't imply that she might have the same internalised homophobia and unknowing participation in homophobic systems of silencing and oppression as any other human being raised in a homophobic society.
you've been very gracious and patient, but you don't have to dignify having words put in your mouth by someone who has no interest in a conversation, and only desires to publicly humiliate you for likes. you don't have to justify yourself. your post was made in good faith to talk about an issue that has a serious impact on lesbians, you did not generalize anyone, you did not hold monsteradarling personally responsible and accountable for the phenomenon you were describing, and this argument has not been fairly made. it's okay.
i know. it’s the second time she’s done this, too, but i thought i made it clear last time that i take biphobia accusations SERIOUSLY. i don’t fuck with biphobia at all, i adore and was raised by too many bi women to feel like bisexual women CAUSE men to do anything. i know, VERY INTIMATELY how they’re treated by people on all sides of the sexual and political spectrums. so when i address something to do with them, i try to make sure i’m considering bisexual women and not furthering narratives that hurt them. i want to see bi women win, which is why i tried to alert them about this from an angle of “this is happening within the bi community” so that they can work to stamp this shit out when they see it. the loudest voices in the bi community are women leaning more attracted to men, and i hope to see that change. with this situation, i was hoping it would embolden bi women to speak up against this. i don’t lead smear campaigns on women, and especially not for fun!
thank you for this. i had all the intention of it only warning bi women of this shit, once again i really don’t want to shame people that already experience so much shaming from so many places.
i hate how easy it is to look like i fucking despise bi women, no matter how hard i try to show that i don’t.
