I feel such a profound sadness and a level of grief for everybody who views their transness primarily through a lense of societal conformity and hegemonic failure.
My heart breaks for every transfem, for every trans woman or girl, for trans man, transmasc or trans boy, for every nonbinary person, for every agender person, for every genderqueer or gender-non-conforming person who views themselves through the lense of how they fail to meet a frankly horrid society's standards of normative gender performance.
I want every trans person to know that cis manhood, cis womanhood and cis ideas of what the spaces in between, what androgynity, what "genderless" should look like are not the end-all nor the only way that we may yet exist.
Our experiences as trans people, the way we feel, perceive, perform and LIVE our gendered experiences or lack thereof do not begin nor do they end with what a bigoted society deems appropriate or acceptable.
May your soft manhood be rich, may your hairy, fat and non-conforming womanhood be ever prospering.
May you find spaces where you can be who you want to be.
May you find people who love the way that you don't look the way cis-white-abled bodies ought to look.
May you find love for yourself the way you are and want to be.
May you learn to love the ways that you're unique and different.
An old friend who I don't talk to anymore once said "our existence does not end where the law begins" and I will echo that, "our existences do not end nor begin where horrid norms dictate".
Your manhood, your womanhood, your in-between and outside, your "neither, none" or "all of the above" can look however you want them to look. You're allowed to bend the norms and break the rules, you don't have to conform.
May you be safe in all of this.
May you find space where all of you can grow and prosper.
May you yet live rather than just survive.
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