it's just fine to be out of your mind

writer, reader, beta, and general consumer of transformative works | queer, geeky, kinky | social justice bard | seraph of smut | elder millennial/'old enough that I was raised not to put my goddamn personal information on the internet'* | owned by two cats | living and working on the Traditional Lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin Nation; sovereignty was never ceded * https://www.tumblr.com/mariposakitten/790178596683710464/

[dyk-tv-theme-song]

Do you recognize this TV theme song? #715

I know this and can name the series

I know this but can't name the series

I might know this

I've never heard this

Remaining time: 5 days 7 hours

[sanguine-scales]

i think something a lot of people don't get is that years of mocking your child, even in jest, does in fact tend to get under their skin

[sanguine-scales]

a decade or two of even light verbal harassment is very much accentuated when it's an authority figure you are in every meaningful way subservient to

[laurenthemself]

Well, I think it's weird that someone would see a fic tagged Graphic Depictions of Violence, Rape/Non-Con, and Dead Dove: Do Not Eat, think to themself that that's the kind of thing that would make them uncomfortable... and then still click through and read at least far enough to then come back onto Tumblr to make judgemental remarks about their perception of the author's personal kinks based on the author's extremely brief note, and on some of the characterisation deeper into the fic.

It gives me the impression you have a kink for scolding other people on the internet for things that personally squick you out that you would in fact not even have seen had you simply heeded the tags rather than given into your apparent penchant for getting your kicks by disapprovingly waving your puritanical flag.

[lgbtqreads]

Happy International Nonbinary Day 2026! Happy International Nonbinary Day 2026! We're celebrating, as we do, with books starring nonbinary main characters and/or love interests!... https://lgbtqreads.com/2026/07/14/happy-international-nonbinary-day-2026/

Happy International Nonbinary Day 2026!

[minty-mori]

[minty-mori]

[dyk-tv-theme-song]

Visit Original Link

Do you recognize this TV theme song? #705

I know this and can name the series

I know this but can't name the series

I might know this

I've never heard this

Remaining time: 1 day 2 hours

[iloveyoudie]

ty ian mckellen

[stickthisbig]

It has been 0 days since I referred to a Request For Proposals as an RPF

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It has been 0 days since I referred to a Request For Proposals as an RPF

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It has been 0 days since I referred to a Request For Proposals as an RPF

[stickthisbig]

It has been 18 days since I referred to a Request For Proposals as an RPF

It has been 0 days since I referred to a Unique Entity Identifier as a UTI

[scribeherself]

if you're sitting on a fanfic idea because you think it's "too weird" or "too niche" I need you to understand something: the internet is VAST and FULL of people with your exact brand of weird. that crackship that makes sense only to you? there are at least 50 people who will read it and go "oh my god FINALLY." but even if there were ZERO? you still deserve to write the thing that makes your brain light up.

[ciaran]

being a vampire is about penetrating someone but it's also about being filled up with their fluids. in this way vampirism confuses the top/bottom dichotomy

[gendercensus]

The 2026 Gender Census is now open!

[ survey.gendercensus.com ]

The 13th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 13th August 2026.

It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.

After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.

If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!

Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com

The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.

Thank you so much!

[ Link to survey ]

[vulpes-aestatis]

Baby sphinx trying to be like mama and waylaying travelers, but all its riddles are completely non-sensical like the ones a 1st grader would tell

[thecactifindahome]

[maluskrow]

[laurenthemself]

comorbid? no, no, no. my mental illnesses are locked in a heated embrace, tongues battling for dominance in a feverish kiss

[ndnbutch]

negative self talk IS unproductive and painful for you and often those around you. but like every other post that talks about this is like “yeah it makes you an exhausting and burdensome person to be around and if you don’t stop now everyone in your life will abandon you. Also I personally hate you for it”. and it’s like hey hi hello. basically the theme of all my negative self talk is that I’m an exhausting and burdensome person to be around and that everyone in my life will soon abandon and hate me. so like haha what’re we doing here? are you going to provide any actionable advice for how to get out of this habit, or just tell me that I’m Doing Bad And Wrong And Must Suffer For It?

Anyway. If you struggle with negative self-talk I feel for you. It’s hellish, and it’s not something that can just be bludgeoned out of someone by telling them it sucks. We know! I’m not out of the weeds just yet by a long shot, but here’s some of the stuff that’s been helpful for me:

Fake it til it’s real: cliche, I know! but it really has helped for me, even though it makes me suuuuper uncomfortable at times. but literally tell yourself that you’re super charismatic and sexy and everyone loves you. or whatever version of that feels good for how you’d like to be seen. it’s gonna feel silly and untrue for a really long time, but it helps!

Reframe: I struggled to phrase this one, but what I mean basically is like… taking that notion of “hey negative self-talk sucks for the people around you too” and turning it into “wow, it is kind of mean to my friends to just assume they’re lying when they say they love me. I don’t want to be mean to my friends. I’m going to take the risk of trusting them”. Try not to go too far in the direction of “oh god I’m being mean to my friends” and stay on the path of “I want to and CAN do right by them”

Separate from it: I like to kind of act like my negative self talk is something of a different entity from me. Your mileage may vary on this one. I was a really mean really sad teenage girl once, and for me that kind of feels like the place the negative self talk comes from. So instead of being like “I guess I just hate myself and always will”, I can be like “I have this wounded inner child who is lashing out. I’m going to be gentle with her, but I’m also not going to listen to the things she tells me we are, because she is 16 and hasn’t experienced anything good yet.”

This is far from a comprehensive list but this post is getting long—feel free to add on if you have any tactics that have worked especially well for you!

[pippenpaddlopsicopolisthethird]

A quick additional idea for separating from it: shift to internal language that doesn't immediately imply it's true! If you notice yourself thinking of "All my friends are sick of me", rephrase it as "I just had the thought that all my friends are sick of me." Say both out loud, it sounds like nothing but there's a legit difference in how easy the second one is to set aside.

[swords-and-grimoires]

I've had this costume on my mind for some time now(colllege.) I wanted to make a costume inspired by my culture and I've always been obsessed with the Vejigante masks from PR. Here's my take on those classic designs.

Watching Bad Bunny/Benito's call for all of us to share the love of our culture and island inspired me in ways that took me back. I've always been proud of where my family is from so I'm glad I could share it via this design. I'm so grateful for the reminder.

I was thinking that this design also reminded me of a tiefling bard! Anyway enjoy my Vejigante Tiefling Bard, this design is near and dear to my heart!

Inspiration below

[laurenthemself]

An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

Chapters: 1/1 Fandom: Baldur's Gate (Video Games) Rating: Explicit Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Relationships: Nocturne/Shadowheart (Baldur's Gate) Characters: Shadowheart (Baldur's Gate), Nocturne (Baldur's Gate) Additional Tags: Kink Meme, Lactation, Lactation Kink, Adult Breastfeeding, Nursing Handjob, Implied/Referenced miscarriage, Canon Trans Character Summary:

Shadowheart has just found a specific path to follow under Selûne's auspices when an unexpected loss takes it from her. A reunion with Nocturne reminds her not to give up hope.