PLATONIC FRIENDSHIP
Can a man and a woman be "just friends" ? I've been friends with this guy for a while now and I can say that he is one of my close friend. I feel a deep sense of familiarity and safety in his presence, like birds of a feathers. We like & dislike the same things, it simply feels like we are on the same wavelength which made it easier to commit to this friendship. It almost feels effortless (in a good way) - because we understand each other. BUT we are not romantically nor sexually attracted to each other. Of course there's something about him that I am drawn to, in a harmless way. I admire the way he thinks, the way he talks and the way he talks about his interests so passionately, and the way he do the things he do, I respect him for that. I somehow feel inspired, and this is the kind of connection I sought after. I am not questioning my feelings towards him, but there's something magnetic about him and yet beneath all that I still have no romantic interest or whatsoever. My intentions towards him is pure and I wanna keep this friendship as meaningful as possible. December 24th 2025 - We spent the Christmas Eve together by going on a lil shopping spree that night after work. Our first stop was Dior - he wanted to get a fragrance with personalisation but from where we come from we need to buy 2 items in order to access this service. I carefully picked a lipstick and bought a powder. I got my lipstick beautifully engraved and he got his fragrance bottle done as well. We went dinner and after that I went to touch up my makeup in the washroom before we continue our shopping spree, I put on this newly bought Dior lipstick. I got out & he complimented how beautiful I looked & that this lipstick shade is ""soo my colour"" We headed to the clothing store I notice every single thing he grabbed he asked me "Do you think this would look good on me?" But since we are very much like-minded, I've not yet come across a moment where I'd say "No that doesn't look good on you" , we had the same taste so what he thought looks good on him was exactly what I was thinking as well. It's not that he's incapable of making his own decisions anymore, it's just that now that I am in his life he feels more comfortable asking for my thoughts like I am his second pair of eyes in this forsaken world. He wld nvr let me treat him. Our friendship blossomed a month earlier before his birthday. I thought it's a nice gesture to give him present or treat him a friendly dinner (I do this to all my friends) but that nvr happened becuz he refused it. He said " it's ok no need to spend your money on me" I thought OK maybe we were getting to know each other so he didn't feel comfortable accepting my generosity? maybe it's his typical Man-ego kind of thing? Even months of being friends now, he'd still not let me treat him. For instance we went to the convenience store to grab snacks, he asked "Would you like this & that ? Cause I kinda wanna get this & that" I said "Nah its okay I'll just get this & that (of my own)" He then insist to pay together for mine & said smtg like "it's ok it's not a big deal" I stood there & asked "Shouldn't we get some drinks too?" He went "Oh yeah let's get some drinks" and I said "I'll get it" so we picked up our drinks & I insist to return the favour by paying for it. I said "hey I'll get this one" and this guy literally stood behind me as if he was embarrassed to let me pay for his drink. I was like what the fuck? we both laughed. We are both single, but I doubt he's attracted to me anyways. There are plenty of other women who are better than me, perhaps we genuinely cherish each other in this friendship. We bond intellectually and emotionally and also share the same hobbies. It's like we can actually be ourselves around each other. He has opened up his world to me and I really appreciate that. And I am thankful for having him as my close friend.
But can a man and a woman be "just friends" ?
-24 January 2026
