LES AMANTS

we are Amants / let's have fun / let's be together / let's make it all happen / i love you /

[lesamants-blog]

Come Back

Come back often and take hold of me, sensation that I love come back and take hold of me— when the body’s memory awakens and an old longing again moves into the blood, when lips and skin remember and hands feel as though they touch again. Come back often, take hold of me in the night when lips and skin remember... C.P. Cavafy trans. Keeley/Sherrard

[lesamants-blog]

Desire

Desire describes a state of attachment to something or someone, and the cloud of possibility that is generated by the gap between an object’s specificity and the needs and promises projected onto it. This gap produces a number of further convolutions. Desire visits you as an impact from the outside, and yet, inducing an encounter with your affects, makes you feel as though it comes from within you; this means that your objects are not objective, but things and scenes that you have converted into propping up your world, and so what seems objective and autonomous in them is partly what your desire has created and therefore is a mirage, a shaky anchor. Your style of addressing those objects gives shape to the drama with which they allow you to reencounter yourself.—Lauren Berlant

[lesamants-blog]

from Small Kingdom

I don't know how to keep you without killing you a little—the way my mother pares down the rosemary each year to keep its flavor bright. The way we must make all loves smaller before they can enter our kingdom. Sandra Beasley (2007)

thanks, pome.

[lesamants-blog]

Si on cherche un mot pour dire plus que "je t'aime", il faut faire l'amour. Loin de l'autre, on devra pourtant rester avec cette envie terrible de néologisme introuvable, car incapable d'exprimer un sentiment qui ne peut l'être que dans la chair.

[adarasanchez]

[lesamants-blog]

I promised my heart many things

Magdalena O!

[lesamants-blog]

Learning how to be a desiring body in ways my language doesn't understand yet.

—Magdalena Olszanowski

[nevver]

Tips (larger)

[cleispress]

^^^ Why we <3 Stoya

[sophistiphunk]

free style iv.

if we don’t hang on to each other then what have we got humans talk that mess i don’t wanna be tied down

love doesn’t bind

she sets you free to fly high like                                that winged creature gliding far above peak dipping through valley raven laughs at our pettiness pretty sure he is screeching   get it together fools as he soars away.

s.s.

[violentwavesofemotion-deactivat]

Don’t use your memories against me. That’s what you’re doing. For a lot of reasons, you’ve got a grudge against your present life. So you take refuge in the past; and in the name of the past, you assume a superior attitude over everything that happens to you. But there’s one thing you’ve got to recognize: it isn’t because you have very vivid memories that you’re always approaching life with a chip on your shoulder. It’s the reverse: you call upon those memories to justify your temperament. You start by doubting my love, which gives you a reason to bear me a grudge; and then, as if to punish me, you distrust me all the more and you become sulky. But think a moment. If I love you, I deserve your confidence, and you’re being unfair in not giving it to me. Make up your mind to give me your confidence, even without being sure I deserve it. I know you dread the thought of being had, but at least it’s better than being unfair. And you’ll see, I’ll deserve it.

Simone de Beauvoir, from The Mandarins (via violentwavesofemotion)

[fellinlovewithmelancholy]

His eyes were the same color as the sea in a postcard someone sends you when they love you, but not enough to stay.

Warsan Shire (via wethinkwedream)

[enchantedcherry]

[cold-deserttttt-deactivated2018]

"right love,wrong time". Idk if I believe the whole concept.

[therealkatiewest]

There are moments in the beginning of a relationship when all you’re trying to do is prove that you’re better than everyone that came before. In these moments you say things you don’t mean, you agree to things you wouldn’t normally, your values shift slightly to align with what you perceive to be the value system of your new and wonderful partner. And the whole time you’re pushing yourself into new habits and streams of consciousness, your partner is doing the same thing. Both of you slightly shifting away from who you are and what you’d known to become better versions of your past selves. Newer versions that remember to put the seat down and never put the empty milk carton back in the fridge. You are a person who now tries to understand when before you were stubborn. You now forgive when before you would sleep on the couch. And so we are. We are better than everyone that came before. There could be a “however” here, some sort of afterthought that explains we’re only better until…but you told me you’re an optimist.

[kanekisbitch]

Sometimes fate is like a small sandstorm that keeps changing directions.

Kafka on the shore by Haruki Murakami (via harukimurakami)

[fifidunks]

You're one of the most sex positive people I know and it makes me a little jealous. I respect you for it. My entire young adult life was based around sexual repression and it's carried over certain mental blocks into my adulthood. Would you please teach me how to be more sexually open?

Do you know me or of me? Even I believe I only know of me. I have ideas of myself, but those are always changing, depending on my mood and company, what I’m working on, how high the sun is, and so on. One idea I have of myself that’s relatively continuous, yes, is that I am sex positive. Sex—good sex, open sex—is something I decided I wanted to value quite young. From your question, I’d say that it’s something you value too, or want to, which amounts to the same thing: wanting. 

I don’t know enough of you or your blocks to teach you anything, but I can share, and maybe that can help you teach yourself? This’s actually something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately, and thinking about attempting as my next, much-belated Adult column: erotic autodidacticism. 

I’ve had to teach myself to be sexual. I wanted to be sexual before I wanted sexually. Why I came to not want sexually, still wanting to want, but not, I’ll write soon. But briefly, now, for you: I was anorgasmic until nineteen, not for not trying—for trying too hard, actually; for making a trial out of pleasure, instead of playing, letting go. It’s taken years of practice in letting go, in toying around (often w/ toys), to get to where I am now, which is sexually very happy. I recently discovered I can squirt! I have upwards of five orgasms every time I fuck my love. I’ve had beautiful lovers, and plan on having more, as I can’t fathom my sexuality in monogamy… Ten years ago, hearing someone say all this would’ve crushed me. But if I could’ve somehow heard it from someone I understood to be like me, someone who also once didn’t know how to touch herself and was terrified-frigid that she’d be a lousy lay—I think that would’ve made a difference. 

If I could time travel back to anxious anorgasmic teenage me I’d tell her to, first, chill, then to read Betty Dodson (Sex for One); play with a vibrator (don’t cheap out: get a good one); smoke more marijuana; write your fantasies; read Kathy Acker interviews; peruse Internet porn; kiss everybody (great, low risk gauge of sexual chemistry); listen to Dan Savage; read Sex at Dawn; talk to people you trust; don’t trust Sex and the City; don’t repress your weird turn ons; study your anxiety (where did these stories come from?); try MDMA. I eventually did all that, and it helped, but you’ll know you better than I—these are just suggestions, and dated ones (everyone now knows better than to trust SATC, right?). 

I too used to feel jealous of other girls for their apparent sexual freedom. But then I learned that people often aren’t as they seem. And that all of my jealousies are born from insecurities. Focus on what’s going on in you. Why were you repressed as a young adult? How is that manifesting now? Were there times when you felt sex positive? In childhood? Adulthood? What was going on there? What turns you on? What turns you off? If you ever wanna talk, you can always e-mail me at fad.duncan (at) gmail.com. I, clearly, love to talk about this stuff.

[lesamants-blog]

YES. Let go of ego. <3

[fullpraxisnow]

I am more and more convinced that true revolutionaries must perceive the revolution, because of its creative and liberating nature, as an act of love. For me, the revolution, which is not possible without a theory of revolution — and therefore of science — is not irreconcilable with love. On the contrary: the revolution is made by people to achieve their humanization. What, indeed, is the deeper motive which moves individuals to become revolutionaries, but the dehumanization of people? The distortion imposed on the word “love” by the capitalist world cannot prevent the revolution from being essentially loving in character, nor can it prevent the revolutionaries from affirming their love of life. Guevara (while admitting the “risk of seeming ridiculous”) was not afraid to affirm it. “Let me say, with the risk of appearing ridiculous, that the true revolutionary is guided by strong feelings of love. It is impossible to think of an authentic revolutionary without this quality.”

Paulo Freire | Pedagogy of the Oppressed (1968)

The revolutionary—I would guess—is guided by voices of love and by amor fati. I don’t know about love itself. No one does.

(via snpsnpsnp)

[aslowarchive-deactivated2014062]

It’s all too much for one to bear

which is why I’m breaking in two