A (good?) TV example of what a queerplatonic relationship is like
âŠHow many of you have watched/remember the show âFull Houseâ?Â
âŠItâs a pretty well-known show, and because of that, itâs usually my go-to whenever someone asks me to explain what a queerplatonic relationship is like.Â
In particular, I use the relationship between Danny, Jesse, and Joey as an example.Â
âŠA bit of background info, the showâs general premise is that Danny Tanner is a widowed father with three daughters. The brother of his late wife, Jesse, and Dannyâs best friend Joey move in âtemporarilyâ to help Danny raise his daughters as he is coping with the death of his wife. However, Jesse and Joeyâs stay in the Tanner household becomes permanent.Â
(Just a disclaimer, I am only going to talk about the events pre- the reboot, Fuller House)
The show ran for eight seasons, and as those seasons progressed, the relationship between the three men gets stronger and stronger over time.Â
Now, to clarify, Danny, Jesse, and Joey are all straight, and not blood related.Â
The three men arenât in love, but they have an extremely high level of commitment to each other. They live together under the same roof throughout the entire series, and Joey and Jesse assist Danny in raising his daughters, to the point where Jesse and Joey are just as big of father figures in the girlâs lives as Danny himself is.Â
The girls are basically their shared daughters.
Together, the three men+ the kids consider themselves as one family unit.Â
Even though they arenât in love with each other, Danny, Jesse, and Joey literally cannot function or live without each other because they are too important to each other. They support each other in the same ways that a spouse would.
Even when Jesse got married to his wife Rebecca later in the series and the two had children of their own, Jesse still didnât leave Danny and Joey, and just moved his wife and kids into the Tanner household instead, continuing to live under the same roof as Danny and Joey.Â
Danny also met another woman that he got engaged to (Vicky). However, Vicky wanted to move away in order to forward her career, and the two werenât able to make a compromise, so they ended their relationship. Vicky prioritized her work, but Danny didnât have the heart to move away and leave Jesse and Joey behind.Â
In other words, Danny thought keeping up his relationship with Jesse and Joey was more important than his romantic relationship with Vicky (well, that, and he and his daughters liked staying in San Francisco too much). But still- he put Jesse and Joey before Vicky at the end of the day.Â
Actually, all three of the men have at multiple instances throughout the series, had came to a crossroads where they had to decide whether to branch off on their own and separate from the other two for various reasons (often to follow some sort of dream), or to turn it down and stay in the house with with the other two. Obviously, the three ALWAYS choose to stay living together.Â
As you can tell, the relationship that Danny, Jesse, and Joey have although not romantic, is considerably stronger than a normal friendship would be- or even a best friend relationship. Their relationship is basically like a three-way marriage without the romance.Â
They are so committed to each other that itâs pretty much impossible for all three of them to even picture a life where they are separated and not living together. They hold each other to such a high regard that they make life sacrifices to stay with each other.Â
And that is VERY much like a queerplatonic relationship.Â
Queerplatonic relationships are usually a term used by aromantic people to describe the very close non-romantic partner that they share a strong commitment with, but you donât necessary have to be aro or even LGBT+ to have a queerplatonic relationship with someone. Just know that it is something MUCH MORE than just a mere friendship.Â
Sometimes, a queerplatonic relationship is three straight dudes and their shared daughters living under the same roof.Â
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