I'm too aro for this shit

Infernal Queer, half human and half dead inside /ref | es/ihm | it/fae | genderqueer gremlin, salted for your inconvenience | Unapologetically alloaro. Love may be what makes YOU human, but I'm built differently. | Moonlight aro 🌙 | Radically inclusive, pro all microlabels, neopronouns, xenogenders, etc. | Not gay as in happy, but queer as in fuck "normal", fuck respectability politics and fuck assimilation. "Normal" is a prison and I'm staging a prison break. | Fair warning, I curse a lot and don't tag swearing. | Tumblr learn the meaning of the word "can" challenge. | Also, from now on all anon hate must be submitted in grammatically correct German and address me by the formal you. You will be graded on this assignment.

[pansexual-pied-piper]

Okay let me just pin this for clarity:

Jonny Sims did actually bum a fag off me ma. I did not make that up, it's not a TMA reference, "why is Jonny Sims here OP" bc he bummed a fag that's why

I could have used a different example, I just didn't expect my mother smoking outside a bar with the Jonnyman to be that big of a deal to ppl, it was simply the second thing I thought of and the first one sounded clunky to me

[i-draws-dinosaurs]

I'd just like to call attention to the best photo ever posted on inaturalist

[lesbianhouseplant]

Ah yes, the 3 genders. Male, female, and “what the fuck are you, a cop?”

[saxifraga-x-urbium]

[theokusgallery]

Was I supposed to?

[future-crab]

So I follow N. D. Stevenson (comics writer and animator, most famous for Nimona and She-Ra and the Princesses of Power) and his husband Lee Ostertag (also a comics writer and animator) on Instagram. When I started following them, they were both publicly presenting as women, and then a few years ago N. D. came out as transmasc nonbinary, and then earlier this year Lee also came out as transmasc. Anyway this is all setup to say that Lee had the chance to make the funniest post of all time and he took it:

Absolutely iconic.

[fearoftheminotaur]

I want to throw in that part of the context behind this meme was N.D. talking about how he sometimes gets hatemail for marrying a man as a former lesbian, and how many people seem to think he divorced his wife.

I have not managed to find anyone who thinks that in the wild, but it is so damn funny.

[joshuaballsett]

Give Lilly Wachowski Her 10 Fucking Million Dollars To Make A Movie What The Fuck Is Wrong With You You Stupid Cunts Like Hello She Made The Matrix Are You Dumb? Do You Not Like Good Shit?

[renthony]

I see so many arguments over what is and isn't "good queer representation" that really just boil down to "y'all are actually arguing over matters of taste and genre preference, which is incredibly subjective and personal."

Worldbuilding where being queer is normalized and queerphobia has no impact on the plot? THAT'S FINE. Worldbuilding that includes queerphobia and tackles the effects of it as part of the story? THAT'S ALSO FINE.

Low-stakes queer romcom where the characters are fluffy and cute? THAT'S COOL. Messy queer drama with toxic people who fuck each other over and clash repeatedly? THAT'S ALSO COOL.

Stories that center the characters' queerness, show a trans character's transition, and are about the queerness as much as the rest of the plot? AWESOME. Stories where the characters' queerness isn't treated as a big deal, and have trans characters whose transition happened before the story entirely? ALSO AWESOME.

You may PREFER one thing or another, but it is actually good to have all these things. It's about variety. It's about queer characters being allowed to exist without censorship. It's about queer artists getting to make things without being told we're a "niche issue" or "adult content." It's about having as many goddamn cakes as the bakery can produce.

At the end of the day, I'd prefer a media landscape with fifty pieces of problematic queer representation over a media landscape with one single piece of queer representation that's trying (and usually failing) to be 100% perfect for everything and everyone.

[shirecorn]

THIS is the comic that has been banned

It was flagged as "Eksplicit", shadowbanned, and every reblog turned invisible. The flagging is also unappealable (unless that is an error, thanks tumblr)

Happy Trans Day of Invisibility from your tumblr mods!

Only found out because I tried to reblog with an update from your local trans unicorn siblings!

I cannot even LINK to my old comic without every new post getting deleted.

And yet, we will CONTINUE to exist, and grow, and find each other. We will be visible up to and beyond our own deaths. Because we stand for love. We love ourselves and each other and that just makes us stronger.

[prose-n-scripts]

Transphobia is being signed into law in the UK. Let's fight it together.

I am begging the UK trans community and its allies to attend the rescheduled Mass Lobby at Parliament, now on Wed Sept 9th, 1pm-5pm, organised by Trans Solidarity Alliance.

Mass Lobby for Trans Equality - 9th September 2026

The law around trans equality is fundamentally broken. Government inaction is hanging trans people and organisations out to dry - with a con

The new EHRC Code of Practice pushes trans people out of toilets, hospital wards, and community spaces. It normalises gender policing based on appearance and stereotypes. It became statutory guidance in the UK on August 5th, 2026.

Trans people are now legally their assigned gender at birth and must join gendered spaces accordingly, but if they are perceived as their lived gender, they can also be ejected from those spaces. The guidance says: either break the law, or don’t pass too well.

A mass lobby is where you invite your MP to discuss your concerns with you in-person. Our demands have changed. Ask your MP to:

Write to Ministers and Prime Minister Andy Burnham to say they are profoundly concerned by the rolling back of trans rights, and that they believe that it is time for Parliament to legislate to protect equality for trans people.

Ask parliamentary questions focused on protecting trans people’s rights and defending trans people’s abilities to live safe and dignified lives.

Speak up both inside and outside Parliament in defence of trans people’s rights.

Meet regularly with trans constituents to understand their lived realities. 

Your MP does not have to be an ally, they do not have to respond to your email for you to show up and greencard them (details below the cut.) What matters is that as many people as possible show up.

I cannot stress this enough: Showing up in person matters. It is much more effective than petitions, emails, and letters.

We have already had some wins because we took action. The 2026 EHRC guidance has already rolled back its most harmful elements because of mass campaigning by individuals like us, and groups like The Good Law Project. This summer, 166 MPs signed the Early Day Motion 240 to reject the EHRC Code of Practice, because of our campaigning. That is 1 in 4 MPs.

It is a horrible, stressful time, and I am so sorry if you're trans and live in the UK. But I was at last year's mass lobby and the line for greencarding alone stretched around the back gates. It was a record breaking mass lobby and made us impossible to ignore. Let's do even better this time. Details under the cut:

Worried about what to say? Bring your personal worries about transphobia being signed into law, and trans friends being excluded from public spaces. You are a living person who deserves dignity. Remind your MP of that. On the day, you'll get guidance and brochures from Trans Solidarity Alliance that outlines our demands. This is mine from last year.

Here is an online briefing for lobbyists (10 mins read for essential info, 20 mins for details) Money issues? Trans Solidarity Alliance provides a travel bursary that you can sign up for via the link.

Got a refusal or no response from your MP?  Come anyway! You can request a same-day appointment with your MP through a process called greencarding. They will come and see you if they’re already in Parliament. Even if they don’t, they’re made acutely aware of your cause because you showed up in person. This is my greencard from last year.

Here is the EHRC Code of Practice in full. It's a tough read, but some highlights are:

Organisations can’t provide trans-inclusive, single-sex services, or they risk being sued for discrimination. e.g. domestic violence support for women including trans women, men’s rugby group including trans men (12.68).

Trans people will have nowhere safe to pee. If you’re a trans man, businesses can't allow you to pee in the men's, and you can also be ejected from women’s bathrooms if you’re perceived as a man. Vice versa for trans women. EHRC suggests a ‘third space’ bathroom, which is discriminatory and unworkable for most businesses. (13.130-133)

Sports organisations must exclude trans people from single-sex competitions (13.73).  A women’s only sports competition must exclude trans women because of their biological advantage or face potential lawsuits (13.74), but a trans man who has undergone testosterone treatment can also be excluded based on fairness rules (13.81).

Trans women are stripped of the legal definition of ‘lesbian’, and therefore no longer have legal protections if they’re discriminated against on the basis of sexual orientation. (2.50, 2.92).

Here is the Good Law Project's better explanation of the EHRC Code.

Sign up for the mass lobby and email your MP here, or click the main link above.

If you are not in the UK but want to support the case, please donate to The Good Law Project.

Save the date and book off work!! I will see you there :))

[creekfiend]

gender essentialism is soooo funny bc it's like "this is what women are like" and you're like "I've met women and many of them, if not the majority, have not been like that" and it's like "well women SHOULD be like that" and you're like "why should women be like that" and its like "because that's what women are like"

[animperfectangelsblog]

[myeclecticdream09]

[thou-creature-of-the-deep]

[cubanpercy]

[what-a-catch-donkey-deactivated]

[lotrlocked]

[rinasaurusrex]

[andthosearesmalleragents]

[starlet-girls]

[was-the-grink-there]

[redbeardace]

[this-is-trans-joy]

two things

I feel masc even after getting out of the shower (I haven’t gotten top surgery yet)

And the one time I think someone was asking me if I was a boy or a girl (in a derogatory way) during passing period and my adhd ass couldn’t hear him so I kept asking “what” “dawg speak up” and he and his friends ran off out of embarrassment

I only processed what they were saying afterwards, hearing is weird

This is trans joy!!!

[pansexual-pied-piper]

I'm actually so so tired of seeing people react to examples of blatant arophobia with "omg that's so mean, be nicer to ace people :( aces are valid!!" like you have no idea how tired I am

For 2026 I wish people would just Not do that

[pansexual-pied-piper]

Yes that's the point? Aros get erased so hard that people can say the most vile shit about us and people will defend aces in reply. People won't even let blatant arophobia be about us.

[naturalfirewave]

I got your point you are good. I just get so many people assume that my posts about being aro are also about being aroace where I am very much aroallo. I scream in tags about things that don't need to be said in the post.

[pansexual-pied-piper]

Ah okay I see! I got concerned bc this post has already gotten misread before

[pansexual-pied-piper]

I'm actually so so tired of seeing people react to examples of blatant arophobia with "omg that's so mean, be nicer to ace people :( aces are valid!!" like you have no idea how tired I am

For 2026 I wish people would just Not do that

[pansexual-pied-piper]

There, I colour-coded it, is it clear what I mean now?

[pansexual-pied-piper]

I'm actually so so tired of seeing people react to examples of blatant arophobia with "omg that's so mean, be nicer to ace people :( aces are valid!!" like you have no idea how tired I am

For 2026 I wish people would just Not do that

[pansexual-pied-piper]

Yes that's the point? Aros get erased so hard that people can say the most vile shit about us and people will defend aces in reply. People won't even let blatant arophobia be about us.