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"Unfortunately, if you've been made to feel foolish about your feelings, you may have learned to withdraw from people when you're upset. You may brush off others' sympathy by saying the equivalent of "I'm fine." But withdrawing from comfort is very bad for you because you biologically need it. Normal human beings are soothed by touch and emotional connection with other people... A caring person's touch, voice, tone, and proximity have a physically calming effect on us. Open yourself to this whenever you can. Don't give the message that you can handle your distress without any help. Appreciate people who show empathy to you, don't withdraw from them."

From Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson

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Lately I've been thinking that I refuse to spend my energy being angry about my past. It won't change a thing about what happened to me. It's a dead end.

It's time for me to be happy and not give a shit about things that try to bring me down.

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On Emotional Loneliness Part 2

Excerpt from the book: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, Or Self-Involved Parents

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If one or both of your parents weren’t mature enough to give you emotional support, as a child you would have felt the effects of not having it, but you wouldn’t necessarily have known what was wrong.

You might have thought that feeling empty and alone was your own private, strange experience, something that made you different from other people.

As a child, you had no way of knowing that this hollow feeling is a normal, universal response to lacking adequate human companionship.

“Emotional loneliness” is a term that suggests its own cure: being on the receiving end of another person’s sympathetic interest in what you’re feeling.

This type of loneliness isn’t an odd or senseless feeling; it’s the predictable result of growing up without sufficient empathy from others.

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These children will feel the emptiness but won’t know what to call it. They’ll grow up suffering from emotional loneliness, but won’t know what’s wrong. They’ll just feel different from people who seem truly at ease.

mindfulparentingproject

I have been screaming for so many years and you never heard me, so I hope you understand why I can't hear you when you tell me that you care.

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"You wouldn't be who you are without your trauma."

No. Fuck that.

I am who I am because I pulled myself out of the hell I was brought into and decided I was not going to become like the people who hurt me.

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To heal you need to let go of your parent’s opinions. Destroy the inner voice built around them. They’re wrong about so many things, but especially you.

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recordsystem

U ever just feel like u can't fall asleep until some magical unknown requirement is fulfilled so u just end up doom scrolling for hours trying to figure out what it is?

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I hate when you've finally managed to push past the ADHD inertia and started to get a momentum going to get shit accomplished but then one little thing happens or gets in the way and it sends all that forward energy to a crashing halt and you've got to try and get it all started again. Sometimes it's easier to rebound and sometimes it's not, but either way it's annoying as hell.