holy necrogamy

She/her | 25 | intersex | gray ace | german | dead dove | posts are 90% queued | find me on twitter @splanchnophile & AO3 @triebwerke

[leichenliebe]

Links & F/O List

This acc is +18 & dead dove: do not eat

Links:

Twitter

AO3

kofi/art comms

intersex awareness/education tag

F/Os:

Ryan O'Reily (Oz)

Patrick Bateman (American Psycho)

Jack Moore (Fight Club)

Nucky Thompson (Boardwalk Empire)

Kaiji Itou (Kaiji)

Theodore "T-Bag" Bagwell (Prison Break)

GOB Bluth (Arrested Deevelopment)

Herbert Weest & Daniel Cain (Re-Animator)

Dwight Schrute (The Office)

(Im sharing btw)

[shamebats]

"Stop talking to people in abusive relationships the way you talk to them. Stop talking to them like they're not intelligent, like they're bad decision makers, like they don't care about themselves. Talk to them with grace, dignity, and kindness—or keep your thoughts to yourself.

This isn't just for when they're putting their hands on them. This goes for verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, financial abuse—whatever it is. Talk to them with grace and kindness, or do not speak.

Y'all push these people further and further into the arms of their abusers every single time you make a mean comment or a snide remark or something nasty. Every single time, not only are you kicking somebody who's already down, but you are validating all of the awful things that their partner has taught them to feel about themselves.

If their partner has taught them that they are alone in this world and that nobody likes them because they're not a good decision maker or they're not very bright, and you get on here and say that they're very foolish and a little stupid for staying, guess what they're gonna do.

Y'all aren't dishing out tough love. You're not giving a much-needed reality check. Nine times out of ten, y'all are just being mean to somebody because you see them as less than you. It's not helpful, and quite frankly, it doesn't even make you feel good for more than—I don't know—30 seconds. All you're doing is setting someone further back."

Transcript of part of this TikTok video by @ jordxn.simone (she/her).

[rhysintherain]

The basic trait of all domestic violence is restriction of autonomy.

It doesn't matter what the abuse actually is - verbal, physical, financial, etc. the point is to remove someone's ability to make their own decisions and have their own thoughts and feelings.

And the problem with how we approach victim supports is that the systems meant to get someone out of a DV situation essentially do the same thing. You HAVE to leave your abuser. You CAN'T go back. Here's a shelter where you can live if you follow our 524 arbitrary rules.

That isn't an increase in autonomy, it's another situation they have no say in. And at the very least, they know the rules and loopholes their abuser sets better than they know the new ones here. An abuser can be reasoned with (not usually successfully, but that's another problem), but a faceless system that dictates your movements can't. Unsurprisingly, people go back to the place where the arbitrary rules and consequences are set by someone they love and they feel like they have more control, even if it's more dangerous.

You can't deprogram someone from a system of control with more control. If this becomes an authority fight, the abuser will always win, because their partner had a convincing reason to let them have that authority in the first place.

When someone tells you their partner is abusive, your first reaction shouldn't be "oh my god, you HAVE to leave them!"

Your reaction should be "alright, what do you want to do?"

You can't make someone leave an abuser. You can remind them they can choose to leave.

Someone who's consistently reminded that they can have their own thoughts and feelings and choices is far more likely to get out of an abusive situation than someone who's stuck between 2 people shouting orders.

[death-420]

does anyone have that gif of a penis growth ad thats a guinea pig that stretches out rly long and a girl says “hot!” and the guinea pig spins around pls i need it

[raeuberkotzenrotz]

I gotchu

[death-420]

YES!!! YES!! YES!!!!!

[neilvana]

[holocrone]

TRAINSPOTTING (1996) dir. Danny Boyle

[caged-fangirl]

steve buscemi is so cute omfg

[memorydatas]

does anyone else remember when michaels (art supply company) accidentally made omegle again

[shadowthian]

when they What

[memorydatas]

michaels added a feature for a while in sept. 2020 where shoppers could ask questions that would be answered live by other shoppers anonymously. which led to some good michaels interactions.

[whoiscallingme]

[nyahbobina]

amma + skating 2/2

[phantom-threaded]

“Jacob is a really well-proportioned man, so it was ideal and I could see that in his frame but he also had an almost panther-like grace in his body and his movements. I think he was born to do this.” — Mike Hill, Creature design (Frankenstein: The Anatomy Lesson)

[unification]

we yucky slammingg

[classicfilmsforyou]

SPONGEBOB WEARING PINK 💕

[berrytart]

I still like listening to we are young by fun.

[indie-navarrete]

"Because Jennifer Check… is gross. She thinks she’s so special just because she’s popular and what society considers attractive, but she’s really just a generic guiga bitch."

[rubbrcat]

[itmeansalot]

you gotta come to the club man drinks are $18 and were all on our phones googling dog surgery

[graceashcroft-deactivated202602]

scooby-doo (2002) dir. raja gosnell