i'm here, i'm queer, and i want to go home

libby | they/them/zie/hir sideblog for archiving queer art and microlabels that i think are cool | i also make my own queer art sometimes main blog @gumbiedots

[libbyscribbles]

arogender blinkee! just found out about this label and thought it was cool so i wanted to make something for it :)

[motherblackcap]

[ID: a blinkie reading "arogender", with the arogender flag (horizontal stripes of green, blue, purple, pink and white from top to bottom) as the background. /End ID]

[miniflags]

mini flags #03 f2u with or without credit!

flags in order heteroromantic | alloace | aroallo sapphic | achillean | diamoric trixic | enbian | toric

[the-acid-pear]

Big collection of nonbinary and queer blinkies for @joeyyoink ^___^ Went a bit extra with em but hey, why wouldn't I?

Didn't make a plain NB blinkie though bc I'm super sure there's plenty already done, so I went with flag variations I hadn't seen b4 ♥

Hope you enjoy!

originals: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 | all my blinkies | TOS | requests | leave a tip!

[aggressivelyarospec]

@aggressivelyarospec turns 10 years old in 2026, and we want to hear from you!

Next year (2026) marks the tenth anniversary of our blog, a space that was born with the idea of ​​promoting the voices on the aro spectrum. This project has become what it is today thanks to each and every one of you.

We want to celebrate by hearing about your experiences with us over the years, and to do that, we need your help filling out the form below:

#AA 10th Anniversary

Help us celebrate our 10th anniversary with a recap of what we've achieved during this time by answering, in a variety of ways, the question

But that's not all! Some of the submissions we collect will be published in an online zine that we'll share with you all during our anniversary on May 22, 2026.

You have until April 30, 2026 to send your answers, so join us in celebrating a decade with you and this fantastic community!

You'll find some extra details you might want to know about this under the cut, as well as a summary of the questions you'll see in the form to prepare yourselves before replying:

The form will NOT collect your email, so you can participate even if you don't have a Google account.

You'll have to give your consent to be featured in the zine, but even if you don't want to be in it, we'd love to hear from you, so don't let that stop you!

We'll only consider the replies we get through the form, so please, refrain from answering in a reblog or individual post here (Tumblr).

Take as much time as you need to answer each question. We suggest you have your answers ready before clicking on the form so then you can just copy/paste in there and make it easier on yourself.

Don't hesitate to send us your questions if anything is unclear. We'll gladly help in any way we can to make this a pleasant experience for everyone.

*Bonus: Remember! You have until April 30, 2026 to send your answers!

QUESTIONS IN THE FORM

General

Who were you 10 years ago?

When and how did you discover AA?

How has your life changed since then?

Events

AAW and AAS

What was the first year you participated? (for each)

What work are you most proud of? (for each, share the link)

ATT and AMM

What song (that you discovered thanks to ATT) has meant the most to you as an arospec?

What movie, series, etc. (that you discovered thanks to AMM) has meant the most to you as an arospec?

Closing

Sign our yearbook: Write a short message for us. Write as if you were "taking a trip down memory lane" with a longtime friend.

If selected, do you consent to be featured in the zine? (If yes, write the name you'd like to be listed with).

[cheesymation]

I drew more a-spec flags

[read-alert]

There's been a lot of discussion on my dash about the underrepresentation of transfemmes recently, and I don't watch enough TV and movies to contribute to that aspect of the discussion, but I figured now would be as good a time as any to highlight some of my favorite transfemme books!

Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars by Kai Cheng Thom

Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters

Woodworking by Emily St James

Bad Girls by Camila Sosa Villada translated by Kit Maude

Light from Uncommon Stars by Ryka Aoki

Magica Riot by Kara Buchanan

Graphic: The Ojja-Wojja by Magdalene Visaggio and Paulina Ganucheau, Cheer Up: Love and Pompoms by Crystal Frasier and Val Wise, Galaxy: The Prettiest Star by Jadzia Axelrod and Jess Taylor, The Third Person by Emma Grove

Nonfiction: Marsha: The Joy and Defiance of Marsha P Johnson by Tourmaline, Miss Major Speaks: Conversations with a Black Trans Revolutionary by Miss Major Griffin-Gracy and Toshio Meronek, Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love, and So Much More by Janet Mock, A Short History of Trans Misogyny by Jules Gill-Peterson

Poetry: Even This Page is White by Vivek Shraya, Femme in Public by Alok Vaid-Menon, I Hope We Choose Love: A Trans Girl's Notes from the End of the World by Kai Cheng Thom, A Place Called No Homeland by Kai Cheng Thom, and Falling Back in Love with Being Human: Letters to Lost Souls by Kai Cheng Thom

[enbycrip]

[enbycrip]

I’m reposting this with a link to some sources from the OP, btw; I’m sorry for not tagging them, but Tumblr won’t let me and I’m guessing it’s a privacy settings thing.

https://www.academuseducation.co.uk/post/ancient-mesopotamian-transgender-and-non-binary-identities

Ancient Mesopotamian Transgender and Non-Binary Identities - by Morg Daniels

There is evidence of complex gender identities in Ancient Mesopotamia, particularly in the cult of the goddess Inanna and her priests.

[exclusive999]

Lesbians stamps , made by me ! ♡ / ↺ and credit appreciated ^_^ requests open !

[snitforsnat]

part 1 - snail themed pride banners! FREE to use! ko-fi download part 2

[snitforsnat]

part 2 -  snail themed pride banners! FREE to use! ko-fi download part 1

[nebuleeart]

HAPPY PRIDE 2024!!!! 🩷❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜

[Part 1]

thank you everyone for the kind words on last year’s pride post, it means the world 🥺 and thank you to everyone whos given flag suggestions ^^ i’m gonna try taking more throughout june, so if you dont see your flag here or in the 2023 post, feel free to request it in the ol askbox <3 hope yall have a great pride month :D

[shattersaurus]

Pridesaur Pat-aego-titan

Will in my shop soon as a sticker, link in this post ->

Post by @shattersaurus · 30 images

💬 123  🔁 5478  ❤️ 17122 · ShatterHeadShop - Etsy · Hello everybody! I updated my pridesaur list and added some respectable entries for Inte

[the-delta-quadrant]

periodical reminder that defining stellarian as "unaligned" or "neutral-aligned" is an incorrect oversimplication of stellar nonbinary experiences and genders.

here is the wording from the original coining:

a Stellar Nonbinary Person, or Stellarian, would be someone who does not experience strong alignment with either binary gender, or who rejects such alignment

(source)

stellarian basically means any gender alignment that isn't binary. but of course people went and misconstrued it as a lack of alignment - because someone who is neither male nor female (aligned) can only be nothing (aligned) or a neutral alignment - because neutrality is the only other option besides male and female.

stellarian originally included neutral alignments, xenogender alignments, agender alignments, maverique alignments and more.

but over the years it's been watered down so much to just "neutral" or "unaligned" that many people the term was intended for no longer felt like stellarian was the right fit.

spacialian for xenogender-aligned & boötian for agender-aligned are some examples for terms that would fall under the original definition of stellarian.

and with the continuous misdefinition of stellarian and the creation of new terms, i can't help but notice how none of these terms describe me anymore, how a term that was intended for me was taken away (again) and none of the substitutes apply to me.

i'm a maverique and stellarian in its original definition actually is the perfect term for me - i align myself not only with other maveriques but with everyone whose gender is not related to the binary, i have called this "other-aligned" before. these genders and experiences feel at least somewhat similar to mine. however, it is incorrect to call myself neutral-aligned because my alignment is so much broader. it is incorrect to call myself unaligned because i am not without alignment. the other, newer terms are also incorrect because xenogender-aligned, kenochoric-aligned etc. do not tell the full story.

and most importantly, none of these new definitions or new terms include maveriques by name or at least by description. stellarian, with its broadness, did.

now most queer wikis will define stellarian as "neutral-aligned" or "unaligned". at best, they will use a lack of binary alignment synonymously with neutral or lack of alignment, at worst they erase the original definition entirely.

and i'm wondering, will we ever get it back?

can we have stellarian back please? can we have anything at all for once?

[aropride]

alloaro-alloace ally flag :}

[transhaunting]

Amatopunk Masterpost

Amatopunk is a term I coined in 2021, and has gone through a few different editorial additions since then, mostly to accommodate for more diverse groups of people, and discuss more facets of amatonormativity. There's a lot more to add onto since then, so I'm creating a new post to refer to in 2025.

An official page for it can be found on Neocities.

[1] What is amatopunk?

Amatopunk is a subculture and movement dedicated to rejecting amatonormativity in all forms. It disputes the notion that someone has be in, or actively seeking, a relationship in order to be "normal," that the way someone engages in relationships has to fit the amatonormative standard, and that any specific type of love or connection is what inherently makes us whole or fulfilled. It tells you to take a closer look at the way we define love, relationships, and other societal standards, and ask: "why? is this necessary?"

While the movement was first made in mind for those who are a-spec (asexual, aromantic, and other similar spectrums), it is not exclusive to them. In fact, it is not exclusive to any one type of person, community, or experience. It is centered around what you believe and how you view things, not any one specific label or experience. It is closely-tied to the queer community, but you do not need to be queer or lgbtq+ to be amatopunk.

Issues such as marriage rights for polyamorous and disabled people, destigmatizing a-spec identity and experiences, rights for those fighting to get a divorce or contraception, and rejecting notions, stereotypes, and pressure from those trying to force people to fit into amatonormative structures, are some of the different key priorities of amatopunk, though the discussion goes much deeper than these things alone. Amatopunk combines all factors of amatonormativity, and may touch upon other forms of oppression that can often intersect, such as ableism, misogyny, and racism.

Amatopunk is not, and never has been, a movement dedicated to normalize any kind of dangerous relationships, such as predatory, abusive, or incestuous ones. This is non-negotiable.

[2] The Flag & Symbols

The amatopunk flag, posted at the top, was made with inspiration from a variety of different pride flags, but the individual stripes do not represent any one specific community. This is so that it can stay intentionally broad and inclusive as a political and subculture-based label.

As far as symbols go, when the term was created there wasn't one considered specific to it. A variety of symbols have been used, such as the anarchist "A" with a circle around it, and icons of hands clasped together, but none are official, and none have been widely adopted.

More recently, I decided to take a crack at what I thought could be a decent amatopunk symbol. I do not consider it "the" symbol, you can always make or use your own, but I thought it would be nice to contribute one.

These are the full-color versions, taken from the flag itself. There are a variety of alternative versions of these symbols, including a blank one and 2-color one, on the Neocities page.

The symbol was made in mind of many different groups of people. The eclipse represents a general "bond" between things, and how it is not innately romantic or otherwise. This can represent amatopunk and its focus on relationship structures, and could also represent those who are in or desire relationships while still ideologically aligning with amatopunk. The ring around the second image may represent people who orbit "around" this, such as those who participate in different, less socially accepted relationships, either due to discrimination, a different structure such as QPRs and waverships, or anything else. The beams in different colors represent the groups who may be entirely disconnected from this framework, either politically, simply by choice, or due to their identity. It may also represent those in a relationship with more than two people, hence why there is a plurality of them. The two connected lines in the horizontal center can vaguely resemble the "A" symbol mentioned before, with it going across the moon, representing the term's political and ideological nature.

I don't think any symbol can perfectly include every single group that can fit under a term this all-encompassing, but I did my best to include as much variety as possible. As stated before, you do not have to use it, and you can always make your own.

Here is the amatopunk flag with these symbols added onto it:

[3] Further terminology

Amari, or Amarity, refers to an unspecified or "generalized" form of attraction. This can refer to someone who chooses not to distinguish different types of attraction, does not prioritize any one kind of it, or it may refer to those who simply feel a sense of unspecified attraction in some kind of way.

Relationship Anarchy is core component of amatopunk for many; it refers to the belief that relationships should not be bound by set rules, aside from the rules the individuals involved mutually agree upon. It is based on the rejection of the traditional power structure that is the norm in our society.

Affinity is a term that has been used in place of attraction or love among some individuals, as a way to describe having an... affinity for other people, but in a less conventional way.

Amatosonas were created with direct inspiration from voidsonas, which relates to voidpunk. It refers to a depiction of yourself in "an amatopunk way," or as an amatopunk-based persona. This has often been done with plant, floral, or fungal themes, due to how their relationships and general structures work in a unique way, and just because it's cool. But, your amatosona does not need to fit any rules; it can be whatever you want. You also, of course, don't need to have one of these

[unitymogai]

Arospec Sapphic

When one is both Sapphic and on the Aromantic spectrum

This flag was made by vvvampiric on Pinterest!

No Flag ID.

@radiomogai , @io-archival , @accessibilitea

[mxjackparker]

A survey to assess what non sex workers think about sex work!

This survey is for people who have not done sex work themselves, to gauge both your opinions on sex work and how much you know about it! Click here to take it.

Please share to get as much of a range in respondents as possible.

You are encouraged to answer these questions no matter your current level of knowledge or how strongly you hold to your positions. While you might feel compelled to look things up when answering these questions, it's ideal that you respond without doing so - you can always do some research after if these questions spark your interest.

Questions in this survey will also have an additional focus on trans and/or intersex sex workers, because information collected will be used to inform the themes for Transactional Intercourse, an anthology of trans and intersex sex workers' writing. Some parts of the anthology will be aimed at correcting misconceptions and addressing topics which are the most controversial, and to do that we need to have a clear idea of what those are.